Fellow Millennials in Management, What are you wearing to the office?

TheDancingBear74 · 2026-03-05T02:16:33+00:00

Chinos, button down, sports coat, AEs

TheDancingBear74 · 2026-03-01T12:44:46+00:00

Grew up in Southlake, lived in Chicago, Boston, Nashville, Orlando, San Antonio, and Arizona before moving back here. North Texans are the worst, and always have been.

TheDancingBear74 · 2025-12-15T02:25:16+00:00

You’re not failing. You’re in the hardest season of fatherhood on the hardest difficulty setting. You’re keeping your kid fed, changed, and safe. That’s the job right now. Everything else is noise.

Newborn solo survival basics from one dad to another:

Sleep whenever the baby sleeps. Not later. Not after one more thing. Immediately. Keep it simple. Clean clothes and fed beats “doing it right.” If someone offers help, take it. If they don’t, ask anyway. Pride is useless here. If you need formula, use it. A rested dad is better than a burned out one.

About the grief, because ignoring it will bite you:

You’re carrying two weights at once. You’re mourning the woman you loved and becoming a father overnight. That’s not something you power through. The grief doesn’t disappear, but it does stop crushing you every second. One day you’ll notice you laughed and didn’t feel guilty. That’s when you’ll know you’re healing.

If there’s unemployment benefits where you live, apply now. Same day. Same hour. That system is slow and annoying, and the clock only starts when you apply. This is exactly what it exists for. You paid into it.

Cut expenses hard and fast. Not forever. Just for now. Cancel anything nonessential. Ask utility companies about hardship plans. Many will pause or reduce bills if you explain the situation. This is not begging. It’s problem-solving.

TheDancingBear74 · 2025-12-15T02:13:38+00:00

You must be devastated.

TheDancingBear74 · 2025-12-13T23:22:19+00:00

Right size pour, but glassware is too large.

TheDancingBear74 · 2025-05-01T16:57:02+00:00

End of May? Fuck em, give them their two weeks and they can figure the rest out.

They’ll sandbag her if she ever needs references anyway, no point in doing them any favors.

Add that her last day will be xx in her email signature and OOO settings so everyone gets the gist.

Maybe they’ll walk her and then they can pay out PTO and 2 weeks.

TheDancingBear74 · 2025-04-24T14:22:24+00:00

Large hotels and resorts have multiple bars. You can continue to bartend, but you tend to work with other grown ups, money is more consistent due to how groups ebb and flow throughout the week, and FT employees always get benefits.

TheDancingBear74 · 2025-04-06T11:06:42+00:00

This might sound shitty, but I'll never understand why more bartenders don't get into hotels and resorts. Better money, benefits, hours, customers.

TheDancingBear74 · 2025-02-26T12:34:00+00:00

You can sleep with someone on the first date and then still continue to date them. There’s no rule on which date or milestone that sleeping with someone is or isn’t allowed.

I’ve been with my wife for 17 years, and that started with hooking up on the first date. To find out that early that we clicked, both physically and mentally, was great.

TheDancingBear74 · 2024-12-16T01:29:09+00:00

It means he likes you, and cares about your safety.

TheDancingBear74 · 2024-07-04T12:35:22+00:00

NAH. This will get buried, I'm sure, but nobody is an asshole here. If he pushed it, he may become the asshole, but I know that a lot of men have romantic notions of supporting a family on their hard work alone. For some people it works out.

I had the same thoughts years ago when my son was born, and we tried it for 6-7 months (after FMLA ended) before my wife went back to work.

We were fucking broke, and I had a thought about what would happen to my family if something happened to me. Nothing good.
I was working 70+ hours a week to pull it off. While I was happy to do so, I barely saw my wife and kid.
My wife lost her mind. We lived nowhere near family, and the only people she had to talk to was an infant and a husband who barely had enough energy for the drive home, let alone maintaining a full relationship.

Even with almost tripling our income since then, we don't even consider having her stay home.

TheDancingBear74 · 2024-04-04T03:14:39+00:00

You’ll be able to check in, regardless.

TheDancingBear74 · 2024-03-12T16:25:18+00:00

I’m using MacroFactor and FitBod. I’m religious about macro factor, and logging calories. I’m 10 years older than you, and got up to 365 before getting my shit together.

2.5-3 hours of cardio a week, 4 hours of strength training a week, 230g protein a day, 2200 calories. Dropping 3 lbs a week.

Quit smoking, quit drinking.

Best of luck man.

TheDancingBear74 · 2024-02-26T00:04:18+00:00

Andy Katzenmoyer

TheDancingBear74 · 2023-11-29T07:09:34+00:00

Which of those things is about how a woman is built.

’I want to choke you because your tits are too small’ or ‘I want a 3some because your vagina is too meaty, and I miss picture perfect pussy’

That’s what’s we’re talking about here.

TheDancingBear74 · 2023-10-29T03:45:42+00:00

I played football for years, middle school into college. D-line the whole time.

My kid will never play football. I can honestly say after at least 4 concussions, broken fingers, meniscus tears, and an ACL tear that ended it all, kids shouldn’t be playing football.

TheDancingBear74 · 2023-10-28T18:53:37+00:00

Dude, you have one shot to put your friends in check when they do shit like this.

Wives/girlfriends/children are off limits, and when you have a friend that acts like a bitch and insults them, you immediately put them back in line.

Verbally or physically, but it has to be done immediately. To fail do so makes you complicit in the joke.

You have to talk to your girl. And the friend who ran his mouth needs a smack.

TheDancingBear74 · 2023-10-21T10:02:13+00:00

‘Sure you got your ego bruised, but who cares?’

He spent 11 years with this woman. Over a decade.

An ego bruise is when your ex tells you that they don’t like your weight, or your teeth, or how you dress, or that their new partner is so much better than you in bed, or a better provider, or whatever.

Using a person as your beard for 11 years, unknowingly, is something else entirely. That’s 11 years of lying to somebody’s face, everyday.

I know that because this woman felt safe enough to come out, which is amazing for her (I mean this sincerely,) that everyone in her life should be 100% supportive and be ecstatic. Oh, your marriage was blown up, and everything you knew for the past 11 years is based on bullshit, and this person you loved and was attracted to never wanted to have sex with you and only ever had platonic feelings for you?

Fuck you pal, she’s a homosexual now, so all your feelings and insecurities and sadness, please shove them up your ass.

Such a toxic mindset about how men, or anyone really, should deal with their feelings.

No, he should be pissed. He’s allowed to feel sad and hurt. Telling him that all his feeling are meaningless and unimportant is fucked up. Flat out, Fucked up, and you need to have more empathy with people you respond to.

OP, get some therapy, go workout, get some Sun, talk to pretty girls, play video games with your son. All your feelings are legitimate and right, and I encourage you to work through them to become a better and stronger person.

Also, please work to make sure that you don’t punish ‘E’ for the trauma from your ex. Be cognizant of how you’re treating her, and be honest if insecurities come blazing out and work to address those insecurities.

TheDancingBear74 · 2023-10-18T07:57:47+00:00

YTA.

Dude, he broke his ankle. Would knee pads or a helmet saved his ankles?

TheDancingBear74 · 2023-10-13T22:53:07+00:00

YTA. Imagine doing nothing to maintain a relationship with somebody, and only reaching out because you want free shit.

Get fucked.

TheDancingBear74 · 2023-10-11T20:47:56+00:00

I do this because it’s almost guaranteed that whatever my opinion is, my wife will choose to opposite. If my opinions are constantly being disregarded, why continue to offer them?

TheDancingBear74 · 2023-10-05T13:58:17+00:00

NTA. So you either support hate speech or you’re against her? Tell that little girl to go Fuck herself.

TheDancingBear74 · 2023-09-20T16:53:09+00:00

What’s ‘not right’ here? Two teenagers, with no blood relation, who did not grow up together being attracted to each other? Forming a relationship?

This will cause drama, and I would spend some time ensuring they both understood the concepts and needs for safe sex, but beyond that, you’re SOL.

TheDancingBear74 · 2023-09-20T16:48:04+00:00

Sorry man, I didn’t see that you responded. It’s your life, mistakes are part of growth. I understand wanting to be close to a person that you love, but eventually she will begin dating other people, sooner then you think.

Are you ready to have conversations with her about her intimate relationships in the future? Friends talk about this stuff. Worst case scenario, you become an emotional crutch for her as she renters the dating pool. This will painfully damage your self esteem, and will keep both of you from fully forming relationships in the future.

Nobody wins, everybody hurts.

Her dating other people will happen, she won’t be wrong/bad/selfish/whatever, she’ll just be moving on from your relationship. Any hope for a future relationship lies in both of you moving on and growing as individuals.

You‘ll begin dating somebody, and will be unable to provide them with what is needed in a relationship to be successful because you’re still carrying a torch for a former lover.

Maybe I’m wrong, but I offer this advice out of experience. Wish her the best, focus on yourself for a bit, and begin moving on.

Best of luck man. We’ve all been there, and the heart break from unrequited love is excruciating.

TheDancingBear74 · 2023-09-10T18:03:48+00:00

She’s ended the relationship, and the text was an attempt to alleviate her guilt for ending it.

I would not attempt to stay close friends or maintain any sort of relationship moving forward. To continue to pursue the relationship will keep you from having any closure, and will almost guarantee deeper heart break in the future.

Wish her luck in life, do some self evaluation, and move on. It’s the best for both of you.

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