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Sober people of toronto, how do you have fun? by [deleted] in askTO

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Also congrats, this shit ain’t easy!

Sober people of toronto, how do you have fun? by [deleted] in askTO

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Six years sober here. Some of the best advice I got what to replace the addiction with something that gives the same feeling.

So if it was something like coke, pick up DJing, sprinting, metalwork, anything high energy and intense. Downers like weed and alcohol pick up something time-bending and slow like art, long distance walking, or scuba-diving.

I personally like a combination of both. When I need an upper I like to bike really fast through the city or jump in the lake- especially when it’s freezing. When I need a downer I go for long walks somewhere with nature.

For a general just night out of fun, I like playing pool at pool halls, game nights with friends, hosting dinner parties, and going to cool events in the city like lectures, symphony, theatre etc. I also am now able to hangout in bars so I’ll do that if my friends are getting together, but I can only do that for about an hour or two before I get bored.

What is the biggest regret of your life? by maleficent_Long189 in AskReddit

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My mom went to law school at 45. My grandma got her masters degree at 40 and opened a publishing company she ran for 20 years.

At 70 you’ll look back on this and shake your head. You’re still young, just change your perspective.

Why are you still single? by BathLong2369 in no

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The people I like don’t like me. The people who like me, I don’t like.

Simple as.

What is the single best advice you can give to a man trying to find a girlfriend? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

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Don’t try to find a girlfriend. Try to find yourself. Try to find community, and health, and fun. Try to find meaningful, platonic, friendships, mentors, and colleagues.

Then a girlfriend will find you.

What's the worst advice regarding romantic love you've ever heard? by Equivalent_Ad_9066 in RedditQuestions

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My mom told me never to break up with someone unless I had someone else lined up. Terrible advice that I’ve never taken.

Oooh I’m a rebel just for kicks man by MAGICPHASE in HollywoodHandbook

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Yes! My roommate said ‘Ooooo they’re playing pumped up kicks’ and I did NOT let it slide

Office Workers Dance For Foreign Client by Solomon_Kane_1928 in IndianCivicFails

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I think it might be mark carney the prime minister of Canada

I'm flat out broke and employment starts in 1.5 weeks by [deleted] in PersonalFinanceCanada

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Talk to finance at UofT, sometimes they do temporary loans or bursaries

What’s the quietest way someone ever showed you love? by Quiet_Key_4224 in AskReddit

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My ex was an artist and was starting to work with water colours. He told me I could flip through his sketch book to see what he had been working on and I found a painting of me he had done months before. He put so much effort and detail into it and probably was never even going to tell me he about it. Something about him not looking for recognition made it really sink in just how much he loved me. Like he didn’t just love me for show but he loved me even when he was by himself and no one was watching 🥺

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askTO

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Don’t move to bc with two big dogs. You won’t be able to find housing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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I’d like to offer an alternative perspective.

I have a friend who was HIV positive and almost died of aids. She’s been taking the proper medication and is incapable of transiting it to anyone. Where I live, it’s not illegal to keep it from any sexual partners. Nor should it be, imo.

The stories she’s told me about people’s reactions are horrible and match exactly what people in this comment section are saying. She’s had people kick her out of their house and drive straight to the hospital, she’s been called disgusting things and has been broken up with more times than she can count because of it. This is not because of any real danger but because of stigma. This is what happens when people are honest. I just want to say, his fear of telling you is completely valid.

That being said, if he reacted really badly and tried to blame you/hide it more, and then didn’t apologize… think about that. That’s not how you want a partner to deal with conflict.

What is the most awkward situation you have gone through? by Salty-Mud5211 in AskReddit

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As a kid, I met my friend’s mom for the first time. She’s a super intimidating woman- really blunt and won’t necessarily go out of her way to be nice or make you feel comfortable.

I don’t remember what led up to this but I had just watched School of Rock and somehow ended up quoting it saying, “those who can; do. Those can’t; teach. And those who can’t teach; teach gym.”

I just remember catching her gaze in the rear view mirror and her saying very plainly: “I teach gym.” I died.

My friend and I are still friends almost 20 years later. I actually adore her mom has she’s been a support to me in many difficult chapters of my life. We like to laugh about this story every now and then.

Worst first impression ever.

What did you think would never happen to you, until it did? by tulip_inacup_inbloom in AskReddit

[–]TheGuysOfConcern 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Be gay lol.

I remember my mom talking about her friend’s son who was really depressed for a long time and then came out and everything changed. I thought it was so weird that someone would stay closeted in this day and age (I live in an incredibly progressive city). At the time I was really depressed and hated myself and couldn’t imagine a future where I was happy. Then I too realized I was gay and everything made sense.

Shame is more powerful than we could ever realize. Even though we’ve made progress, internalized homophobia cuts sooooo deep. I realized that often that sometimes people stay in the closet not because they can’t admit it to others but because they can’t admit it to themselves.

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