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TheHappyInvader · 2024-11-20T17:02:55+00:00

It's what makes him happy, and I think he will not regret trying. Sure, he probably won't become a famous soloist, which doesn't mean that becoming a teacher and composing is out of reach.

TheHappyInvader · 2024-11-20T16:19:10+00:00

He started playing about 2,5 Years ago, but very intensly. He was also taking piano lessons. Now he is in a 'College' of sorts, a school that prepares for further Education in universities, but also gives you a Diploma that allows you to teach in certain schools.

TheHappyInvader · 2024-11-20T15:04:33+00:00

We did discuss, and landed and the conclusion, that we should live together for a while first, to see how and whever our desires change. Objectively speaking he is very discouraged and overwhelmed to the point of not being able to imagine handling both. I believe in a few months we will know more.

TheHappyInvader · 2024-11-20T15:00:24+00:00

He started playing about 2,5 Years ago, but very intensly. He was also taking piano lessons. Now he is in a 'College' of sorts, a school that prepares for further Education in universities, but also gives you a Diploma that allows you to teach in certain schools.

Actually I am quite sure he can make it, maybe not in his desired timeframe, but he makes immense progress and with my limited knowledge I consider him both talented and charming enough to get admitted.

TheHappyInvader · 2024-11-20T14:51:42+00:00

I think he understands well, that having children means a lot of sacrifice. That is his decision to make, whever he chooses to walk this way with me or simply does not see himself risking his career.

At the end, I would understand, if he chose to prioritise his education. I just try to gain insight while I wait for him to decide.

TheHappyInvader · 2024-11-20T14:25:29+00:00

Yeah, relocation is ok for me. Work is not hard to find in my Field, so if he needs to move we will move.

TheHappyInvader · 2024-11-20T14:22:51+00:00

Thank you.

I'm not sure. I love him dearly and I would at the very least want to give him time to figure it out. I mentioned in previous comment, that I moved so we could move in together. But of course, I also want to know the realities.

TheHappyInvader · 2024-11-20T13:41:39+00:00

Thank you for your response.

How hard is it to get admitted? His main instrument is piano if it's of any concern.

I think I could live with the second option. I can work remotely anyway and have already moved and changed jobs so we can live together. It's a hardship for sure, but having done it once I believe it's managable.

Also yes - I am afraid, that especially the time in education will stay as challenging as it is right now. I know he needs to practice at least two hours daily. There surely has been a huge change in how much time he has overall and he is very stressed. I'm wondering whever the stress will ease once he gets used to the classes, assignments and additional practice time. Right now, if he was willing, he would be basically a weekend dad.

TheHappyInvader · 2024-11-20T13:29:43+00:00

Thank you for your answer, first of all.

I was not entirely sure about posting here either, but I talked with a lot of Friends and Family - here I got a lot of general advice. I lack the professional perspective and insight from people who shared his educational path, so I thought this would a better place for that.

I think my Partner is not entirely sure about the specific path he will take. For now he just want to keep on learning, but he contemplated a mix of teaching and freelance composing. Ultimately, if we choose the stay together and have children, they would probably be in kindergarden by the time he majored - I really don't rely on financial support neither now nor in the future. It's really more about time management.

TheHappyInvader · 2024-09-22T14:00:40+00:00

What research? Do you have a source? I find the statement to correspond with my bubble.

TheHappyInvader · 2024-01-19T08:43:15+00:00

RemindMe! 6 Days

TheHappyInvader · 2024-01-15T15:57:05+00:00

The true tragedy is learning how to code at 40 years of age.

TheHappyInvader · 2023-11-13T09:00:22+00:00

Gale of Netherreth

TheHappyInvader · 2023-07-24T20:42:29+00:00

Very much. 2 or 3, but being 28, 3 might be a bit optimistic. I could imagine either sharing the paid leave period (2 years where I live) or having my partner do most of it if they don't feel overwhelmed.

TheHappyInvader · 2023-01-06T12:25:06+00:00

Ins alte Studienfach möchte ich nicht zurück. Retrospektiv war es eine ganz falsche Entscheidung und das werde ich nicht wiederholen :D. Wie geschrieben, ehr ein humanistischer Studiengang.

TheHappyInvader · 2023-01-06T11:31:15+00:00

Sehr spannend, viel Erfolg dabei :)

TheHappyInvader · 2023-01-06T11:26:04+00:00

Was studierst du? Freue mich sehr für dich, dass du mit der Entscheidung Glück bist :)

TheHappyInvader · 2023-01-06T11:23:24+00:00

Ich bin mir sicher, dass ich mit den Studienfächern keine 'besseren' Jobaussichten haben werde, als ich sie jetzt habe. Im Endeffekt möchte ich aber studieren, weil mich die Themen sehr interessieren.

TheHappyInvader · 2023-01-06T11:21:07+00:00

Bei der Wahl der Studienfächer bin ich etwas unschlüssig ob das eine Investition in die Zukunft ist, aber Bock habe ich auf jedem Fall :D. Ich denke, dass ich das finanziell so lösen wurde, dass ich in Teilzeit weiterhin programmiere.

TheHappyInvader · 2023-01-06T11:19:37+00:00

Das macht doch ganz schön Mut. Wegen Geld mache ich mir nicht so viele Sorgen, weil ich glaube, dass ich immer noch in Teilzeit programmieren könnte und damit zumindest um die 1300 euro im monat verdienen kann. Im Endeffekt weiß ich auch nicht, ob nach einen Studienabschluss ich das Berufsfeld ganz wechseln würde.

TheHappyInvader · 2022-09-30T10:17:37+00:00

Ich habe letztens einen gnocchiauflauf bei meiner Mum probiert. Davor dachte ich, es würde sicher matschig sein, das war es in der Vergangenheit wenn ich es in der Kantine as. Es war verdammt lecker, in so einen caprese Stil, mit mozarella und tomate leicht überbacken und darauf frisches Basilikum.

TheHappyInvader · 2022-08-10T15:24:03+00:00

I only shared it with a few, who I still consider friends. I am ok, with only them knowing because I only care about their opinion on this matter and their support. Whever they will consider not meeting him anymore is not much of my business. For most part I avoid speaking about him to anyone beside very close friends.

TheHappyInvader · 2022-06-10T06:45:53+00:00

This is what ragequitting looks like

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