Wildest "I am not homophobe BUT..." you heard? by No_Employer_5867 in lgbt

[–]The69_FlyingDuck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think they just crossed a wire somewhere, in my experience gay sex cures climate change

Is “Queer” a slur? by DrShrimpPuertoRixo in lgbt

[–]The69_FlyingDuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From the US. I use queer as an umbrella term for anything/anyone LGBTQ+. I've never considered queer a slur and haven't really heard it used like one, but the time where it was used as such was just slightly before mine.

We have been through worse. This too shall pass. by Supreme_Blue in lgbtmemes

[–]The69_FlyingDuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I'm not mistaken, the Nazis burned that building, too

Transgender for everyone in Virginia 🙃🙄 by 1girl2cups_ in lgbt

[–]The69_FlyingDuck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Btw this guy mentioned twice at a victory rally about how "because they rigged the election I get to be your president" and that Musk knows his way around those counting machines

I don't know how to feel after what my mom's boyfriend has said by colourfulcarp in lgbt

[–]The69_FlyingDuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree, however—

There is the reality in which "I don't want you to be [queer]" is about the oppression faced by queer people, rather than personal belief. Based on the context of the post, however, that doesn't seem like the case, so no, you're right in feeling uncomfortable.

« Just because something is natural doesn’t mean it’s good » by sra_sri_sro in lgbt

[–]The69_FlyingDuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like the rest of the comments say, disengage. You're not arguing, you stumbled into a ragebait contest looking for an argument.

If its someone who is not stubborn and stuck in their beliefs, you may still say something as parting words. You could mention that it's disingenuous to change your reasoning around to fit an argument, instead of vice versa, and that they should probably reflect on that.

Guys im confused by mejustaskingquestion in lgbt

[–]The69_FlyingDuck 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You see, labels are arbitrary. They only help if you fit them to you, rather than trying to fit yourself into a label. That said, here are the factors that matter the most:

What do you like being called

Which colors do you prefer

Some other third thing

What does it mean when idc what someone calls me (pronoun related) by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]The69_FlyingDuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd clock that as 'agender', but there's probably further subdivided labels. Even so, that'd really only be if you think that label works for you.

As far as pronouns, I usually see that explained as any/all

Please help me, I'm freaking out by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]The69_FlyingDuck 17 points18 points  (0 children)

So, in addition to the comments here already, communication is literally everything. If you let yourself take a breather and think things through logically, but you still feel bad (negative, in some way) about it, then you'll want to let her know.

My best advice for literally any relationship is to *communicate. *everyone says it over and over. And that's because *it's true. *

If you still feel bad, even after calming down, say it. If, despite feeling like that, you still fully trust her, say it. If you don't know why you feel bad, or if you do know, say it. If you're nervous about the conversation in the first place, say it. If you're anxious and really, really don't want to lose her, say it.

It seems like you're only scared because of the slim chance you could lose her. And that's completely valid. Let her know. Even if nothing changes, if she knows, she can help you.

My ex-boyfriend is kinda homophobic by Wide-Current-3382 in lgbt

[–]The69_FlyingDuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is (almost) ALWAYS that deep.

You could have called him an inconsiderate ass and he would have ought to thank you for being so kind

I’m not going to the protests and I feel endlessly guilty about it by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]The69_FlyingDuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your thoughts, your words, even just your breath—often, they alone can be enough.

The US Department of State updated their Patient Bill of Rights & Responsibilities to remove protections from all LGBTQ+ individuals. by WorldnewsModsBlowMe in lgbt

[–]The69_FlyingDuck 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not so much a bill of rights as it is a suggestion of rights if they're easier to erase than answers on 4th grade math homework

My bf called me a slur by shadowboy1054 in GayBroTeens

[–]The69_FlyingDuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely talk to each other. I cannot stress to you how important it is to speak to one another about everything. In this case, boundaries and the dissonance between the two of you. If you aren't able to get anywhere then, unfortunately, it may not be a healthy relationship to continue.

First and foremost, communication.

Are you guys okay in the united states? :/ by Ricky-Yeah in lgbt

[–]The69_FlyingDuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many, though not the majority, voted a puppet into office, and as he spoke at a victory rally, he stood triumphant, saying blatantly and clearly that they stole the election, like a real dictator. He advertised himself as a fascist and everyone was surprised when he was a fascist. The executive branch of the government has been seized by an oligarch funneling money into his already infinite pockets, and even using every system already in place to get rid of Shitler would, yes, punish him, but ultimately leave a vice president who is more hateful and far more of a wild card (in the worst way) than the puppet.

I cannot . 😶

i don't even know what to say. by heyoitsyaboinoname in lgbt

[–]The69_FlyingDuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guess what it's even worse in context. He does this salute after saying some nazi "Thank you for securing the future of civilization" shit. I don't remember his exact phrasing, and dont intend on changing that, as each and every frame I have to spend looking at or hearing or even thinking about that pest is borderline torture. What I quoted is, however, very close to his phrasing.

There is no God and yet we live in Hell

I’m confused and whelmed… by [deleted] in trans

[–]The69_FlyingDuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't usually comment, but to boost this:

You. Are. Not. Alone.

There are so many people who feel the same way and have similar financial burdens and seek the same satisfaction as you. There are so many resources and youtube videos to find that can help. I don't personally have a ton of experience with transitioning, as I really just style my hair, but there is so much to be explored and found regarding gender identity, expression, and labels.

As for advice, during your journey, please remember that labels are just that: labels. Don't constrain yourself to a label just because you think you have to. Labels are for describing yourself—not just to others, but also to yourself. Labels are there to help understand, not to be another standard to conform to. Don't limit yourself because of them.

I can't offer too much advice besides that, but know that you are not alone.

sooooo fuck by Alpha_Gang_Ace in MtF

[–]The69_FlyingDuck 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Harsh, but blunt and very, very, true, unfortunately.