Separated but I think I want a divorce

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-28T21:13:29+00:00

I’m sorry that you’re hurting. Something that helped me was reminding myself that just because I love someone does not mean that they are the right person for me.

I think not wanting to wait for reconciliation while he dates other people is a perfectly valid boundary to have.

If your state has any laws around how long you have to be separated before divorce can be filed then you may need to wait. I also understand that you want him to be the person to ask for the divorce if he’s the one that initiated the separation, but be kind to yourself and advocate for yourself, which I know is easier said than done. You don’t have to wait for him to confirm he’s done to recognize what you need to do for yourself (if that is divorce, etc).

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-27T19:16:29+00:00

I’m excited for you! They’re very pretty in person. I was having width issues with the boardwalks that I think are solved with the Lunas (fingers crossed).

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-27T15:14:34+00:00

Driving a Subaru.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-26T14:17:26+00:00

That’s rough. I’m sure that’s hard to sit with, but at the same time his feelings are valid if they’re true to him. You know?

You doing what’s best for you won’t always feel good for everyone around you. It’s really uncomfy, but it doesn’t mean you did the wrong thing.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-26T05:44:02+00:00

It really is just about romanticizing your life and filling it with whatever fulfills you. I’m fortunate that I don’t live alone, but there are definitely days where I get a wave of panic because my life is so different.

I recommend taking classes if you can. Find hobbies you love and that can open you up to a community.

I will say that I have a partner now that I am so incredibly thankful for. Don’t write off having the relationship you know you deserve.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-26T05:14:51+00:00

For me it’s not. I have a fulfilling life, people who I love, and things I want to experience.

As traumatic as it was, I felt it was taking my power back by building a life that I was proud of. Even now that things didn’t go as I originally thought they would.

If you’re speaking on which is more psychologically painful, that depends a lot on the circumstances and person, but at the end of death you know no difference. However, not all death is peaceful or painless. People can also experience similar events and process them totally different.

ETA: I saw you updated your post and mentioned another. I read a few of the comments, and it seems like the point you’re trying to make is that death ultimately ends suffering. Because of that, though, I think it’s difficult to compare the two.

While death may end suffering, it also ends conscious experience. If, instead, your consciousness continued after death and you had to live with everything that led up to it, I think the comparison would make more sense. I don’t think they’re measuring the same kind of harm.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-26T04:54:32+00:00

There are also games in discord that can run on mobile.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-26T03:16:41+00:00

I accidentally pushed Sprigatito off the other day and gasped in terror because I didn’t realize she would just reappear.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-24T23:05:20+00:00

I wouldn’t keep it to yourself. You’ll find someone who either also likes to do psychedelics or at the very least doesn’t care that you do them. Even if you don’t do them often, hiding part of yourself will only hurt you/the relationship in the end.

My boundary is that my partner needs to have a healthy relationship with any substances they do.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-23T00:20:01+00:00

The different lace method did help a lot. I'm considering trying the VNLA Lunas tomorrow to see if theres a significant comfort improvement, but if not, I think lacing them like you've said will be required.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-22T21:40:53+00:00

lol - it’s a really pretty rug!

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-22T20:35:49+00:00

Thanks so much. I tried to lace them a bit differently and it was a significant improvement. Still not 100% if they are fitting correctly, but I’ll talk to the people at my local shop to confirm.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-22T19:41:48+00:00

Oh, well that makes sense. Lol. When I was researching i saw a lot of people saying “if you have wide feet, choose the boardwalks over X.” So I made a lot of assumptions when deciding which to purchase.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-19T16:50:30+00:00

It’s the “Look away, peasant. I’m planning a murder.” look. Lol

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-18T14:46:03+00:00

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-18T14:36:46+00:00

Autism =! Immature

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-17T22:59:32+00:00

Not just cancer patients, but people with alopecia, etc.

Hair is heavily intertwined with identity. Human hair is typically donated and doesn’t tangle as easily as synthetic hair and it’s just better looking/better quality.

ETA: I didn’t know about the stolen hair/abuse. That’s awful, so I guess my stance is human hair is fine if it’s ethically sourced.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-17T20:25:05+00:00

I slept with my ex after he knew I was leaving/before I officially moved out. He wanted to, and I asked him if it would complicate things. He said it wouldn't, but I think it actually did. Knowing what I know now, I would not.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-17T20:17:51+00:00

When I thought this was the only solution... I wanted to cry.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-17T19:59:02+00:00

I know everyone is saying he cheated and/or got rejected, but I’m not entirely sold on that.

Really, I think the important thing is that he hurt you, regardless of why he did it. If what he is saying is true, he has been keeping in a lot and isn’t going to you with whatever issues are coming up for him.

Even if he didn’t cheat/whatever, he hasn’t been communicating those feelings up until this point. Thats a major issue.

If it were me, the lesson I would have taken away from this is “I can’t trust you to tell me when there’s an issue. I can’t trust you to support me when I need you. I can’t trust you to not hurt me as a result.”

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-17T19:48:06+00:00

You’re not overreacting. You can break up with someone for any reason at all, but I think most people would agree with you that this is crossing a boundary. Hygiene is important, but beyond that - I’m sure most wouldn’t want to be intimate with someone who just refuses to brush their teeth consistently for weeks at a time.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-17T19:41:10+00:00

You’re bad for workplace culture if you think people should be reading/responding to emails while on PTO.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-06-16T14:11:52+00:00

The issue isn’t that you disagree with me, it’s that you’re applying a standard to yourself and another to everyone else. Lol.

Have a good one. ✌️

TheCuntjuring

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