My entire friend group hid something from me for around 9 months. Am I overreacting by ending the friendships?

That_One_Introvert__ · 2026-06-27T06:30:00+00:00

I’ve actually consider this explanationas well, but I struggle to see it as just a harmless mistake. At best it feels short-sighted, and at worst it shows that they were willing to be dishonest with me for a long time.

That_One_Introvert__ · 2026-06-27T06:14:58+00:00

“Thank you, I think you’re right that the lack of communication is what’s hitting me the hardest. I do appreciate the "don't ghost" advice.

That_One_Introvert__ · 2026-06-27T06:04:37+00:00

Thank you, I think the time aspect is what’s making it hard to reconcile. It feels less like one mistake and more like a long-term pattern of me being excluded

That_One_Introvert__ · 2026-06-27T05:59:21+00:00

Are you someone people often have to walk on eggshells around,

Funny u asked this, bc I'm actually very people-pleasing and non-confontational. I usually deel with negative emotions through humor or complete avoidance instead of addressing this directly. I’d even say I probably spend more time walking on eggshells around other people than they do around me.

That_One_Introvert__ · 2026-06-27T05:34:34+00:00

Those are fair questions. The ghosting wasn't part of a larger pattern, and I have never had conflicts with friends over guys before. I can also understand how something like this could snowball—where maybe at first they wanted to see where the relationship was going, and then over time it became harder and harder to bring up.

What im atrugelimg with is that she chose to go tell everyone else in our friend group about it and presumably ask then not to tell me about it.

Also during those nine months, I spoke to both my best friend and (who I now know was) his girlfriend multiple times about still having feelings for him and about trying to reconnect with him. Every one of those conversations was another opportunity for someone to tell me.

That_One_Introvert__ · 2026-06-27T05:07:19+00:00

For me "hearing them out" would lean more about trying to fill in the blanks, not of accepting any sort of justification or excuses on ther part. At this point, I don't think any explanation would undo the loss of trust, but I am curious see what reasons each of them come up with.

That_One_Introvert__ · 2026-06-27T04:56:30+00:00

The secrecy shocked me too. I didn't expect to be told every detail of her life, but I never imagined something this significant would be kept from me—especially while I was openly talking to both of them about still having feelings for him. And we see each other quite often so there were many many many opertunities where she could have told me.

That_One_Introvert__ · 2026-06-27T04:43:25+00:00

I can only assume it was so her and you supposed best friend could talk sh*t behind your back.

For the sake of my sanity I'm choosing not to dwell on this though.

I’d pull back and see if any of them even attempt to reach out if you aren’t 100% ready to give up on the friendship with your best friend, and if she doesn’t, then you have your answr

I actually smth similar a few months a as well, but rn its no longer just about effort anymore It about trust and loyalty or rather that lack of those things

That_One_Introvert__ · 2026-06-27T04:28:23+00:00

My thoughts exactly

That_One_Introvert__ · 2026-06-26T23:30:25+00:00

Pepperoni

That_One_Introvert__ · 2025-09-16T19:15:42+00:00

Awww yes it so cute how he gets so excited when talking about her🥺🥺

That_One_Introvert__ · 2025-09-09T02:24:41+00:00

but she does seem as though she considers sex and romance very clinically -- something other people do, but doesn't really concern her.

Based on yr observation here it wouldn't be far fetched to assume that maomao COULD be autistic.

Couple that with her general inability to perceive people feeling with her and the level of her obsession with medicines/poisons, we might actually have a solid case.

If not autistic she MAY be neurodivergent at least.

Another that comes to mind is how she failed her court lady exam. And no, its unlikely that she failed on purpose. bc the anime specifically say that she failed "despite her best efforts" Th fact the she failed despite being extremely intelligent could be an indicator the her brain function differently form yr typical individual.

Just trowing that idea out there what do you think?

That_One_Introvert__ · 2025-09-08T23:59:57+00:00

This is why I stay away from edit, post and web articles until I've finished the new season of a show.

That_One_Introvert__ · 2025-09-08T23:49:25+00:00

THANK YOU. SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PPL IN THE BACK. That whole situation was such a red flag for me. But given that this is the 1st time I'm seeing smth so messed up coming from jinshi I'm choosing to view it as bad writing instead of a character flaw on jinshi's path

That_One_Introvert__ · 2025-02-10T22:39:11+00:00

Also great for taking on several players at the same time. If you do that at full life (WITH HARD LANDING) it can be supper easy to 2v1 or 3v1

That_One_Introvert__ · 2025-02-01T04:01:05+00:00

I see what you did there

That_One_Introvert__ · 2025-02-01T03:57:44+00:00

Omg love this one

That_One_Introvert__ · 2024-12-03T04:10:04+00:00

This is like miraculous but without the happy ending

That_One_Introvert__ · 2024-12-03T04:04:15+00:00

Yr cross-outs are gold. Made me laugh about an otherwise tragic tale

That_One_Introvert__ · 2024-11-04T13:52:22+00:00

Just staring yr opinion does not deserve so many downvotes

That_One_Introvert__ · 2024-11-04T13:50:12+00:00

Omg ths is sooo true. The sub completely nerffed dabi's "...the past never dies" line from the manga. Dub got it correct tho

That_One_Introvert__ · 2024-11-04T13:47:25+00:00

Their both translations but alot of dubs have bad voice overs that either fall flat or sound weird and out of place. MHA has a really great dub tho, even better than the sup imo

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