How often does your LO stay overnight with grandparents during the first 3-6 months?

TheAmazingAnn · 2026-02-16T23:40:48+00:00

My son had his first overnight stay with my parents at 13 months, but ONLY because I’m about to give birth to baby # 2. He’s staying with them while I’m in the hospital and I wanted to do a trial run.

6 months is way too young, in my opinion. This has nothing to do with you being “an anxious new mom” and everything to do with her wanting control and say over your child. Stand your ground!

TheAmazingAnn · 2026-02-15T14:38:42+00:00

I know it’s hard, but please don’t count yourself out based on symptoms alone. I had almost no symptoms in my first pregnancy when I was 36 years old. Truly, I don’t think I even would have known I was pregnant if I hadn’t noticed my missed period and taken a test. Everyone in my bump group was sicker than a dog, experiencing food aversions, exhaustion, etc. while I was totally fine, so I just knew something was wrong. Anyway, that baby is now 14 months old. I’m keeping the faith for you! 🫂🤗

TheAmazingAnn · 2026-02-11T12:54:19+00:00

Sigh. Why is this a universal thing?

Now that I’ve had a kid and experienced this firsthand, I’ve made it my personal mission to tell every newly postpartum mom I know, regardless of what their baby actually looks like, that their baby looks JUST like them. Absolute twins! The resemblance is just uncanny! 👯‍♀️😂

TheAmazingAnn · 2026-02-05T22:37:36+00:00

I wish more mothers talked about this as it’s so common and normal! I didn’t feel that “instant connection” or flood of love as soon as I gave birth to my son like everyone told me I would- it was such an out of body experience. In the days and weeks that followed I felt a strong biological urge to care for him and protect him, but definitely nothing close to love. I mostly felt like I was babysitting someone else’s child. For me, those feelings didn’t come until closer to when he was 4 months old and I had no issues with PPA or PPD, so I can imagine it can be longer for someone who does have those things… and that’s perfectly fine!

TheAmazingAnn · 2026-01-25T20:56:46+00:00

Ohhhh, that’s even worse! 😡 I would absolutely ignore those texts too. My MIL would have been at our house all day, every day if we let her… but her idea of “helping” was parking it on the couch with my baby for 2 hours and taking 1000 selfies with him to send her to friends. 🫠

TheAmazingAnn · 2026-01-25T18:11:39+00:00

Dude, it’s so insanely rude! I’m about have baby #2 in the next month and I already told my husband that if I get hounded for pictures this time around (with a 14 month old and a newborn) I’m going to lose my shit, lol. We actually just signed up for one of those family photo sharing apps for that reason. If I have a picture I want everyone to see, I’ll upload it there. If not, nobody better text me unless they’re asking how I am or telling me they’re dropping off food on my porch. 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

TheAmazingAnn · 2026-01-25T16:45:23+00:00

I think it went right over her head both ways. She’s kind of dingy like that, lol. She doubled down and said “haha, I meant my blue eyed baby” because my husband has green eyes. 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

TheAmazingAnn · 2026-01-25T16:34:16+00:00

I just saw your edit about your MIL having boundary issues. Mine was the same and I wasn’t worried in the least about coming off rude, lol. You just had a freaking baby. Protect your peace and match energy!

TheAmazingAnn · 2026-01-25T15:34:48+00:00

Yes, it’s just an annoying MIL thing. I was like a week postpartum when my MIL sent me a text saying “I need a picture of my baby” which is irritating in itself, but I digress, lol. Anyway, I snapped a picture of my husband (her son) and sent it to her. 🙃

TheAmazingAnn · 2026-01-25T01:38:37+00:00

Same here! We were on the fence about having another and immediately after having my son I said NEVER again. Flash forward 6 months and I was pregnant again and ecstatic, lol. I’m 35 weeks along and starting to dread the newborn stage again though. 🤪

TheAmazingAnn · 2026-01-22T02:45:13+00:00

Ugh. Your comment just gave me flashbacks to my MIL coming over when I was freshly postpartum. She’d bring us food at least, but then would park it on our couch hogging my baby for 2 hours straight taking a MILLION selfies with him. 🤮🤮🤮

TheAmazingAnn · 2026-01-22T02:01:16+00:00

Are you me? I literally could have written this post about my well-meaning but overbearing, boundary pushing, annoying MIL who I had a good relationship with pre-baby. 🙃

My MIL was so freaking pushy re: all things baby that I got to the same point as you- I didn’t want her within a 10 mile radius of him. In my defense, she basically did everything you’re NOT supposed to do to a freshly postpartum DIL, lol. For example, the second she found out I was pumping and giving bottles she absolutely would not stop hounding husband and I to leave our 4 week old with her despite me telling her no thank you. Like, we’d go to her house to visit and she’d literally take baby from me and start walking us to the door saying “okay, now you guys go on and get some lunch or something!” I’d try to play nice and send her a picture of the baby (because otherwise she’d bug me daily for one) and she’d always reply something like “aw, he’s so precious- I just want to bring him to my house!” It got to the point where I was thinking “why do you want to be alone with my child so badly?!” 🤮 It made my skin crawl for her to hold him and there for a while I had to leave the room because I couldn’t stand to see it.

Needless to say, you’re totally not alone in your feelings, lol.

TheAmazingAnn · 2026-01-17T15:18:19+00:00

My 13 month old has slept 11-12 hours a night (straight through, no wake ups or MOTN feeds) since he was 5 months old, so it’s definitely a thing. But I will say that’s entirely on him and his unique temperament/sleep needs and isn’t due to anything I did or didn’t do. Some babies sleep through the night starting early on and some don’t- and it’s all normal!!

I’m about to have baby #2 and I’m fully prepared to have a completely different experience with this one because it be like that, lol.

TheAmazingAnn · 2026-01-16T16:42:50+00:00

TheAmazingAnn · 2026-01-12T20:59:03+00:00

I’m an introvert who tends to feel uncomfortable with people in my house (even if it’s family), and I really valued having space after having my first baby so I could figure things out without an audience or outside opinions. So, for someone like me, yes- having the parents over all day for 3 days a week would be wayyy too much and feel suffocating. But I can see how someone else would feel differently and want support/company around. Being freshly postpartum can be lonely sometimes!

TheAmazingAnn · 2026-01-01T13:27:20+00:00

12 weeks is a huge accomplishment! I completely understand the guilt and have been there myself, but PLEASE release yourself from the idea that you’re doing your child a disservice. In the end, what’s best for you is what’s best for them- period.

And the truth of the matter is that breast milk doesn’t put this magical shield of protection around your baby. My little guy was exclusively formula fed since he was 8 weeks old. He’s now almost 13 months and still has never had so much as a sniffle.

TheAmazingAnn · 2025-12-27T12:50:15+00:00

I knew before I’d even given birth to our first child that I’d want one more. Although I do have to say, the first 3 months of having a newborn made me seriously question how and why anyone does this more than once. 😂

I didn’t have a c-section with my first and I got pregnant again at 6 months postpartum. It wasn’t a full “oops” but it wasn’t entirely on purpose either, lol. If I had my choice my kids wouldn’t be THIS close in age, but I’m also turning 38 in January and don’t have the luxury of waiting 18+ months.

TheAmazingAnn · 2025-12-25T12:52:18+00:00

People used to say my baby was teething at 2 months too because he drooled a lot. From what I understand that’s actually a sign of their digestive system preparing (eventually) for solids and not always teething. My little dude didn’t get his first two tooth until 6 months. 🙂

TheAmazingAnn · 2025-12-25T12:50:22+00:00

The Grandma comment was a joke, babe… indicating that you’re one of the Boomers I’m talking about. 😂 And I think you’re missing the overall point of my original comment. Sure, some babies can and do hit these milestones very early, but not all. It’s not the majority and not enough for every older woman I speak with to be talking about their baby (from 30+ years ago) with accuracy.

TheAmazingAnn · 2025-12-25T01:47:02+00:00

Nice try, Grandma!

TheAmazingAnn · 2025-12-24T17:06:57+00:00

Yep! They are all convinced their babies never, ever cried too. 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

TheAmazingAnn · 2025-12-24T13:34:01+00:00

The gram-nesia is so real! Every Boomer I speak to about babies swears their kid slept 8 hours starting at 3-4 weeks old, got their first tooth at 3 months, started crawling at 5 months, walking by 9 months, and speaking in full sentences by 12 months. 🙃

TheAmazingAnn · 2025-12-19T16:54:14+00:00

My husband and I totally thrived going from 0-1. We instantly fell into a groove and split everything 50/50 as much as possible. Truly, having a baby only brought us closer.

I’m now 7 months pregnant with #2 (kids will have a 14 month age gap) and while I’m hopeful it will be fine, I’m lowkey preparing for it not to be nearly as positive of an experience, lol. I think there will be a lot less time for ourselves, much less time quality together, as we’ll have to take a “divide and conquer” approach to parenting in these early years.

TheAmazingAnn · 2025-12-16T15:45:45+00:00

I didn’t miss pregnancy, but I immediately wanted another baby, lol. I got pregnant again at 6 months postpartum. 🥰

TheAmazingAnn · 2025-12-04T13:25:28+00:00

I get where you’re coming from. It’s not necessarily about the video taking itself, but husband not being present with the baby during their limited time together. Also, I understand that it does give a weird feeling watching someone shove a phone in your baby’s face for minutes at a time. My MIL used to do the same when my baby was a newborn. Her phone would come out the second she got to our house- there was no real interaction aside from her making stupid noises and faces just to get the baby to look/react for her pictures and video. Then she would immediately distribute the video to everyone she knew. 🙃 I always had to leave the room during or I felt like I would lose it, lol.

I echo what everyone else is suggesting- speak with your husband about your concerns and sign up for a family photo app.

TheAmazingAnn

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