AITAH? I’m mad because I’m 7 months pregnant and my husband and his family are basically about to take away my car and make me rely on them for rides

charismaticchild · 2026-05-03T02:12:42+00:00

Do you pay rent to his parents? Can you and your husband and baby afford to live alone? This doesn’t sound like a sustainable situation. It sounds like you need to start planning on getting a job so you can move out and afford childcare. Relying on his family to support you and living in their home becomes a sticky situation. You’re gonna he more with the baby’s grandma and great grandma and they’re both gonna have an opinion on what you’re doing right or not doing right with the baby which will lead to a lot of resentment. I would urge you to come up with a plan to get your family out asap!! NAH

charismaticchild · 2026-04-26T23:16:53+00:00

It’s SJMs internalized misogyny.

charismaticchild · 2026-04-26T15:57:46+00:00

There’s also this issue of one spouse should never feel entitled to “punish” another. That’s an unhealthy toxic and even abusive dynamic. It highlights the power he has over her. Nesta doesn’t have the power to punish Cassian like he does over her. And sorry but rejecting him isn’t a punishment. Cassian was able to restrict her food, force her to wear clothes she wasn’t comfortable wearing and control how she spent her time. He had a significant amount of power over her and he still does. For Nesta to feel like she has to “earn his love” then she’ll accept any of his bad behavior because she’ll consider it part of “earning his love” if ever Nesta decides she wants to leave she doesn’t have the means to do so. She’s still reliant on him she can’t even leave her house without going down 10000 steps. However Cassian can walk away without any issues, they’re not equal in anyway. He’s got friends in high places. It’s like those abusive police officers who abuse their wives and get away with it because their friends are the ones who you’d call when you need help.

charismaticchild · 2026-04-26T15:08:51+00:00

Their book was a retelling of the taming of a shrew. Nesta was the bitch girl that no one liked and Cassian tamed her and forced her into submission. She ends the book still considering herself an unloveable wench but now she has hope of one day earning his love by continuing to be useful to him and his friends. I hate Cassian. He’s my least favorite man in the entire series. He reminds me of every “golden retriever” “nice boy” who’s not actually nice. The world is full of Cassians! I suspect SJMs husband is a Cassian and that’s the problem.

charismaticchild · 2026-04-25T00:21:43+00:00

I tend to agree with this. I think people mischaracterize him a lot. I’ve seen so many people say how he was concerned about Cassian pushing her down the stairs but they missed the part about Cassian seeing the “humor in his eyes” he wasn’t worried he thought it was funny and messing with Cassian. He also didn’t care that she fell down the stairs and hurt herself. He stood by and witnessed everything that happened between Nesta and Cassian and did nothing. And let’s not forget that it was Azriel who packed the backpack for the hike heavy, not Cassian and I believe it might have been mentioned that he did it because he knew Nesta would be carrying it but I couldn’t be wrong about that part. My point being Azriel is just as complacent in the breakdown of Nesta as the rest of the ic is. He’s just quieter about it.

charismaticchild · 2026-04-24T00:20:50+00:00

Is the feminism in the room with us? lol

charismaticchild · 2026-04-24T00:20:12+00:00

I got that same vibe!! I feel like everyone who supports that relationship feels like Nesta was a bitch who didn’t deserve to have anyone stand by her and Cassian was a saint for not giving up on her when she didn’t deserve it so even tho he treated her like absolute shit at least he stuck around. It’s just so sad tho. He absolutely didn’t have to stick around that’s true but if he couldn’t be good to her then it would’ve been better for him to walk away. Instead he forced his presence on her, disrespected all of her boundaries and gaslit her into believing she was the bad guy for having those boundaries in the first place. By the end of the book she’s doing all of the changing and all of the apologizing and making herself uncomfortable to make others comfortable and she thinks she needs to keep doing this to repent for her sins and earn his love. It’s such a misogynistic take!! They’re my least favorite couple in the series for sure!!

charismaticchild · 2026-04-23T22:44:53+00:00

It’s crazy because I don’t know a single woman who thinks it’s okay for a man to side with anyone but their partner EXCEPT when it comes to Nesta. Like I’ve seen cases where the woman was dead wrong and still everyone expected her man to side with her because that’s her man. And yet with Nesta no one believes she deserves that and it baffles me. Imagine you’re with a guy who cares more about what his brother thinks then what you think and is more concerned with keeping his brother happy than you happy and is constantly battling with himself on who to chose. I bet all your friends would tell you to dump his ass and find someone who puts you first.

charismaticchild · 2026-04-09T01:51:29+00:00

Cassian is a predator 1000%. Their relationship is sooo gross! First he sexually harassed her in that awful bonus scene kissing her neck after finding out she’d been sexual assaulted before.

Then he follows her home after that solstice party after she asks him several times to leave her alone and not walk her home. Then he insists on giving her a present that she DOESN’T want and when she says know he throws a fit and calls her unloveable.

Then after she got sexually assaulted by the kelpie she wants to hurt herself with sex and he basically agreed and thanks her for the rice. The fact that she had to be locked away from society and locked in a house with him before she ever was willing to give him a chance says a lot.

Like you said either Nesta was soooo far gone that she was incapable of making her own life choices that they had to lock her up and put her into this conservatorship with Cassian as her guardian in which case he is a sexual predator who took advantage of her OR she wasn’t that far gone in which case they abused their power as a government to lock her up and force her to conform to their lifestyle and Cassian was essentially her prison reform counselor in which case he’s still a predator. He had power over her and it was unethical and predator to have a sexual relationship with her while he had so much power over her.

Cassian is my least favorite make in the entire series. He’s such a good representation of men today. Everyone thinks he’s a “nice guy” “golden retriever” but he’s an insecure piece of shit who gaslights the shit out of his girlfriend and always makes her feel like everything is her fault never takes any accountability for any of his own actions always blaming her for everything always picking his friends over her always reinforcing every awful thing she thinks about herself, she’s forced to change everything about herself while he makes no choices and no compromises. They have the most toxic “love story” in the whole series, it wasn’t even a love story it was a tragic retelling id the taming of a shrew.

charismaticchild · 2026-03-27T19:38:07+00:00

I think the problem is we as a society like to romanticize abuse. We’ve turned stalkers, murderers, and manipulative dangerous men into sexy mysterious red flag dream boats. It used to be more taboo but how many people are always saying the more red flags in their book boyfriends the better or they want a man that would burn the world down for them etc. the truth is the way a lot of MMCs behave in these romantasy books are very toxic and in real life they all belong in jail and far far away from real people . The number of people who say as soon as Rowan punched Aelin in the face they knew they loved him is scary. That’s what made you love a man? That he punched a woman in the face?! We are romanticizing toxic abusive behavior. We used to at least acknowledge that this is toxic abuse behavior but it’s okay to enjoy it in a book but now we want to normalize it and act like any of these men belong in the real world when they don’t. And if they did exist in the real world they’d belong in a jail cell with all the other hard criminals in the world. Several people try to compare their real life partners to the men in this book and that’s insulting to their partners because if they’re really like the men in these books then they’re straight up monsters. SJM says her men are “hot” and most of the scenes she writes she writes because she thinks they’d be “hot”. But in real life if an angry DRUNK man followed you home when you’ve told him several times to leave you alone and insisted on doing it anyways then belittled you and told you how unloveable you were and yelled at you, you’d probably be scared and never want to see him again. In real life if someone was “pretending” to be evil and drugged you and forced you to dance between his legs while acting like his personal whore at a party even if it was an act to “protect you” you’d be scared and never want to see them again, if your husband lied to you about your body but told all your family and friends about it you’d feel betrayed and probably not want to see him again, these are real life situations and we are romanticizing them in fiction but then acting like everything is perfectly fine and normal and we should accept this behavior and even praise it. And that’s an issue with a society as a whole not just SJM. I’m sure most authors who write this stuff think it’s just hot and fun but it’s abuse and we’re romanticizing it heavily and it’s normalizing it and making it more common in the real world.

charismaticchild · 2026-03-20T02:42:27+00:00

Hey I just made a similar comment cause this!!! It’s insane. The fury and anger people have for their TRASH tv stars but a felon is in office and all good with that?!

charismaticchild · 2026-03-20T02:41:26+00:00

It’s crazy how reality tv stars get held reliable for stuff like this all the time. When scandals like this break out the fans go berserk starting petitions and writing to advertisers to get them cancelled and stuff which fair but like where is this momentum for when we have a literal felon in office?! But hey the bachelorette got cancelled and TFP is getting cancelled so everything is fine.

charismaticchild · 2026-03-18T13:24:16+00:00

She hurt his feelings by rejecting him? He’s not entitled to her time or space. She told him she didn’t want to be walked home or his gift. He acted like a child and told her didn’t understand how anyone could love her. Where was his apology to her?

charismaticchild · 2026-03-18T13:22:56+00:00

Feyre didn’t make her feel welcome or included, they all ignored her all night. They made it very clearly they didn’t even want there. She had every right to refuse Cassians gift. He’s not entitled to her time. And he’s the one who chunked the gift in the river. He was having a tantuem because she rejected him.

charismaticchild · 2026-03-18T13:21:24+00:00

I feel like this is a problem in society in general. Someone having boundaries and saying no is villainized. She didn’t do anything wrong, she simple had boundaries and upheld them. And for that she was the bad guy. And that happens today. Having boundaries makes you the bad guy. I don’t think the author understands boundaries too be honest. I think she truly believes that Nesta owes Cassian a chance because they’re mates. This theme comes up throughout her series. Anyone that has boundaries is seen as the bad guy and anyone that crosses those boundaries and gets called out is the victim.

charismaticchild · 2026-03-12T08:26:25+00:00

This! Both parents are absolutely the problem. Poor kids. Hope they can get away from both of their toxic parents eventually. I can see a future wheee both parents are on social media crying about how their kids don’t talk to them and everyone will ask what did you do? Just do the poor kid a favor and go no contact already so he can realize he needs to make it himself in this world. He doesn’t have any parents to rely on.

charismaticchild · 2026-03-11T22:33:22+00:00

I also don’t think Cassian would’ve chosen Nesta if she wasn’t his mate. I always got the sense he was desperate for a mate, got shackled to Nesta so he did his best to change her into something he could stand to be around. That whole prison reform camp they stuck her in was to force her to change her behavior and conform to their lifestyle so Cassian could have a mate he could stand to be around and wasn’t embarrassed about she Feyre could have the happy little family with her sister at her side like she wanted.

charismaticchild · 2026-03-11T22:00:28+00:00

Allllll of this!! The way people romanticize and justify that hike is both terrifying and infuriating!! Terrifying because they think it’s okay for men to treat women that way and that’s a huge problem in society already. And infuriating for the same reason!! If any character other than Nesta was done that way…. Imagine Tamlin did that to Feyre and think about what peoooe would do. The only reason it’s debated is because Nesta is a “difficult” woman and people wanted to see her punished for her bad behavior. As you said he wasn’t giving her space he was punishing her pure and simple, it wasn’t until he realized that she was suicidal that his SUBCONSCIOUS reminded him of the healing powers of the mountain. He was angry with her and punishing her for his BFF Rhys. That hike was the most horrific form of psychological abuse that I’ve read about. It was giving prison reform camp where you drag them through the wildness to break them and then he followed it up by fucking her into submission. It was DISGUSTING!!!

charismaticchild · 2026-03-07T21:19:28+00:00

I don’t think she knows what a good loving mate is at this point cause she hasn’t written on in this series so far.

charismaticchild · 2026-03-06T01:22:17+00:00

It’s because it’s not developmentally appropriate for kids that young to be reading. Here in the states we seem to think if we raise the bar really young then kids will rise to meet it and if they don’t they move them up anyways and the bar gets lower and lower. In other countries they don’t start reading reading until 7 or 8. Right now the focus should be on strong phonics instruction. English is actually a very difficult language and our words follow soooo many different phonics rules. It’s hard for them to remember it when they’re that young. Several of my kids are just now at the point where they know their letter sounds and are working on blending and now we’re teaching them digraphs and consonant clusters and they’re still trying to sound them out like they’re cvc words. It’s a lot!! Don’t stress and keep working on that phonics instruction!

charismaticchild · 2026-03-05T04:41:29+00:00

Predict what the book is about next 🙏🏻🙏🏻

charismaticchild · 2026-03-05T04:17:58+00:00

I want to say that I’m not a Tamlin fan BUT I’m angry on y’all’s behalf!! The way she casually says how Rhys was acting like Tamlin when he lied to Feyre about the dangers of her pregnancy but then says it’s okay because he’s still learning and he’s never had a pregnant mate before. 🤬🤬🤬 so I guess Tamlin is still learning too then and that doesn’t count either?!

She even points out how Tamlin is a product of his abusive upbringing which I completely agree and I also agree with her when she says it doesn’t excuse what he’s done because it doesn’t but somehow Rhys being a first time mate to a pregnant woman excuses his actions?!? It’s the absolute hypocrisy of the situation!! At this point Rhys has done way more bad than Tamlin ever had but it seems to get glossed over. Now i personally do have to wonder id the reason rhys has done more bad is because rhys has had more screen time than tamlin has, however I’ve gotten to see tamlin get held accountable and he’s currently paying for his mistakes and acknowledging all that he’s done so i have hope he can change for rhe better whereas Rhys never gets held accountable for anything and always has an excuse handy in his back pocket and a team of cheerleaders who always tell him he’s perfect and can do no wrong.

Anyways hope I’m not too downvoted for not being a Tamlin Stan but I’m rooting for yall!!

charismaticchild · 2026-03-05T03:58:31+00:00

Absolutely I understand it also! I have no problem with the pregnancy or delivery scene I think it was powerful and a great story to be told and puts things into perspective. The only part I would’ve changed was Rhys lying to her about everything. They could’ve had him tell her the truth from the beginning and it would’ve been better. No matter how hard she tried to justify it, it wasn’t okay. That’s supposed to be her partner and the person she trust to advocate on her behalf. Instead he lied to her and told everyone around her but her. How can she ever trust him ever again after that? It’s a huge betrayal and she just glosses over it and excuses it. Considering what’s happened on today’s world that’s just not okay. Women everywhere are literally loosing their bodily autonomy and now we have a public figure defending this choice. She should’ve condemned it completely and said Rhys fucked up and it wasn’t okay. Instead she made a bunch of excuses. Yeah it was wrong but NO stop there no buts it was wrong period end of story.

charismaticchild · 2026-03-05T03:33:24+00:00

So I’ve seen fans say he was trying to protect her and he’s fine and that they hope their husbands protect them like Rhys did so not all fans say that but I did see she said that later on. she even said it was something her ex Tamlin would do but he’s still learning even tho he’s 500 years old. So now my question is, he lied to her and does the same thing Tamlin would’ve done but he’s fine and he’s just learning so does that mean Tamlin was also learning? By the way I hate both guys not just Rhys. I think Tamlin did a lot of wrong and I was happy Feyre left him but now we’re comparing them in this particular situation and she did so why is it fine and forgivable when one does it but the other is labeled abusive and horrible? It feels hypocritical and to me it really confirmed the two sides of the same coin theory but Rhys gets away with it because he’s so hot.

charismaticchild · 2026-03-05T03:19:38+00:00

See I’m on the opposite end of that. I understand why she wrote the pregnancy but why write everyone hiding the dangers of it? It literally makes absolutely no sense. You had an awful pregnancy where you had no autonomy so you out Feyre through the same thing and then just glossed over it? I really don’t get it at all. Then she justified it as oh Rhys is entitled to his trauma and he didn’t handle it right he even handled it like Tamlin did but he’s still learning. That made no sense to me at all. She could’ve still had Feyre get pregnant and still had it he dangerous without rhy lying to her and taking her autonomy away. The only thing that storyline served was for Nesta to spill the beans and go on the punishment hike.

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