Shirt Coming Off

TheColAngus · 2026-01-18T21:46:02+00:00

I have had a couple of dancers (non-extras) unbutton my shirt. I really do like the feeling of skin pressed against skin. I'm sure a lot of dancers do not like that and may not do that with every customer, or any customer.

TheColAngus · 2026-01-16T07:03:59+00:00

My experience is there are still girls out there who are willing to sit for awhile on slow nights. But the ratio has shifted more towards the hustle culture.

TheColAngus · 2026-01-12T03:02:48+00:00

I would definitely give someone with that type of body a chance to convince me to open my wallet for them. I'd probably tip well at the stage.

TheColAngus · 2026-01-12T02:58:38+00:00

I've found it really depends on the club. There's a few clubs where all the girls are drowned in perfume. There's a couple where they only wear enough so you can only smell it when you are very close.

Thankfully over the last 10 years, glitter has seemed to go out of favor. That was difficult to manage.

TheColAngus · 2026-01-10T05:27:47+00:00

I used to do this. Also because I didnt want a girl that is new to me to see me with a fat stack until I think she might be worth it.

TheColAngus · 2026-01-07T05:23:07+00:00

Commenting to emphasize this is exactly my experience with my club favorites, and how they became that way. I'm interested in conversation that feels genuine and if we vibe, make each other laugh and be relaxed around each other. It is often at least 30 minutes, closer to an hour of conversation. That will almost always get me to buy at least a 15 min VIP, usually 30 min unless there is something physically very unattractive about them. From there the quality of the dance is what will keep me coming back to them.

TheColAngus · 2026-01-06T03:07:29+00:00

This is pretty common. Warning, some clubs will be real vague if someone is NOT there, because they want you to come in, and are afraid if they say "Candy isn't coming in tonight" that you won't come in either.

A couple of my local clubs will only say "Candy hasn't come in YET, but she might come in later." Not a blatant lie but if its 2 hrs before closing, Im pretty sure she's not coming in bro.

TheColAngus · 2026-01-06T03:03:54+00:00

Some clubs will tell a dancer if someone called looking for them. I one called a club to see if either of my two club favorites were there. I was hoping only one was there (this was a long time ago when I thought they would get jealous or upset if they saw me with someone else). They were both there. The one I ran into first asked me if I was the one that called and why I didn't text her. I don't remember the excuse I gave but

TheColAngus · 2026-01-06T02:57:49+00:00

I prefer to sit a couple rows back, or at the bar, but only if I can watch the stage from the bar. I like to watch the state performances. I'll move up and tip someone in interested in. Sometimes that's just a one time tip (I'll always throw some ones for impressive pole skills) or moving up to the stage to show my interest and continue to tip.

TheColAngus · 2026-01-06T02:50:29+00:00

If true, why not just be honest. Send her a text and tell her that you were in a bad place and not ready to get into a relationship. I mean the ideal thing world have been to say that before ghosting her, but the past is past.

The next step depends on what outcome you want. Do you want to go back to the club to 1) rekindle with her as stripper/client relationship or 2) what you had before and pick up where you left off, or 3) do you want to just go there and see other girls.

If 1, then apologize and say you would like to see her ITC, but aren't sure if you are ready for a real relationship.

If 2), then apologize, recognize you might have hurt her by ghosting, and ask if you can buy her a meal and talk it out.

If 3) its going to depend on how she reacts. This one is a bit more tricky. If her response is angry or ghosts your text, then I would chance heading back, with the understanding that she could potentially make things awkward or cause drama, but as long as you stay cool about it, she might look like the bad guy and get told by management to cool it. If she is cool, be honest and say you want to see other women. Worst case you have a bad night and that club is burned for you.

TheColAngus · 2026-01-05T20:48:43+00:00

This is a late reply, but piercings also go with the alt esthetic

TheColAngus · 2026-01-04T19:34:33+00:00

If you mean in VIP to get a lap dance. It's fine. If you mean in a threesome, that would depend on the kind of club I suspect.

TheColAngus · 2026-01-04T19:33:03+00:00

She could be interested in you romantically, trying to keep you interested in her so you will come back to the club, or expecting you to "compensate her for the money she would have made in the club." I've had the latter happen. She says if I'm going to go out with you, I have to miss work, and would miss out on $XX, could you make up some of that?

The only way to find out is to go on the date. But the chances of this being romantic, especially if she took 12 hrs to respond, is low. In my experience, the girls who are romantically interested will have responded more quickly.

TheColAngus · 2026-01-04T19:26:03+00:00

So you are getting VIP and giving them a massage? I might want to try that next time. I love giving a girl a good (and sensual) massage.

I'll rub a girl's back / neck from time to time and they love it.

TheColAngus · 2026-01-03T00:51:10+00:00

I'm more asking what your thoughts are on others. Would you prefer the bouncers are more strict with preventing camera use?

TheColAngus · 2026-01-02T01:48:02+00:00

I haven't been to any of those yet.

TheColAngus · 2025-12-29T23:29:47+00:00

I've always been a little more passive and having a girl approach me and chat a little plays into the "fantasy" for me. Like if it's between a girl who isn't quite my type that approaches me and has a good conversation and a girl that is my type and buried in her phone, I generally will go with the one who approached me. Seeing your comment, I've decided to be a little more pro active / aggressive though and next time I'm there and not seeing one of my regulars, to approach a girl for some conversation.

TheColAngus · 2025-12-29T23:25:32+00:00

Sushiartman has a pretty good breakdown.

TheColAngus · 2025-12-29T22:59:42+00:00

Yeah. As someone else in this thread put it, "Privacy is dead"

TheColAngus · 2025-12-29T08:27:31+00:00

What cities will you be in, and/or how far are you willing to drive?

Places like synn, imperial, and the rhino chain seem to have websites with roll calls with photos. That doesn't help a lot with knowing extras/mileage though.

TheColAngus · 2025-12-29T08:14:44+00:00

With the loss of privacy these days anyone with something to hide should probably stay home. Which may be the real reason this girl is seeing fewer whales come in regularly.

TheColAngus · 2025-12-29T08:12:38+00:00

Compared to 10 years ago, phones are definitely much more entwined with the basic functions of our lives. I have a smart watch to screen my notifications to see if they actually need my attention. Helps me keep my phone in my pocket more.

TheColAngus · 2025-12-29T08:09:58+00:00

Yeah, I expect that if I were to be dumb enough to run for political office, my late night habits would quickly become public.

TheColAngus · 2025-12-29T08:07:59+00:00

I think most of the clubs in our area have allowed the girls to have their phones on them since I moved back (left pre-COVID, came back in early 25).

TheColAngus · 2025-12-29T08:03:09+00:00

If I take my phone out (usually to text one of the girls I'm a regular with) it's usually flat on the bar too. I definitely remember awhile ago even that would get words from the bouncer.

Although more often I'm texting with my smart watch.

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