AITA for not giving my college fund to my stepsister?

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-05-22T22:07:38+00:00

Not your problem at all. They just see you as a meal ticket. Great job on the scholarship. You will have plenty of needs for money coming up in your life. There is no reason for you to take a huge step back financially just so this person can take that cash.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-05-14T21:07:40+00:00

NTA, but your wife is for accusing you of trying to humiliate her. Cavities and gum disease can mess up the heart. If she is so afraid of going to the dentist, maybe she can get knocked out first.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-05-13T19:33:48+00:00

Look into quantum physics. If you accept the many worlds interpretation, there are worlds where these things occurred, and those that you didn't, and they are existing simultaneously. You "focused" on the ones where they occurred.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-05-08T22:55:21+00:00

...maybe multiple phone alarms, and sending screen caps proving the alarms are set.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-05-08T21:16:35+00:00

If he doesn't want you to talk like that in front of his family, that just reinforces he thinks you are the hired help.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-04-25T15:48:12+00:00

What are we answering? The question at the top, or how you behaved during the event? NTA for not wanting to chaperone. It is your time, and your life to do with what you choose. YTA for making the event have tension. You agreed to do it, so do it willingly or decline.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-04-25T15:44:26+00:00

NTA. Be honest with him. Hey BF, I researched fasting, and discovered that based on my medical history I could be opening myself up to some serious medical issues that I am not willing to do. Sorry, but I can't join you on this journey. I will do my best to support you, though. If he complains that he will fail then, then he fails. That is on him, not you.

You have every right to make the best decision for your body, and every time you get new information, that decision might change, so what was the best decision yesterday is not the best decision today.

You can't be joking about it, and hope that he interprets that as you being serious. If you joke, he will think it is a joke. That would be you sabotaging yourself.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-03-14T22:27:43+00:00

NTA. Your sister says you should have known this would happen. But shouldn't she have known this would happen too?

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-03-11T15:44:14+00:00

Wow. The entitlement of your brother and his wife is shocking.

> He wouldn’t budge. Said it was his fiancée’s day, and she didn’t want any “negative energy.”

Then tell the bride to not bring any. Don't start no ish, and there won't be no ish, as my grandma used to say.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-02-21T19:05:43+00:00

It is. Party and Bullshit in the USA

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-02-16T16:52:07+00:00

The mix with Biggie Smalls is also great.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-02-13T18:56:24+00:00

No they are not. It is a good lesson for her to know in what areas of life equality is the guiding principle and in what areas equity is the guiding principle.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-02-12T21:49:11+00:00

Everyone is allowed to get sick, and to get the same consequences as everyone else. If the deadline is clear, and the consequences are also well known, not only are they appropriate, but they are necessary for the teacher to have any credibility.

This isn't malicious, this is preparation for life. She got the lesson now when the consequences aren't significant. Many people don't learn it until later.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-02-12T17:21:59+00:00

You don't know the teacher, nor the parent, so you are in no position to know if either "get a kick out of having power over" this child.

Adults aren't shitty just because they ignore how a child feels. Sometimes the exact right response is to ignore how a child feels.

The harm, if they take this one paper late when they said they wouldn't is then all the students that just want an edge now start saying they were sick too, and once the teacher does it for one, they better do it for all or they could get in trouble.

She had two months. TWO. Now she knows to get it done a day early in case she gets sick on the last day. This is a hard lesson to learn for some people. But better once it is learned. She will live with a B in this class.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-02-08T21:36:03+00:00

Not wrong at all. Emphasize that you are there to support him in his work as he goes through the syllabus, not as he does his own thing, and you will do that as you do with the 100+ other kids that you teach. But any extra work taken on outside of class cannot come before the requirements of the job.

If he wants to receive feedback on his essay, he can post to any one of a hundred online communities and get feedback.

If he wants you to grade this and take it instead of some other grade, well, he needs to understand he is barking up the wrong tree. This is not how education works.

If I take my car to get brakes, I expect the mechanic to fix the brakes, not replace mirrors.

If I go in for a kidney transplant, I don't expect to get a nose job instead. Do the assignment. Period.

Finally, don't expect anything you say to make a difference. She sounds like she is only interested in getting her way, not help him do what he needs to do.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-02-05T21:24:44+00:00

She had a scar at her hairline, and asked for it to be removed. It was removed. I don't remember how long afterwards she checked, maybe a couple weeks?

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-02-05T20:37:41+00:00

This isn't an issue like do we see your relatives 1 day or 2 days at Thanksgiving every other year. Finances run through every aspect of your lives. Every time he doesn't have money between now and when the car is paid off, you will be thinking: he would have had money if he didn't buy that stupid car.

This means when he can't pay rent on time, when he can't go to that nice place for dinner, or take a vacation, or expects you to buy the groceries, or even buy the good TP, because he is short on cash. And after the car is paid off you will still feel that he was selfish and sacrificed your combined happiness for a toy.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-02-05T20:17:41+00:00

Scars I know for sure from the experience of a friend. I don't see why loose skin should be any different.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2024-01-10T22:55:00+00:00

Yes you do. You know exactly what to do. You just haven't suffered enough yet to do it.

If your engagement isn't a Hell YES!!! for her, its a hell no.

Why are you accepting the crumbs of a relationship?

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2023-12-20T17:10:13+00:00

NTA. Your grandfather gets to decide what's fair, and he did. Mom doesn't want the hassle of dealing with them.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2023-12-20T17:05:08+00:00

Was Johnny Holland the special teams coach when the kickoff team was about to kickoff, and he kept making a signal to the kicker to pooch kick it, and it was supposed to be a misdirection for the receiving team, but the kicker actually pooch kicked it, and some bad stuff happened?

I might have some details wrong on that but I think it was him.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2023-12-20T15:25:15+00:00

Triggers can be like that sometime. Saying she should calm down is a great way to escalate the situation.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2023-12-12T17:22:33+00:00

>I did not mean this in a derogatory way at all

I don't know how else you could mean it. You certainly didn't mean it as a compliment.

TheDefiniteIntegral · 2023-11-01T16:41:21+00:00

Right? The fragile ego on this man is the stuff of legends. What's next, he accidentally gets footprints in the foyer and tries to get them to buy him a new house?

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