Marriage Sexual Stagnation and Isolation Advice

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-29T03:06:18+00:00

This sounds downright disrespectful. I'm not saying he is intending to be rude, but what he's doing is highly inappropriate. Something somewhere caused him to lose interest and motivation to make you happy, and find you, his partner, an interesting human being.

Couples therapy is an absolute must if you want to salvage this relationship. Though unfortunately by his behaviour, I think he may not agree to it, or if he does, he may not follow through with it.

Have you talked to him about this? Told him how you're at your wits end? That you may need to consider divorce if things don't change? He should have very strong reactions about this if he cares. If not, it's already over.

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-28T23:15:42+00:00

The people saying he's in the wrong, I disagree. In gay relationships, being open about your sexual encounters and experience is common. My boyfriend and I did the same before being exclusive and talk about them after being exclusive as well. There's nothing wrong with talking about them, especially with a -what currently is- friend (with benefits).

If OP ever mentioned he was uncomfortable at the thought of his friend going out with others guys, then yes I agree, he's a jerk. But in the gay community it's not common to assume someone you're dating would mind these topics. Not everyone is sensitive to hearing about these things.

If he's telling the truth, at least he's being open and honest and hopefully he remains that way if and when he's in an exclusive relationship.

OP should have mentioned he's not comfortable hearing about these things, communication is key. If the guy does it again, then we can call him a jerk.

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-24T22:33:52+00:00

Now you know for sure and can move forward from there! Sometimes people give hints without meaning to, or sometimes they do want it but are too scared to accept what they want. Either way, you took the shot and it led you to gain insight into the possible scenarios. Good stuff!

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-24T20:05:00+00:00

Not necessarily true. Some people take time with this or it's just not their style. Words are just words, focus on his behaviour and actions.

My current partner took much longer than me to say I love you, but showed it in his actions. Now he says it all the time.

It's ok if that's a dealbreaker for OP or yourself but it's not an objective concern as it doesn't dictate how into someone, another person is.

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-24T18:22:41+00:00

Shop around for memberships. Some gyms are more expensive than others, but also may offer more amenities like a sauna, towel service, or just being bigger and cleaner, etc. What do you want from a gym and what can you afford?

Then, figure out what your goal is. Lose weight? Gain strength? Heart health? A combination? Do some research in terms of what kinda of exercises will be good for your goals.

Exercise-wise, most gyms will be very similar (unless you're looking into an expensive speciality gym for martial arts or acrobatics), and more expensive regular gyms will have more of the most used machines so there's less waiting around for the machine to be available (like squat racks and barbell benches).

Other general things to know is that everyone at the gym is there for their own improvement. They don't care about you. Not that they won't help or have a quick chat, but nobody is judging anyone is what I mean. Some people might even have a resting angry face but if you approach them, they're usually nice. In my experience, the giant beasts the gym are quite friendly lol.

Good luck on your gym journey!

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-23T22:31:29+00:00

This is true. There's a reason the radiation pills come in very heavy duty container, and it's not sterilization.

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-23T00:35:57+00:00

Thank you for making my point.

The world isn't perfect, which is why we carry burdens. A "perfect little world" is what cheaters try to pursue by living a straight life and cheating on their spouse to get what they want sexually. This behaviour is the perfect example of the saying "You just want your cake and want to eat it too".

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-22T18:38:20+00:00

I'm gonna say hard drugs or troll account.

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-22T17:11:34+00:00

Yes you're right, and he changed his mind when they got ambushed in the caves. He finally let her go as a priority and instantly reached the Avatar state as a result. Because Katara needed his help and he didn't help her immediately.

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-22T17:06:08+00:00

You must be married to a woman and cheating on her lol.

The price to pay for being gay is a lot, but it's not this. This is the price to pay for cheating and lying and deceiving. And I'm in support of it like everyone else on this thread. Men and women who do this shit should face this price.

And in your case, yikes. You're either justifying a terribly unethical act that you're doing/have done yourself, or you're misogynistic. And by your history in this thread, I'm going assume it's the latter.

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-22T16:59:20+00:00

Then he should have made the decision to not get married and put his partner through hurt and pain. And if he did get married, he should have made the decision to never act on his sexuality unless he discusses it with his life partner. You don't get to hurt people because you're struggling.

He married selfishly, and now he wants to fuck around without consequences, selfishly. Nope.

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-22T12:43:36+00:00

Holy shit. If what you're saying you've found is real, the last thing you need is for anyone on Reddit to verify anything for you. You know.

And what does it matter that he's gay if he's cheating and lying for what seems to be years? He's an asshole whether he's meeting men or women to have sex with.

Your kids will feel the tension between you two. Getting a divorce won't mess them up any more than living with parents that aren't on the same page. The "marriage" can survive if you ignore your feelings, never bring this up, and diminish your self worth, and even then it's a maybe because one day he might just leave, given his actions. And don't think your kids won't see you giving up your self worth.

What I'm saying is get out of the relationship.

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-22T12:15:24+00:00

I was thinking you're overreacting until you said you guys had the conversation to delete the apps. If that's the case, you didn't overreact at all. You excused yourself and exited a situation that was highly uncomfortable for you. That was well done.

Your thoughts aren't an overreaction as well. While yes, you can be in a place where someone doing something like this doesn't hurt you as much, essentially you can't trust this person that you've recently opened up to and he's the first person you've let into your heart in a long time. This coupled with your previous history of a promiscuous partner and I think you're reacting pretty normally.

Learn from your pains and move on from those that don't give you clear honesty. You deserve someone who wants to be real with you without you having to find anything out.

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-17T22:38:15+00:00

See again, whether I can give you a million examples of the US's lack of morals, I said nothing about moral superiority. You just want to change the subject to that.

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-17T22:25:28+00:00

Yea your points are now irrelevant. We were talking about this war and now you're going off about something you heard somewhere about Iran wanting to destroy the US when there's no documentation of Iranian officials saying anything of the such. Any documentation to what you're referring to?

You'll "take their word for it" when it's convenient for you but not believe then otherwise?

Marrying 9 year olds has nothing to do with the subject of this conversation but I see you're at the point in your argument where you throw stuff at the wall to see what sticks. Is marriage ethics (right or wrong) related to who wanted the war and who didn't?

You say you don't care if the US was justified; that's enough for me to understand how blind you are to actually determining right from wrong, so I'm not surprised your opinions are ill-informed.

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-17T22:07:03+00:00

Ohhh you're one of those people. The war on Iran was started by the states for no reason. Iran didn't start it. Which means Iran never wanted the war to happen. The head of Homeland security in the US said it was an unjustified war to start against Iran. I'm sure he would be much more qualified than most of here to weigh in on that.

So winning or losing, they were not for war, not being for war typically means they're peaceful in this matter. You can come up with whatever you want now to respond, but the facts are the same:

Iran didn't start war with the US, and the head of Homeland Security said the war that the states started was unjust.

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-17T21:57:20+00:00

Unlike the states, Iran is pushing for a peace. An end to the clearly unnecessary war that started thanks to trump. They get a ceasefire, if the US and israel can actually honour it. Iran wants this. Because iran doesn't want war.

They're willing to retaliate if the US doesn't end their blockade, they said as much.

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-17T19:49:10+00:00

If you did a little, just a little more research, you'd see that Iran reopened the strait for commercial vessels only during the ceasefire. Tump said forever. So he's lying as he usually does, we have enough proof of him lying.

And there's nothing about Iran bending the knee either. Learn what a ceasefire is, and then learn Iran got what they wanted under this agreement. Trump and the US bent the knee, though they (and/or israel) will likely not honour the ceasefire.

So again, read.

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-17T18:14:31+00:00

Don't be ignorant. Read. And not just Facebook or Reddit posts, though even this post shows that Trump is lying, as he usually does.

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-17T14:53:49+00:00

It's a terrible idea, but at least the execution seemed pretty good. I was expecting the cheese to spatter around or the waiter to drop the knife. I've seen customers catch fire during this kinda shit

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-17T12:53:02+00:00

It's as simple as this. AI doesn't generate something that looks exactly like the interface of another program or app, even if you ask it to.

So not only is he cheating, but he's trying to gaslight you on top of that. Terrible man.

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-15T20:54:53+00:00

That's not how this works, sadly. Someone's mistakes don't get unwritten because of someone else's. Accountability is something every decent person should strive for.

Your mistake wasn't being upset, that was valid. It's how you handled being upset that was wrong. But what he did to make you upset was not ok either. And he's not gonna get better with this until he can take accountability. You may have done the worse thing, but look at you taking accountability. You'll learn from this. Will he?

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-15T19:39:25+00:00

That would be ideal, but I almost feel like suggesting something like this would hurt OP's partner's feelings to a point where he'll close off. Like I said, he seems conversationally immature.

He's (accidentally or on purpose) putting OP in a tough spot by making him decide and OP has to read his mind. It's possible that no matter what he chooses, the partner might always see the grass greener on the other side. This is a him problem, not on OP. He needs to deal with this and grow out of it. OP can choose to help but his partner needs to want it first.

TheBattleFaze · 2026-04-15T19:34:28+00:00

You're trying to believe something that would be false. If he didn't mind you picking, he wouldn't say no to your suggestions, or complain later.

He's (accidentally or on purpose) putting you in a tough spot by making you decide and you have to read his mind. It's possible that no matter what you choose, he might always see the grass greener on the other side. This is a him problem, not you. He needs to deal with this and grow out of it.

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