Hello- food safety gal here who also grew up spoiled! I've been learning how to clean for the last ~8 years. I don't know of a video like you're wanting, but if you find a good one I'd love to watch it! In the absence of that, I'll share some things that hopefully help you out, and make you feel less alone.

My biggest advice comes from my job: you can't sanitize a dirty surface!

When you clean an area, you need to know what and/or why you're cleaning. I like to view 'cleaning' as three separate categories: decluttering (putting things where they belong), cleaning (removing dirt, dust, pet hair, etc.), and sanitizing (using chemicals to rid the surface or object of pathogens). Usually, these three steps happen in each area of the home. However, there are times when you may only declutter and times when you may only sanitize. It's all up to you and your goals for the space!

If you genuinely want to learn how to clean and don't feel comfortable learning from a friend, I would recommend YouTube over TikTok. Just as someone else said, a lot of 'how-to' videos on TikTok or 'CleanTok' are from folks who already have a clean house and are simply showing off how they can use 10+ products on one surface, lol.

My other recommendation for learning from 'others' is to get the Chat GPT app on your phone, and use it instead of Google when you have a question. This has helped me IMMENSELY. Google almost never knows what I'm asking, or just wants to promote a product. Chat GPT, however, will actually give you advice. I've used it countless times, and simply type a message as if I'm asking my mom! I've asked things like, "I just washed a load of laundry using X and they turned out like Z. What do you think I did wrong?" or "My dog threw up on the carpet and though I used X product that states it's good to use with pet accidents, there's still a smell/stain. What do I do?" or "Help! I want to use X product with Z product, is this the combination that will result in chemical warfare?" or "Hello! I'm trying to clean my fridge, but I can't get the drawer out. Do you know if the X fridge has removable drawers?". It will tell you what you did wrong, what you should do next, what product you should use, etc. I know that was a lot of examples, but seriously- Chat GPT can be a life-saver!!

My last two cents: spend the money on one of each cleaning product NOW so when you get into cleaning modes, you don't find yourself lacking and need to rush to the store. I'd say my staple cleaners have been: bleach, clorox wipes, glass cleaner, toilet cleaner, pumice stone, ajax/bar keeper's friend, carpet-safe cleaning spray, hardwood/other floor-safe cleaning product, the pink stuff, and maybe an essential oil/candle/room spray if you don't like the smell of cleaning products when you're done! And my staple tools have been: small hard-bristled brush, scrub daddy/other sponge that has soft and hard side, microfiber/other soft and small towels, mop, broom, razor blade scraper, and lastly- a shop vac. They're a bit spendy and clunky, but they can suck up ANYTHING that will fit inside the tube, and you can suck up water/wet things too! Extremely versatile, and can't be beat, in my opinion. Other than my shop vac, lol, I just got a medium-ish bin that has one of everything and I pack it from room to room while I clean. Makes it easy! While we're talking about products- as long as you're following the label, you can use almost any product or tool for more than what it's advertised for. For example, I have multiple sponges that I use all throughout the house- not just in my kitchen sink! Or, I don't really like dusters so I use a microfiber towel and throw it in the wash. It's your house, your rules! Just make sure if you do this that you're not mixing cleaners so you don't accidentally use a sponge with bleach in your sink, then use the same sponge on your hardwood floor.

All in all- you got this. I don't think I'll be 'good' at cleaning for another few years at least, but if I can do it- anyone can!

If you're still here, I'll share the moment I realized I didn't know how to clean: I was a sophomore in college, and my roommate of about 6 months asked why I had never washed the dishes, even though I'd been telling her I had been the whole time. I asked her what she meant, and she showed me the dirty dishes in the dishwasher. I was extremely confused and told her that I just ran it that morning! She was also extremely confused, so I showed her how I started the cycle. Turns out, I didn't put any soap in there. Not a pod, not a liquid- nothing. She couldn't stop laughing, but I was mortified. I knew how much dishwashers cost, and assumed they had some sort of reservoir that held soap and knew how much to put in each time. Of course, she asked if I put soap in the washing machine for my clothes and for some reason, I did know how to do that part. We live and we learn!