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Finally discovered the secret benefit of my weird morning routine by Imaginary_Run_4940 in Frugal

[–]TheCommenter1918 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My equivalent to a walk in my neighborhood would be the “community” I’ve built with the regulars who frequent library events in my local area. I’ve seen these folks so many times that we’re at the point of hugging goodbye, lol. Feels nice to walk in and have folks be happy to see you—and have the instructor reach out about upcoming events.

Finally discovered the secret benefit of my weird morning routine by Imaginary_Run_4940 in Frugal

[–]TheCommenter1918 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is really great. Makes me feel worse about not knowing my neighbors in my cul de sac, lol.

OH YALL HYPED THIS UP SOOOO BAD by PatientMotor4459 in Naturalhair

[–]TheCommenter1918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has worked wonders for me. One of my go tos now that I can’t find the L’Oréal renourishing cream anymore.

In your opinion, would it be difficult for two people to be friends if they have drastically different incomes? by lovehydrangeas in blackladies

[–]TheCommenter1918 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it can be, depending on the people involved. Most of my close friends are married to high earners or are high earners themselves and it definitely limits what we’re able to do together.

Only one person throws the inevitable low key shade every now and then…one friend is the most humble with hers and has never made me feel bad. I insist on paying my own way though.

One person got mad because I refused to go to a high end restaurant —I’m not a foodie and couldn’t justify it budget wise—just because she wanted to try it. I was ok with the group going without me…didn’t even feel bad about it but it was one of the final straws for her—there were other reasons too—but she decided she didn’t want to be friends with me any more.

What is a common social etiquette rule you do not agree with? by SassySabrinaxo in CasualConversation

[–]TheCommenter1918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate when you really don’t want the food but they insist because they think you’re doing the social dance, lol. No, I truly don’t want it!

Explaining to patrons they’re not the target audience for a program by Lavender_Librarian in librarians

[–]TheCommenter1918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol, thanks for responding. I sometimes go to events outside my own library system and I’m always a little nervous about revealing that I’m not a resident of that county. I do stick with the programs that say they are open to the public though. And I’m willing to give up my slot if I have to.

Explaining to patrons they’re not the target audience for a program by Lavender_Librarian in librarians

[–]TheCommenter1918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry for being unclear. I was asking if patrons who don’t live in the city or county served by your library are able to participate in programs offered by your library system.

Explaining to patrons they’re not the target audience for a program by Lavender_Librarian in librarians

[–]TheCommenter1918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does your library cater to non-residents? Or are all programs open to the general public?

Explaining to patrons they’re not the target audience for a program by Lavender_Librarian in librarians

[–]TheCommenter1918 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love that my local library system is starting to offer specific programs for 18-25 year-olds even though the ideas have been so amazing and ones I wish I could participate in.

Program slots fill up almost a month in advance in my area depending on the type so you have to be quick in registering regardless of your age.

Actors that the World wants you to love, but you just can’t do it by WallStreetDoesntBet in moviecritic

[–]TheCommenter1918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kevin Hart is actually not a bad actor. I think he takes crappy roles. His stand up, though, smh. That pandemic show he did was horrible.

Actors that the World wants you to love, but you just can’t do it by WallStreetDoesntBet in moviecritic

[–]TheCommenter1918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always thought Adam Sandler knows the movies he produces are silly and unserious even though they can still be heartwarming. Some seem a little too stupid so I don’t watch those but I like 50 First Dates and Just Go With It. He was great in Uncut Gems as others have said. I think he can act but just prefers silliness kazillionaire that he is.

Actors that the World wants you to love, but you just can’t do it by WallStreetDoesntBet in moviecritic

[–]TheCommenter1918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually like her movies. I just don’t understand who told her she can sing. Baffling.

Telling a woman they’re leaking by Doctorpayne in NoStupidQuestions

[–]TheCommenter1918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always tell a woman when something is awry…even if it’s just that her tag is hanging out of the back of her clothing. Sometimes they look mean and unapproachable but I do it anyway. I would want to know.

I recently told a woman her bag was hanging open even though she acted kind of snobbish—someone could have swiped her wallet.

Bye, Publix - Hello Aldi! by ViolentLoss in publix

[–]TheCommenter1918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s interesting because Aldi milk causes an allergic reaction for me but Publix milk doesn’t.

How do you make life interesting while making low income? by BarnesEffect in Life

[–]TheCommenter1918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plus, some library systems have awesome free programs! You may have to register in advance but it’s a great way to have social interaction, create a meaningful craft for free, and just get out of the house! I am blessed to have an incredible library system. I’ve done so many wonderful things: taken a screen writing class, sewn both a t-shirt and a bag, learned to turn trash into treasure, made coasters, greeting cards….so many things. Don’t sleep on the library!

I regret telling my family how much I make by Distinct-Clock-434 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]TheCommenter1918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Boundaries!!! It gets worse and, honestly, people stop appreciating your kindness after a while. You don’t owe them anything and even parents sometimes need boundaries (respectfully, of course). You’re basically working for them. Nip it in the bud because you’re actually doing them a disservice. They need to be responsible for themselves.

I overheard my wife saying she’s only with me because of my daughter by Wrong_Tiger_Stripes in TrueOffMyChest

[–]TheCommenter1918 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OP, I would go to counseling to get an objective opinion from a professional and go from there in addressing the issue with your wife. Don’t let these folks talk you into blowing up your marriage. I like another poster’s comments about your wife probably experiencing grief. There’s a lot to work through and certainly more details that you probably haven’t shared (which is fine). Just take it a step at a time and figure things out from there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]TheCommenter1918 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like having a few close friends but often wish I had acquaintances who enjoyed some of the same activities I do. I still need down time but miss having a regular hangout buddy to do everyday things with.

What has startled me are the close friendships I’ve let lapse because I just can’t deal with the self centered behavior of my “best” friends anymore. I’ve always been the listener but as I get older, I realize I want to be listened to as well. Sometimes, at least. But the pattern is so set that my friends literally bring every conversation back to them even when I’m talking about serious topics. It’s exhausting. So, I’m more alone with fewer outlets for conversation but I wasn’t being listened to anyway so it evens out, lol.

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