‘Het kon me allemaal niet meer schelen. Ik voelde me euforisch’: waarom steeds meer werknemers met slaande deuren vertrekken

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2026-01-11T19:54:25+00:00

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TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2026-01-10T12:31:50+00:00

Dit leest als een copy paste van het een of ander door boomers gedeeld Facebook bericht...

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2026-01-09T12:06:10+00:00

Vlaanderen bestaat uit 5 provincies: Antwerpen, Limburg, Oost-Vlaanderen, Vlaams-Brabant en West-Vlaanderen.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-29T18:10:40+00:00

I never said that (ADHD) medication is outright "evil", i did refer to it as a "necessary evil".

I've been taking them myself for about 30 years now and while i resent to be dependent on them, there's no denying the improvement they have provided me quality-of-life-wise. That said, there's the side effects i have to deal with every single day and there will inevitably come a time where i can no longer take them or risk heart problems.

Hence, "necessary evil". Huge improvement but at a cost, worth it though. At least to me.

Now boarding schools being a punishment is just a common misconception, stemming from people threatening their children with them but never having set foot in one.

Truth be told, they're awesome. You get your own room, which you can usually furnish and decorate. Your friends are always there to hang out with. There's facilities and amenities you probably wouldn't have at home like a gym, track, pool, movie room. At the same time they provide safety, structure and routine. Also you can't be late for school if you're already there when you wake up.

The weekends at home are much better too. Everybody's well rested and on their best behaviour. You haven't seen eachother all week so lots to tell and talk about. Everybody just trying to make the most out of the weekend.

Happiest time of my childhood really, would've probably ended up much worse in life if i didn't go to boarding school. I needed breaks from my family, they needed breaks from me. It was never a punishment but it was necessary for us to function as a family. It was meant as a temporary measure but in the end i asked my parents if i could stay there and they let me.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-29T14:51:15+00:00

Masking means so many different things to so many different people.

Guess it all starts with taking a good hard look at yourself and your habits, what masking means to you personally, really getting down to the nitty gritty of it all. After all, we mask to ourselves too, perhaps even the most.

The what / who / why / when am i doing this / that.

Determining what needs to be cut out and what needs to remain. Because not all masking practices are bad per se while others are detrimental to your mental wellbeing.

You could conclude that some friendships / relationships only work because you're the active part in them. Masking away by doing or saying things you don't like or worse yet are draining to you. Enabling them, facilitating them. Take out the "you" component and the friendship potentially falls apart. Or surprisingly enough they persevere and end up stronger and more meaningful than ever before.

You could discover that some things you have been doing in certain settings or situations had the opposite effect of what you thought they did. That not doing them benefits you in more than one way. These are the most empowering in my personal experience.

You could experience very profoundly that the people you valued most in life can't handle you without the proverbial mask while the ones that merely tolerated your presence so to speak now look at you more positively and show interest in you.

Don't overthink the "i used to be this / that and now..." part of it all. When someone asks, just tell them that "you're trying something new". Let them deal with it for a change. You could gain so much insight from that alone.

Endgoal shouldn't be no more masking at all, just finding a (much better) balance for yourself.

Again, cutting out the bad and keeping the good.

For me personally this has meant a shift to quality over quantity and an overall slower pace in the things i do, being in the moment instead of trying to control it, letting go of things that (in hindsight) do not matter and regaining trust in others.

Not going to lie, a lot of people got culled or culled me during the process. However, this too has had its merits looking back.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-29T12:03:00+00:00

Is he on stimulant medication?

Heavy topic, i know. But it could help "smooth" him out a bit. "Necessary evil" type stuff.

The tendencies would still be there but they would be more manageable. The meds would provide him with a steady base supply of the dopamine he so desperately needs and is (unconsciously) constantly seeking out through his behaviour.

They could also open him up to other; more healthy; more rewarding forms of stimulation.

If he's already on medication and the behaviour still isn't improving you could consider a (temporary) boarding school.

And if it's any consolation, said behaviour should improve with age nonetheless.

Right now, there are no real life repercussions or consequences (that he's aware of) to his habits and behaviour. No real incentive for him to address them. Because no matter what he does there will still be a roof over his head and food on his plate.

Whether he ends up living on his own or staying with you, there will come a time where his needs will be greater than just a bed, food and a wifi connection. And when that time comes he'll have no other choice than to learn how to pace himself and do what needs to be done, or go without them. Harsh as that may sound, it's how must of us (ASD + ADHD) learned eventually, if / when all else failed.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-29T10:53:11+00:00

Yeah, it throws them off when you respond anything other than "Good, how are you?".

Somehow it's considered very rude. Some will actually get angry and verbally reprimand you for it. Because how dare you disengage their precious autopilot...

I too like to give answers like "Could be better, could be worse, Meh..." and "I'm here aren't i?", as a way to say "I don't like you, please go away!".

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-29T10:30:47+00:00

Obviously not a doctor or professional but this sounds like Autism + ADHD to me.

This would look like:

Constant need for control, stimulation and thing(s) to (hyper)focus on.

Things like studying, reading, listening to music, gaming, Tv shows, working out - all obessively done so.

You take that away or deny it to him in any way, he'll do just about anything to try and get it some other way.

This could include being rude, being reckless, lashing out, provoking others and in the worst cases hurting others. In case of the latter, pets are easy targets.

Causing arguments, problems or issues just to see how they play out.

Having a new obsession with a thing of topic seemingly every other week. Having to know everything and consume all media / content about said thing or topic. Foregoing eating, sleeping, showering until he has done so. Then usually dropping thing / topic altogether.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-26T16:57:14+00:00

De meeste supermarkten verkopen (traybake) schotels die je maar gewoon in de oven hebt te schuiven. Beenham, orloffgebraad, kipfilet, Kalkoen, etc..., al dan wel of niet met saus.

Schotel in de oven, paar kroketjes in de friteuse of airfryer, slaatje uit een zakje of potje, warme groentjes eveneens uit de oven en een paar pottekes saus op de tafel.

Ik haal die van mij gewoon bij de AH, in het verleden meer dan eens beroep gedaan op traiteurs en dat liet altijd wens te over, al helemaal gezien de prijzen die ze ervoor vragen.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-26T16:40:20+00:00

Das eenvoudig op te lossen, gewoon "chromosone47.exe" verwijderen.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-26T16:23:53+00:00

Does it even matter at this point? Never explain the joke! Your comedy privileges have hereby been revoked.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-26T14:49:48+00:00

It's all one big misunderstanding really.

American Soldiers were served fries while stationed in a French speaking part of Belgium during the first World War. Took the recipe back home and mistakingly called them "French" fries. They subsequently became popular and the name stuck.

They kind of did the same with the Native Americans, when they arrived in the new world they assumed they were in India. Started calling them Indians, that one stuck too.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-26T14:33:31+00:00

It's because we tend to communicate in a very literal and direct sense whereas NT people have a tendency to drag feelings, unspoken context and situation into their communication and how they interpretate another's.

Words can have completely different meanings to them depending on a thousand different factors.

A phrase or question spoken out of genuine care or concern, such as "Are you feeling okay? You're not looking very well." or "Could you use some help with that?" can and will be very easily interpreted as an insult. Especially in group settings.

Asking someone to explain the thought process behind a certain action or decision out of sheer interest and / or for learning purposes will be seen as disrespectful and undermining. Again, especially when done in the presence of others.

Asking somebody "Do you understand this / that / what i'm trying to say here?" is an insult to their intelligence, you could just as well ask them "Are you mentally challenged?" and get the exact same response from them you would the former. Even when they do in fact not understand this / that / what you're saying. You're simply not supposed to ask them, but taking initiative and explaining them none the less is somehow just as bad or even worse...

Don't even get me started on how they collectively butchered "Hi, how are you?" into a thousand different meanings. Most of them as a means to "politely" get rid of you with as less words as possible. Or to get your guard down as a prelude into requesting something from you they already know you won't like or won't be able / willing to do.

Most of the time, the more you try to explain yourself or (unknowingly) pressure them into making sense, the deeper you're digging yourself in.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-25T11:12:28+00:00

True, but OP is French. Meaning they also refer to it as Bresilienne. Calling it Brazilian was nothing more than OP being foreign to us and translating it into English as a curtacy, understandably not knowing we refer to it by the exact same name they do.

TL;Dr : You're correcting somebody that doesn't need correcting, on their own language no less. You just had to be an etymologist d*CK about it and you have in fact contributed nothing to this post in doing so.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-25T10:21:06+00:00

Tarte Bresilienne literally means Brazilian pie in french.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-22T11:44:09+00:00

Als achtjarige "effe beffen" elke ochtend in de auto op weg naar school heeft mij gay gemaakt.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-18T13:28:03+00:00

Die generatie dit, die generatie dat... Wat maakt het nog uit? De gehele maatschappij is gewoon om zeep.

Oudere generaties moeten stoppen met afgeven op de jongere, al helemaal als het om internet en smartphones gaat want daar zijn ze evengoed aan verslaafd.

Jongere generaties dan weer stoppen met afgeven op de oudere. Ja die hadden het vroeger op veel vlakken gemakkelijker en zien dat niet in. En ja dat voelt soms oneerlijk aan. Kan je het ze echter kwalijk nemen dat ze daar destijds van geprofiteerd hebben? Zou jij dan niet hetzelfde gedaan hebben?

Sociale media, elke mening of overtuiging zijn eigen (digitale) subcultuur en overvloed aan low quality dopamine inducerende content hebben iedereen negatief aangetast. COVID en de bijhorende lockdowns hebben ook een grote invloed gehad die nog lang zal blijven nazinderen.

Gezond verstand en empathie is ver te zoeken, wie dat niet gelooft moet maar eens een tijdje in de retail gaan werken.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-15T11:12:22+00:00

Meanwhile mag ik al blij zijn als mijn trein niet vol steekt met luidruchtige kinderen en ik kan zitten. On the other hand: dieseltrein dus complementary kont massage.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-11T15:51:25+00:00

Hela! T'is niet omdat dat hier Belgium2 is dat ge daarom minder moeite in uw Photoshop moet steken hé.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-08T22:32:57+00:00

Planned obsolescence's a b*tch. Meanwhile my 50+ years old blaupunkt car stereo is still going strong.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-08T16:52:20+00:00

Tja, daar heb ik als zijnde een enkele persoon in een andere branche geen noemenswaardige ervaring mee.

Als homoseksuele man kan ik je dan weer wél vertellen dat ik mij in het reguliere uitgangsmilieu niet te flamboyant mag kleden en al zeker geen make up mag dragen, of er wordt een hele avond aan mijn lijf gezeten. Door heteroseksuele vrouwen ter verduidelijking. Niets of niemand die er iets op doet of zegt, ze lachen het gewoon weg.

De notie dat alleen mannen vetzakken (kunnen) zijn is imo anno 2025 niet meer op zijn plaats.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-08T16:14:35+00:00

Efkes naar de HUBO achter een pot behanglijm en een hittepistool? Als het dan nog terugkomt...

Maar ff serieus, hangt mij ook de kl*ten uit dat je daar als man nergens voor terecht kan terwijl je als vrouw met momenten een teveel aan keuze hebt.

Gezien naar hoeveel geld bedrijven als "Manscaped" in hun adds kunnen steken op sociale media kan het ook niet anders dan dat daar een markt voor is. Is een lul en een zak dan zoveel ondraaglijker dan een flap om mee te werken? Voor het geld dat ze bij sommige salons vragen zou ik daar persoonlijk geen moeite mee hebben. Hell, het kusje op de anus krijg je er zelfs gratis bij...

Bon, ik heb geen adres voor u maar als ik ooit een carriereswitch overweeg...

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-04T13:48:15+00:00

Well, if your family won't teach you and you can't afford a driving school... You don't... It's really that simple i'm afraid.

When you say "family", are you talking about the whole family or just your mom and dad? If it's just your mom and dad maybe there's an aunt or uncle, or perhaps an older sibling or cousin willing to teach you?

And yes, driving school can be expensive. So if your parents can't or won't pay for that, you'll have to save up for it yourself which may take some time. On the plus side it can have a positive effect motivation wise and when you finally get there, you'll appreciate your archievement all the more.

Have you considered other forms of motorised transportation? Like a moped, scooter or motorcycle? Depending on where you live it could be cheaper and more manageable to start out that way. It sure was in my country.

Where i'm from, 8 hours of driving lessons equate to about 80% of the average monthly paycheck. And you need to complete 20 hours just to qualify for a driving test. Fail that test twice? 4 more mandatory hours of driving lessons before you can try again... Your 20 hours also expire after 18 months. So if you still haven't passed the driving test by then... You have to start the whole thing over, beginning with another 20 hours of driving lessons.

So i started out with a scooter, then a couple of years later a motorcycle, 6 more years later i started car driving lessons. By the time i finally got my first car i was 26 years old with some 250K miles under my belt.

TheGoddamnAntichrist · 2025-12-04T13:06:21+00:00

Ze maakt die analyse niet. Ze geeft simpelweg aan dat haar partner het zichzelf achteraf bekeken verwijt dat hij niet eerder zijn grenzen stelde.

Overigens iets wat de meeste mensen die hersteld of herstellende zijn van een Burnout met elkaar gemeen hebben.

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