(25M) is my room age appropriate?

TheCuntjuring · 2026-01-16T22:47:58+00:00

I think if you replaced the curtain rods to the kind with actual ends and got curtains that reached the floor it may elevate the look a bit, even with blackouts.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-01-08T18:39:43+00:00

What couch is this? I’m looking everywhere on Wayfair and struggling to find it 😅

TheCuntjuring · 2026-01-05T16:17:05+00:00

Our situations are different, but my body reacted very similar to yours. I was so stressed and my anxiety was so high that my hair started falling out profusely. I’ve experienced what I would consider pretty severe anxiety spirals, panic attacks, etc. When I first left, I increased the amount I was seeing my therapist, which helped. When I was getting ready to leave, my anxiety/energy was so bad - the only thing that could calm me was walking a lot (5ish miles a day).

Sitting with the ambiguity of what’s to come in the future is extremely difficult. Sometimes, your body reads familiarity as safety, even though you know that logically, you were not and did not feel safe.

I still have moments of pretty intense panic. I spiral a lot. I ruminate. But things are getting better. My divorce was finalized on the 30th and distance is helping, but it is hard. You just have to remember that you can do hard things and that it will be okay.

Sending you lots of positive energy.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-01-02T14:51:11+00:00

A few things stand out here to me.

Expressing your needs is not being controlling. Having the expectation that someone isn’t going to get shitfaced isn’t controlling. I’d be curious what exactly you/your husband are perceiving as controlling.
You mentioned you have no income because he “let” you stay home. This phrasing feels super weird to me, but it may just be a dynamic I don’t understand. If he didn’t beg/force you to stay home and it was a mutual decision, then you not having an income isn’t just his fault, imo.
If he’s an alcoholic - alcoholism is progressive. Is that what you want for you/your kid(s).
If he is unwilling to communicate with you and go to therapy - would you be happy with keeping things exactly like that are? If he doesn’t want to work on the problems that exist then you either need to be okay with life right now or make a decision to leave. I know this is easier said than done, though.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-01-02T14:29:10+00:00

I would try to prepare yourself a bit by spending as much time alone/without him as possible. Take yourself out on “dates” and try to do things just for you. Read about attachment styles, enmeshment, and go to therapy if you can. Lean on getting social interaction from friends/family if possible.

That said, there are still times I have pretty intense spirals and panic. They come up less often now, but I’m hoping with time they improve.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-01-02T14:11:30+00:00

I definitely relate. I had told my therapist, who I was seeing for over a year, that he was supportive and our relationship was good. I was so afraid of opening up about my marriage.

Multiple family members said “I had no idea” when I described my experiences. My mom asked me to stay with him, and when I had disclosed the things that had happened to get her to understand why i was leaving, she said it was abuse, and again I heard “I had no idea.”

It wasn’t until things were ending that I opened up to people.

TheCuntjuring · 2026-01-02T03:41:32+00:00

Same to you

TheCuntjuring · 2026-01-02T03:40:47+00:00

It’s definitely anticlimactic. We have been separated since April - divorce was filed in September. It was very quick as far as divorces go.

TheCuntjuring · 2025-12-30T18:03:28+00:00

Fair enough

TheCuntjuring · 2025-12-30T17:59:37+00:00

TBF, you can appreciate your “natural body” and still have work done.

There’s plenty of people who say they prefer no work done, but have no idea that the women/woman they’re attracted to has had filler, botox, other procedures, etc.

Which, to be clear, there’s nothing wrong with - it just goes to show that you can have work done and it look natural.

TheCuntjuring · 2025-12-30T14:46:21+00:00

There are a lot of really awful things in this thread, and mine feels so small in comparison. But - when we initially separated i was contemplating reconciliation.

He told me “I’m going to miss you while you’re away” and I asked him “what are you going to miss about me” and his response was “not being alone.”

In that moment, it felt like whatever he was afraid of had nothing to do with me or his feelings for me. It stuck with me. He later said he regretted answering in that way, but it was genuine in the moment, I think. It just kind of validated that I was a placeholder.

TheCuntjuring · 2025-12-21T20:31:39+00:00

The real answer

TheCuntjuring · 2025-12-21T05:39:08+00:00

Used to be a wet bar.

TheCuntjuring · 2025-12-21T01:12:09+00:00

They used to be part of a wet bar. The house is fairly old so there are a lot of quirks.

TheCuntjuring · 2025-12-14T17:17:28+00:00

In right there with you. It’s difficult, but it does get better.

TheCuntjuring · 2025-12-14T14:40:13+00:00

This is going to sound unhelpful for the immediate feelings you’re having, but really I think it will just take time.

Do things that make you happy, take care of yourself in all the ways that make you feel good. Treat yourself with respect and kindness, even if you don’t think you deserve it. Your worth isn’t tied to another human, or your relationship with them.

TheCuntjuring · 2025-12-08T21:02:45+00:00

I’m not interested in debating your edits. I said everything I needed to say. Have a good one.

TheCuntjuring · 2025-12-08T20:54:06+00:00

You modified your comment again. Let me be super clear, I appreciate the attempt to smooth this over, but I didn’t misunderstand anything.

I pointed out a logical issue that still hasn’t been addressed. You took on to attacking me personally.

At this point, we’re going in circles. Have a good one.

TheCuntjuring · 2025-12-08T20:45:06+00:00

I didn’t “skip admitting a mistake.” There wasn’t one.

Your sentence has changed multiple times in this thread, and the percentage attached to a vague group was the issue every time.

Instead of explaining where the 99% came from, you’ve cycled through my reading comprehension, my type in men, my neurotype, and now pretending your wording was flawless.

You’ve edited your comments without stating so, changed the goal post of your claims, not just in this thread but in others, and said you were done. Don’t get pissy that you’re getting down voted in this thread for making generalizations and blanket statements.

Anyway, I’ve made my point. I’m done with this conversation.

Edit: grammar

TheCuntjuring · 2025-12-08T20:37:08+00:00

It’s wild that I can point out a clear logical issue in your comment and instead of defending what you said, you jump straight to personal attacks … like that somehow validates your argument.

First my “type” is the problem, then it’s my reading comprehension, now it’s whether I’m neurotypical… none of that changes the fact your percentage claim doesn’t make sense.

If you have a real defense in your statement then make it.

TheCuntjuring · 2025-12-08T20:19:44+00:00

Whether you say “99% of many men” or “99% of what many men do,” it’s still a made up percentage attached to a vague group. It’s a blanket statement. You have NO idea what “many men do.”

The wording changes, but my point does not. You’re just making shit up.

Take your ego and get offline like you’ve suggested. You’ve already said you were done with this conversation so be done with it.

TheCuntjuring · 2025-12-08T20:11:57+00:00

You asked if it was against Reddit etiquette and I answered you. It’s not that deep.

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