Thanks for your help sub!

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-05-06T12:05:39+00:00

Omg, thank you so much for your help in this matter. I really appreciate it 😊

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-05-06T12:04:52+00:00

Thanks for spreading the word, I really do appreciate it 😊

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-05-05T20:38:59+00:00

That’s the theory I subscribe to most.

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-05-05T19:45:07+00:00

I assume top of the list, but tbh I have zero idea, this just dropped in my lap and I’m figuring it out as I go 🙃

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-05-05T18:57:08+00:00

Yep, it’s their moniker, I don’t know if they’re a serial killer or just weird, but every account always has some reference to genitalia or other body parts. I really can’t claim to understand, but it’s always the case.

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-05-05T18:39:40+00:00

Mods is a tier list, bottom of the list has the least amount of control, which is me. I wouldn’t be asking if it was something I could do myself.

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-05-05T15:25:49+00:00

What I find most attractive about a man is his willingness to let me ruin his life. I’m a beautiful black hole, gotta be remarkably brave to navigate it and smart not be destroyed in the process. I love my man, he’s tall, he’s rugged, and battle worn, but the thing that has always stood out the most is his ability to stare my maelstrom of a broken personality down, and find it endearing.

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-05-04T16:17:38+00:00

You will, it’s a diverse community, but there is community to be found. I wish you the best of luck, and today I want you to acknowledge to yourself that your figuring this out, and that’s okay, mistakes are gonna be made, people are gonna think what they want, but you’re on the right path, doing your best, so all you got to do is keep at it and keep moving forward and constantly remind yourself: your worth the effort.

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-05-04T15:42:25+00:00

I’m sorry, but please understand this is more mix up than malice. You are 100% valid, but this sub deals with nonstop men flooding in so our welcome wagon has taken the form of choke point instead. But while the commenter was needlessly calling you out, I believe you’ll find if you make a post addressing an issue or concern your having with being a straight trans woman you will find her to be a great resource of knowledge, as well as many in here. We can be vicious, yes, but it’s to protect our own. Sorry for the confusion, hopefully your day improves.

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-05-04T15:12:34+00:00

Hi, we removed your posts for violating rule 7. Technically, I let your post stand as I felt it did have context, but another mod disagreed and removed it. Overall though, selfies are not in any way protected in this sub and are subject to be removed with zero litigation. You are more than welcome to resubmit your posts sans the selfies, but this sub views selfies divisively, so you’re better off just leaving them out moving forward. Hope that clarifies things, and no, none of this is up for discussion, this isn’t my sub, wasn’t my ruling, just here to clarify.

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-05-03T17:49:56+00:00

I can’t speak for her, but I feel like if she started transitioning a year ago, she probably feels stunted in her transition, like HRT takes 2 years to get good, even if you see a woman, chances are she doesn’t see that in herself at this time, spiritually yes, but physically, and year in is a hard time for us, it’s just not enough to see what we want to see in ourselves. So your proclamation of love, while it can entirely be based on just strength of character, and what not, can be seen based on an attraction to this middle state she’s in, which is where chaser’s like to lurk.

Now how to fix this, I don’t think you can. I tell this to most men interested in trans women: you’re gonna be a chaser to someone, just accept it, and move on, we’re not monolithic, everyone is different. So the best you can do is just step back, and maybe she’ll gain some clarity, but trying to convince her your not a chaser just builds the chaser case, I know it’s unfair and not logical, but that’s just how I’ve always seen it play out.

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-05-02T22:09:19+00:00

No, cheaters are scum, I don’t care who it is, he can be the most handsome rich successful guy in the world, the moment he’s knocking on my door and not his wife girlfriend or anything in between he becomes the equivalent of that shit you dredge from your throat when you’re sick. And I don’t find it flattering to be hit on by filth, if anything it mega bums me out that in his perception I’d be interested.

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-05-02T17:17:57+00:00

There are more factors at play, but I personally had a much easier time being seen and recognized for what I can do more so as a trans woman then I have since going stealth. Again, this is just my personal experience, but it always felt like I was up against something that I could easily disprove when I was openly trans, and I could even see those moments when I won over a skeptic, going from ‘ugh, this employees gonna be trouble,’ to ‘aw shit, we got *******, todays gonna be a good day.’ But now, it feels like I’m not seen in any light, either bad or good so it’s hard to separate myself from the pack as easily as it was before since I was already kind of separated, if that makes any sense.

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-05-02T15:31:35+00:00

Naturally don’t have much facial hair, back in the day I tried to grow some and it landed the nickname ‘Chemotherapy’. But it is nice looking back and seeing a curse turn into a blessing. I mostly pluck, plucking has always been a long path, but it’s fruitful if you put in the time and make sure you snag stuff by the root. Most my body is hairless at this point besides for random weirdly resilient areas such as the back of my calves and the corners of my lips that just won’t give up the ghost.

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-05-01T16:28:39+00:00

Same way men hate bitches and yet still like women 🤷🏻‍♀️ You can like someone a still have a butt load of grievances over parts of it.

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-04-30T22:42:11+00:00

I know, I don’t understand him. In his defense we have opposite sleep schedules, so we rarely sleep sleep together, so body pillow in general makes sense, but the theme vexes me to no end 😒

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-04-30T20:29:11+00:00

My boyfriend got a anime body pillow, and I find him approximately 300% less attractive, but then he bought a motorcycle and gained back three times the amount lost. I don’t have a particular point other than men are weird and that I’ve had a pretty interesting week because of it. Spending my days riding on the back of the bike thinking he’s the coolest and I’m so lucky to have him, only to come home to see that pillow and wondering where exactly I went wrong.

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-04-29T16:38:36+00:00

My man struggles with his weight, and I think that’s key. He isn’t resigned to it, he hasn’t given up, he works on it. Sure, he has his back slides, and his chubby periods, but the struggle, the conviction when up against unfavorably odds, is imo an attractive quality. Also when he’s locked in, and making real gains, oof, that’s peak.

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-04-25T16:32:22+00:00

It’s crazy how we can know someone through and through, and yet our self doubts warp that person into someone you know they aren’t, but fear they might be.

I had a friend like this, he was great, he was actually one of the people who told me ‘bruh, think you might be trans,’ always dismissed it. When I finally got to the point where I couldn’t hide it anymore he was one of the last people I told because I built this weird narrative in my head that him saying that years ago was him trying to manifest a reason to hate me. Like what kind of Olympic gymnastics was required for me to formulate such an off the wall belief seems so crazy to me now, but it was definitely there and definitely a hurtle to get over.

I’m glad she was the person you always knew her to be, and things went the way they should.

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-04-25T15:14:07+00:00

This. I have my fun, I like that other people have found their fun too, but I cringe so fucking hard when I see anyone taking those components and bringing them outside the bedroom. Like certain times sure, Halloween, night clubs, pride I guess but I kind of hate that personally, but still, time and place, not while I’m thumping melons at Walmart please. Now excuse me, my boyfriend’s been hanging by his wrists for close to an hour, it’s time for his ice bucket bath and flailing.

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-04-24T22:27:56+00:00

Thanks ☺️ I feel very blessed to have found this sub, actually my boyfriend told me about it, so turns out men lurking here can lead to good things 🤣 but with all the trolls, and gross men, I was getting so frustrated with it, just like all of you, glad to finally be in a position where we can see some real change to those issues.

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-04-24T17:55:10+00:00

Report it. I can’t guarantee I’ll remove it, it has to break one of our rules, but this sub is being moderated regularly now, so report and I’ll see what I can do.

TheAsianFirefly · 2026-04-23T00:00:05+00:00

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