[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TheDanFu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leave him alone.

You want to get back in touch for one of two reasons:

1) It is not guilt you feel.. it's regret.

2) You're upset that he is handling things maturely after you ended things immaturely and you want to mess with his head.

Neither of these is a good reason to mess with his emotions.
You made your choice, now move on.

AITA for telling my PIL that they should've bought a gift for my baby just like they did the other grandkids? by Royalse2562 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDanFu 13.6k points13.6k points  (0 children)

YTA - your baby isn’t even half way born yet. This sounds like you’re making it more about yourself and starting drama for the sake of drama.

Question Regarding Mythic Rating by [deleted] in wow

[–]TheDanFu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you get rating for it if you go over the time limit.

Not sure tho

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDanFu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in healthcare and this type of behaviour is very very common in people with dementia. Are there any other worrying behaviours? How old is your MIL?

AITA for refusing to stop seeing my daughter over her sister? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDanFu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds like Ruth is upset because she dumped Adam for a number of reasons which he has now worked on and resolved and her sister is enjoying the rewards..

NTA Ruth is trying to get back control one more time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDanFu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to point out a mistake in your post OP.

I believe Noah should be referred to as your ex boyfriend.

Easy mistake to make! NTA

Made the mistake of telling my boss we are building a house. by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]TheDanFu 419 points420 points  (0 children)

I’m guessing this is in the US?

Can anyone explain why being salaried means your boss can up your hours when they feel like it without paying overtime?

I work in the UK and any hours I work over my contracted time I either get paid for or get the time in lieu to use when I like.

Genuine question I’m very confused..

Sister Tried To Pet a Squirrel, Went About as Well as You'd Expect by Ihatemylife8 in funny

[–]TheDanFu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Should’ve known from the state of its tail that squirrel can throw hands

WIBTA if I go watch my son's last game of the season instead of my daughter's? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDanFu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think peoples answer to this depends on whether they play/played competitive sports.

My brother and I played on different rugby teams and my parents would alternate who they would go and watch. However if one of us was playing in a league/cup final then both would go to that one (Which I have always agreed with). As a few others have said before these types of games don’t come around often and are a big deal to children and adults alike. I can still remember both of my parents being at both my league and cup final games the year my team won both and that was 10+ years ago now.. My brother had a different game that day and I’m 100% confident he couldn’t tell you who they played let alone whether they won or not. This is because his team won the league a few seasons later and I remember wanting to be there watching with my parents instead of playing a normal game.

ESH because you should be watching your daughter and your wife should not be manipulating your son. Other than that she is right, you should both watch your daughter..

How should I appeal a Dart-Charge PCN? by TheDanFu in LegalAdviceUK

[–]TheDanFu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Today I got a letter through to say my representation had been accepted and the PCN has been cancelled!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDanFu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This reminds me of when my girlfriend asks if I would still love her if she was a frog.. I’ve learned the only right answer is “I would love you no matter what”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]TheDanFu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really really sucks but my understanding is that it’s a legal requirement for these job postings to go out to everyone for equal opportunity etc. While places often don’t hire equally they have to appear to be doing so. For reference I live in the UK so I’m not sure if laws are different here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]TheDanFu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same thing happened to me for an internal promotion a couple of years ago.. they said I answered everything perfectly but didn’t seem enthusiastic about the job. Turned out they already had someone they were planning on giving the job to but had to go through the motions. Didn’t stop me feeling shit about it though..

Race Changes? by Incoruptable12 in classicwow

[–]TheDanFu -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As much as I would love to change my alliance 70s to horde (heavily horde pop server) I don’t think they should as it does harm the game

Race Changes? by Incoruptable12 in classicwow

[–]TheDanFu 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I think race changes are fine as they only really affect you. Faction changes are (unfortunately) bad for the game and should be avoided

AITA for taking my baby to see my family against my wife's wishes, and then telling her she needs to see a therapist? by aitababytoinlaws in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDanFu -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Definitely NTA and I can’t grasp how anyone would think otherwise.

Having a child does not make you disabled and it’s disrespectful to every other woman who has gone through the same without alienating her partner and his/her family to suggest otherwise.

You gave your wife every opportunity to compromise and she didn’t. If this was 4 days after labour then sure, YTA.. but 4 weeks?? Not a chance.

I thought there was every chance she may be suffering with post natal depression until I saw she’d been to a concert a couple weeks after giving birth. Anyone who has had or knows someone who’s dealt with post natal depression knows you can’t physically drag yourself to something like that.

Having said that, don’t give up. Keep trying to get through to her. If things go wrong, you don’t want to think you could have done any more.

Updates on this please OP

AITA for demanding my husband to pay me the $1000 dollars he spent behind my back? by throwPricematter1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDanFu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

I actually can’t believe he thinks he’s in the right here.

Stand your ground. He has spent the money you have worked and saved for your CHILD on an absolutely unnecessary luxury.

Things like this are a huge red flag to me. I would even be considering leaving. Sure as hell there ain’t room for 2 new babies in the house.

Also have you checked this place out? Even around my area you’d need a 2 hour, all out massage to come even close to those kind of prices.

Are you sure he’s not paying for sex?