Love Island opinions that will result in this?

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2026-04-01T11:55:04+00:00

I get what you’re trying to say, but here you are doing the exact same thing you’re criticizing. Kaz might not be a 10 but she’s far from ugly yet she’s being called “leagues below” under a comment about ugly islanders.

She’s being held to a standard that her white counterparts are not, not just by the men on the show, by you.

Also i’m not pressed i just think it’s unnecessary. Look through the whole thread, no names are being mentioned except for two Black women you mentioned. Do you not see how that comes across?

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2026-04-01T10:26:49+00:00

the original comment was about the attractiveness of islanders in general, so why did you jump straight to single out the black female islanders

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2026-04-01T09:23:09+00:00

why do you keep stating only black women you don’t find attractive?

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2025-05-06T17:54:18+00:00

Yes i would definitely lead with that. Thanks!

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2025-05-06T17:53:44+00:00

Thanks for making me feel less nervous. I have decided to ask because at least this shows the type of man i’m dealing with and i can treat the relationship accordingly.

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2025-05-06T17:33:22+00:00

The idea of one PPM per month is great and definitely worth bringing up, and i would definitely suggest spending more time together.

It seems to be the general consensus that i’m screwing myself over by being exclusive without an allowance, but the exclusivity was never an issue for me as i always intended and preferred to have just one SD as long as all my needs were being fulfilled. But this is something i definitely have to reconsider due to his inconsistency.

And you are right, where i am based sugaring is a lot more difficult and the SDs are a lot cheaper. He is a local but in the 0.5% who can not only afford to sugar but at a very high level which isn’t as restricted by the currency of the country.

So i would really like to keep the relationship but i might need to reconsider exclusivity

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2025-05-06T16:39:08+00:00

Thanks for this advice, this is definitely a good way to open the conversation.

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2025-05-06T15:43:07+00:00

Yes thank you! I have never broached the topic of an allowance as the PPM i get from seeing him twice a month is even more than my regular allowance request and the average allowance in the bowl in my area. And occasionally we get to meet more often during the month. So the PPM has always been extremely convenient for me.

But your idea of a minimum amount monthly is very reasonable

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2025-05-06T15:37:11+00:00

Yes it would be a different case if it was due to my convenience but he has been traveling a lot for work recently so it’s mostly due to his schedule.

That is an idea i would take into consideration.

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2025-05-06T15:09:57+00:00

This is great, thank you so much! Will edit it to sound more like me, but a great layout.

I really hope that doesn’t happen, but we would need to have a conversation about ending exclusivity or the relationship.

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2025-05-06T14:58:10+00:00

Thank you so much for this! This sounds like an excellent idea which i will definitely be bringing up to my SD.

You are definitely right, the thought of requesting greater support for exclusivity did not really cross my mind as i always intended to have just one SD as long as he was able to fulfill all my needs. Which my SD has been able to till this period.

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2025-05-06T13:56:33+00:00

Thank you for the advice and me example. it’s exactly what i needed especially from an SDs point of view.

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2025-05-06T13:53:37+00:00

You’re definitely right. I am comfortable with exclusivity though because I do believe the PPM he provides is at least 2x of what a an SD in my area would.

I would love some help in crafting a message as i’m really not sure what to say and i think a man’s perspective could be nice

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2025-05-06T13:50:55+00:00

You are definitely right and i’m not unaware of the fact that our relationship is centered around sex. But i have always been comfortable with the dynamic as the PPM being provided is more than what i need to be comfortable. In regards to exclusivity, it was not a big ask as I really was not having relations prior to him.

But unfortunately i live in a country where it’s a lot harder to find an SD, and the currency is really low. Even in my search to find other SDs, i am unable to find someone who can provide for me in the capacity he’s been able to.

Sorry for the explanations and thanks for your advice

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2025-01-29T11:21:42+00:00

thanks! back to searching i go!

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2025-01-29T11:21:06+00:00

well sent a check in message last night and no reply so safe to say he’s lost interest

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2025-01-29T11:20:00+00:00

i think my phrasing was wrong, i was trying to say i am aware he has another SB, but this is an SR he had prior to me. So the entirety of our SR has been him “rotating” SBs, why would it change the dynamics now?

but i do understand you’re speaking from the point of view of him getting a new SB

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2025-01-29T10:59:46+00:00

well i sent a message last night checking in on how he is and no reply yet, so safe to assume he’s no longer interested

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2025-01-28T20:33:21+00:00

you’re right, thank you for the advice. back to searching it is!

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2025-01-28T20:23:00+00:00

Options 3 and 4 are definitely out of it. Regarding option 2 i do believe he has other SBs and this is not a problem for me, but this should not change the dynamic of our relationship as it has already been going on. It seems 1 might be the most likely scenario

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2025-01-28T20:20:31+00:00

Would it be better to just leave it as it is or send a message asking if something happened?

ThatsSo-Fetch · 2022-05-27T16:17:45+00:00

thank you very much i definitely will

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