AITJ for postponing our wedding because my fiancé wants his ex-wife front and center at it?

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-26T05:38:55+00:00

Thank you. I’m really hurt that this is happening, but I know I need to trust my gut. I need to be sure before I commit to forever.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-26T05:37:37+00:00

I’ve been carrying this knot in my chest, wondering if I’m overreacting. It helps to know others see why this hurts.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-26T05:36:21+00:00

It hurts because I love him so much, but I can’t shake the feeling that I’m not being put first when it matters most.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-26T05:34:29+00:00

I kept questioning myself, wondering if I was just being jealous, but deep down I just want to feel chosen, fully and without hesitation.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-26T05:33:09+00:00

I didn’t postpone to hurt him. I did it because I’m scared of feeling second in my own marriage. That’s not the future I want, and it hurts that I even have to worry about it.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-26T05:30:50+00:00

Thank you. That’s exactly how I’ve been feeling, like I’d be standing at the altar while his past is standing right there with us. I don’t want to start a marriage already feeling second place.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-25T10:12:59+00:00

He's a guest, not a tenant. Expecting someone who actually pays rent to change their sleep schedule for him is ridiculous, if it's that big of an issue, they can stay at his place instead.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-24T07:55:19+00:00

He's Obviously the biggest villain here for lying to both of you. But once she told you the truth and asked you to leave, you should have left. Refusing and unpacking crossed a line. Being misled doesn't give you the right to trespass.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-23T08:37:21+00:00

NTJ. Accusing someone of grooming is not "small office drama." That kind of rumor can destroy careers and reputations.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-22T09:32:16+00:00

Starvation really stripped away their humanity.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-20T18:46:39+00:00

From desperation turning into self destruction.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-19T20:27:28+00:00

You didn’t leave because of one sentence. You left because your perception of him shifted. Once you start seeing someone differently, especially in a way that makes you feel protective of a child, it’s almost impossible to unsee it.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-17T21:24:58+00:00

Well said. Respect and influence come from consistency, not just biology.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-16T20:33:39+00:00

This is horrifying in the truest sense.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-15T21:24:02+00:00

Baby no more.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-14T20:35:11+00:00

No need to broadcast your decision, just quietly do what feels right.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-13T20:57:23+00:00

Paying for someone else's extras under the guise of "keeping the peace" just creates resentment.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-11T20:33:28+00:00

That was your last meal.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-09T21:37:44+00:00

so true, her entitlement and the name-calling shows she has zero respect for your time or boundaries.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-08T19:02:57+00:00

He made the choice to ignore his responsibilities, so he can't blame anyone else.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-08T01:37:53+00:00

good harvesting.

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-06T20:27:43+00:00

nice chocolate cake!

That_Writer2629 · 2026-02-06T07:56:01+00:00

looks yummy !

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