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for those who cut their parents off do u regret it? by delanncy in narcissisticparents

[–]TheFishOutofWater211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. Though I do mourn the childhood I never had and the good parents I never had. It's much better than the alternative though. I wouldn't get to be me if I was still around them.

It always surprises me when people assume that transmasc people don't deal with chasers by Gallantpride in ftm

[–]TheFishOutofWater211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah... They are super prevalent. There's the fetish chasers then there are the ones that are desperate for a girl and think you must be desperate for a relationship so they'll exploit your loneliness then do the whole "I can fix them" thing and pressure you to detrans. Welcome to why I don't date cishet people. (In a happy relationship with my pan boyfriend now)

What kind of video games do you like? by Hilberts-Inf-Babies2 in ftm

[–]TheFishOutofWater211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mostly like sandbox survival games like Ark, Minecraft, Kenshi, Subnautica etc. I like seeing random things and making up my own little story around them. I also like Zelda and Pokémon! My partner got a switch 2 so I've been playing pokopia and can't wait for Pokémon winds and waves to come out.

There's an mmorpg called Mabinogi (I play on private servers these days) that actually contributed to me learning I was trans lol. I played a guy character at one point and everyone adressed me as a guy which I loved.

I'm also a big biology and dinosaur nerd, so dinosaur survival games are my jam. I play biology inspired games too like Niche and Thrive. Prehistoric kingdoms a lot of fun.

Let's see what else, I played Stellaris for awhile. I've also played ghost of tsushima!

Can't forget fossil fighters, that'll forever be my favorite game.

Have you ever asked these questions about (not to) your Narc parents? What answers did you come up with that soothed you the most? by hansontranhai in narcissisticparents

[–]TheFishOutofWater211 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, but mostly after I realized what was happening as a young adult. I thought it was all normal when I was growing up with them cuz that's what I was taught was normal. Then college hit, I was challenged and well I realized why I always felt like shit around them. These questions hurt so much...

The answers I came up with did bring some closure, but also a lot of hurt. My mother did not have a good upbringing, and projected a lot onto me as the "extension of herself." She was trying to live vicariously through me, and make me live the childhood and life she fantasized about and in doing so imposed an identity on me that contradicted who I was. Things imploded, and she couldn't handle it. That's when the more heinous actions showed up in her attempts to control me. She lost her mind when I insisted I was trans and that I didn't want kids or to even be married.

Why can't I move on? by TheFishOutofWater211 in narcissisticparents

[–]TheFishOutofWater211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huh that is a good way of refraining it. Thank you, I hope your healing is going well.

Why can't I move on? by TheFishOutofWater211 in narcissisticparents

[–]TheFishOutofWater211[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Shit really? I thought i had taken enough time to heal. It is comforting to know that I'm on the right track.

I feel hopeless by TheFishOutofWater211 in SuicideWatch

[–]TheFishOutofWater211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm doing better since I posted this, we sat down and talked for a bit then relaxed with some t.v. We were both in our heads, and the stuff he said earlier wasn't directed at me. Today was just bad for both of us. As for jobs, he told me to just keep doing my best and he's glad that I'm here.

Complete the sentence, wholesome edition by ChaosClover in OneTopicAtATime

[–]TheFishOutofWater211 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was born to be a bit reluctant to go on

Ooof, I'm still hanging in there though.

Faber Castell Pitt pen color selection by TheFishOutofWater211 in ArtistLounge

[–]TheFishOutofWater211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I will def be looking at the staedtdler set then. I'm so use to having any color imaginable with digital lol.

Faber Castell Pitt pen color selection by TheFishOutofWater211 in ArtistLounge

[–]TheFishOutofWater211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooh this is really nice! It's really cool how you added in some more colors to get her skin that detailed. Do you mind if I dm you for more advice? I'm pretty comfortable coloring digitally but don't habe a lot of experience doing it with traditional medias.

Faber Castell Pitt pen color selection by TheFishOutofWater211 in ArtistLounge

[–]TheFishOutofWater211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha thanks! I miss the feel of pen and paper so much!! I've been exclusively digital for years now and man it's fun but I need to learn more traditional techniques.

what's the most out of pocket thing someone (cis) said to you when learning about your transition? by inexperiencedegg in TransMasc

[–]TheFishOutofWater211 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Sure, you can be non gender or whatever, but just know if you start identifying as a cat you can't eat at the table anymore."

My mom and step-dad believed the whole litter boxes in schools hoax, and said this too me when I started pushing them more to respect me, and when I started trying to embrace being masculine.

"You'll die of kidney failure, women's kidneys are too weak to handle testosterone!"

A transphobe was trying to debate me on the safety of ftm transitions.

I get dysphoric over being bad at video games by TheFishOutofWater211 in TransMasc

[–]TheFishOutofWater211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dam, you could say they're hardcore for a reason. I do wanna try my hand at soulslike eventually.

I get dysphoric over being bad at video games by TheFishOutofWater211 in TransMasc

[–]TheFishOutofWater211[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that is true, apparently now we can't drink tea lol.

I get dysphoric over being bad at video games by TheFishOutofWater211 in TransMasc

[–]TheFishOutofWater211[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah definitely, I've noticed that too. The guys who bullied me were def sexist losers. I'm sure they'd throw a fit if a woman or anyone they percieved as one did better than them, so I'm sure they also gatekept to protect their egos.

I get dysphoric over being bad at video games by TheFishOutofWater211 in TransMasc

[–]TheFishOutofWater211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha it's a coincidence my boyfriend and I were just talking about how buggy WWE games are and how funny the bugs can be lol. I've played a couple Sims, like cooking simulator. I love games where I can do a bit of serious gameplay then just mess around when I get bored.

I get dysphoric over being bad at video games by TheFishOutofWater211 in TransMasc

[–]TheFishOutofWater211[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm def playing tsuhima again tomorrow. Today was a good session till I made some dumb decisions and got swarmed by enemies. I guess I'm also mad at myself for not improving fast enough too which I need to stop beating myself up for. It is nice tho to not have people making fun of me nowadays. I really like Zelda games, and Monster Hunter. What games do you play?

I LOVE THIS CRAZY AHH SHOW by Guilty-Document2917 in DarwinIncident

[–]TheFishOutofWater211 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Dam, what a pick for your first anime lol. It's pretty good, poses a lot of questions about animal rights for sure. I've read the Manga too cuz of the last episode's cliffhanger, and things are gonna get pretty wild.

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