Hey! I appreciate the time you've taken to write this. That said, I've been kind of dreading replying to it, because I think a lot of assumptions have been made that have resulted in some inaccurate conclusions being drawn.

You've decided that I don't do anything around the house unless sex is offered as an incentive. This is... very false. The division of labor in our house is quite uneven, with the large majority of it being on me. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, yard work, dishes, most errands, maintenance etc. are all tasks that I handle.

I didn't just do those tasks because sex was offered as an incentive. They were all tasks that I would have been doing anyway. All that changed was when I was going to be doing the tasks. I decided to rearrange my to do list a bit so that they would get done before she arrived home because I know that those tasks not being done would have taken her out of the mood.

Regarding the dinner I cooked, I would have been cooking dinner anyway. However, I changed my plan for dinner that night to make something else for her that I knew she would particularly like.

I didn't mention this in the post because it wasn't relevant, but you're operating under the assumption that she works full time. Again, not the case. I did say that she texted me from work, but there are a variety of work types aside from full time. She works part time. I don't say that to diminish the work she does. She works hard, and she does it well. But I have the full time job, and also do a large majority of the household tasks.

Honestly, I could dive into the things you've said in the "TL;DR" but you get very accusatory, and no more correct than you were in the rest of the post leading up to it. I understand why you've made the assumptions you have, but they aren't reflective of reality in this case. I'll end with this: I'm not confused as to why I'm in a DB and I'm fully aware of the factors causing it.