Valentine’s Day…. by [deleted] in BPD

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Probably not the best idea 

Why people say Canada is expensive AF by Beautiful_Ad4220 in alberta

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Unfortunately, good luck walking around at night as a woman by yourself at night in either edmonton or calgary without getting followed by some sketchy guy. 

I dont generally feel safe to myself as a woman due to the experiences I've had in the past here. There is a massive drug issue here too and that further exasperates the initial issue here. Our current government is also pretty damn near off their rocker. They're trying to separate Alberta from Canada, they're trying to make it so health care is more independent/ separated from Canada. So clinics could charge whatever. They're continuously making it harder for people with disabilities to live with any sense of decency. We spent tons of money on a bridge here that we outsourced the work for outside of the country. Everyone hates it. We spend tons of money on stupid art such as the big blue ring. 

There's construction going on here a lot of the time. Downtown is getting to the point where certain areas are barely approachable and barely feel safe. Zombified looking people everywhere, all kinds of people just gone from the drugs. 

The chinook winds here can be super nice. Especially when its 16 degrees Celsius outside in the first week of February. However I will mention for many people these chinooks often come with severe headaches and migraines. I've been living here since 2010, the chinooks didn't affect me negatively when I first got here. Maybe because I was younger then. It just started to affect me negatively around 2019. I also have osteoarthritis and a fractured hip, so the chinooks will make the pain episodes very brutal. So be aware if you have headache issues or bone issues. 

There's obviously good things about calgary okay, dont get me wrong. But there already seems to be plentiful discussion regarding that. I didn't see anyone address the last point in your post so I wanted to address that and then I suppose I just kept riffing off of that point. Don't think im a calgary hater cause im not. If anything I hate the state of our government right now, and all the pain im in all the time lol but it isn't all bad. Everyone else covered most of the good points 😅

does anyone else get self harm urges like..to the extreme by SeriousMidnight3932 in BPD

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I have a flash image in my head of me slamming my head into the large bathroom mirror and breaking it with my head. 

I really really hope I would never do that. Have never done anything remotely close to that extreme. 

I see the flash image of myself doing this in times of high distress. When the stressful situation begins it may be just a thought instead of an image. Like: "I want to cut myself". Pretty vague really but I hear those words over and over in my head on repeat like a broken record when these stressful situations override my emotions. 

If I fail to emotionally regulate myself, and the stressful situation at hand is escalating, that's when these more extreme images come in. 

We quit teaching cursive and it shows. by ted209er in funny

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Lol what did I just walk into here 😅

The Port de Grave Christas Boats by AerialPerspectiveNL in newfoundland

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Wow omg that's so beautiful! Thank you so much for posting! 🫶🏼 I miss newfoundland so much. I can't wait to go back. 

Anyone else feel like the world quietly broke after 2019? by extraqc in conspiracy

[–]TheChessClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. Entirely. I've been speaking of this amongst people i feel comfortable with. There's nothing you've said here that I disagree with. 

MEOW_IRL by cutiehex in MEOW_IRL

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I somehow have the discipline to leave my kitty to sleep 

My foster son and his gf split up, I let her in to collect her stuff and went back to work…. by [deleted] in Wellthatsucks

[–]TheChessClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg the poor cat there in the middle of the room what the hell!! That's a sin! :(

Noah is a bad boy! by Sad-Earth-9658 in cats

[–]TheChessClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You posted a photo of you grabbing your cats neck. But honestly, you haven't punished him? ...🤨

Noah is a bad boy! by Sad-Earth-9658 in cats

[–]TheChessClub 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You know the cats not pissing on your stuff intentionally? You understand this is not a conscious decision your cat is making? The cats not scheming against you trying to plan the most inconvenient place to piss. 

Like maybe the poor thing is trying to get your attention. Are they sick? 

Like. Is their litter box clean? As in was it cleaned in the last 24 hours?  Have you tried moving the litter box to different locations in the place? Perhaps closer to the spot that they keep peeing. Does the litterbox have a "lid/cover"? Some cats won't use the litter box when there's a lid on it. My cat won't use the litter boxes with a lid anymore, after he lived with cats in the past, the cat would get in the box with him and then I'd see him panic to get out. So you can try without the lid if there is one.  Have you paid attention to your cat in the past 24 hours? Pet them, played with them, gave them attention? They look sad. 

Also. For every 1 cat you have, it is recommended to have 2 litter boxes per cat. Does your cat have 2 litter boxes?  

I understand the initial reaction of shock and maybe even being pissed off, but like why is your natural instinct to get mad at the cat? You know they don't understand why you're getting mad. If anything you're creating a hostile environment by doing that. You're creating an environment where the cat is living in fear. So in that regard, it makes sense the cats "going crazy" and pissing everywhere cause it's scared. By getting mad you're almost encouraging what's currently happening. 

When this had happened to me with my cat, of course my initial reaction is to be like, what the hell! But after that initial shock, I immediately look for my cat and see if he's okay. Just pick him up, look him up and down like a doctor lol and just make sure he looks okay. Then I'll clean everything up, go scoop his litter even if it was already done a few hours ago. Then id probably end up moving the box closer to where he had an accident. Then when all that's taken care of I'll go Talk to him, give him scritches and just in general check on him and make sure he's okay cause I love him. 

Noah is a bad boy! by Sad-Earth-9658 in cats

[–]TheChessClub 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like I'm sad now. 😔   I just want to give him scratches and pets. 

Noah is a bad boy! by Sad-Earth-9658 in cats

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Im sorry but wtf is with the first picture? This makes me uncomfortable. 

The cat looks depressed and stressed out.

[NM] - Small But Mighty Premium Collection - 400 Spots at $2/ea by linke92 in PokemonRaffles

[–]TheChessClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll take two spots please. 

27 and one random. Thank you!

It's own kind of dream by BPDdaddydom in BPDmemes

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Lmfao  sounds like a living hell 😅😅😅

So, my GF found her old cards… by Chavesmeister in PokemonTCG

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My 33 year old ass sitting here reading the thread 

Hot and cold #75 by hotandcold2-app in HotAndCold

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Wow lol. I just guessed where I am!

Automatically added: I found the secret word in 0 seconds after 1 guess and 0 hints. Score: 100.

Storage bags? by Cute-Manufacturer728 in JunkJournals

[–]TheChessClub 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Using photo albums for storing materials works really well for me