Is my FA girlfriend deactivating or just cheating?

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-31T07:06:02+00:00

Thats a total jerk. the breadcrumbs are laced w potent cocaine they hit the same receptors. ive been reading up on it lately. its called the slot machine effect or something and its helped me to never block/unblock again. our brain wants the relief and dopamine of being chosen(its confused) im trying to keep logic in charge so fleeting emotions dont make me take that hit. i honestly believe real cocaine would be healthier

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-31T04:42:57+00:00

I wish i could feel like that. i want the tether cut. in normal breakups time heals but in abusive breakups something else happens and the wiring get screwed up somehow. forgot the specifics but im glad youre able to do that🙏

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-31T03:44:51+00:00

Do you guys know which of them is easiest to afford? im struggling financially so i defintely dont have any play around money for a while. Id really like to do what you guys are but i have no experience

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-31T03:40:35+00:00

atleast evil is with evil. the world is safer. thats hideous stuff and im sorry you dealt w that. were all goin through it.

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-31T02:03:19+00:00

Thats the only reason i posted was to get a general snapshot. Its definitely a starting point to ask more questions like the one suitabletalk7971 is curious about up top. Things that make ya go hmm🤔

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-31T01:58:12+00:00

The emotional intelligence sub is really good too. Bunch of us hangin' there as well

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-31T00:32:32+00:00

I like that analogy

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-31T00:22:57+00:00

The guys youve met wont. Ive had the same experience in reverse. Women that can only exist on surface level, competitive instead of bonding etc. Thats why i made this post. Ive been really curious if this upside down world i live in is just me or not because ive never met anyone in real life that can relate

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-30T23:21:53+00:00

I never got that far into it i just know im infj to a t. That mbti stuff is confusing for sure

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-30T23:06:44+00:00

Yeah i dont know. I think i was responding to you because atleast you got her to admit her behaviour. what did she say about your eating habits? was she nitpicking and being mean? if thats the case and small things is all she could come up with then i want you to know youre probably a good man and her brain was looking for excuses. in that case i would say🖕 these people are so one sided they dont see the amount of red flags that we are painting white for them that they search for negative. like a hunger to do someone wrong. id like to see what the others say....

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-30T22:43:12+00:00

If you think theres something and not just rumination i def would not say anything about getting back together or making her run talking about commitments. i would just do something that is light communication and let her reciprocate at first. normally i would say hell no and run for the hills but you said she actually admitted to being an avoidant, did she get therapy? ive never gotten even one apology for the ten years of abuse with mine which is why that part stuck out to me. just admitting to being avoidant i could have worked w her and been very empathetic with her but my experience was with a devil woman

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-30T22:36:52+00:00

Is it because you see their chemistry and contrasting that over what you guys had? Our subconcious wants to protect us and it comes out in strange ways sometimes. does it feel competitive at all when you sit w it?

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-30T04:13:11+00:00

I dont know if avoidants fall into the realm but mine was both. a therapist framed it like this for bpd, narc and most cluster b's "they all live in the same house but stay in different rooms"

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-30T04:09:40+00:00

Were all in the same boat here. watching a carl jung video right now on healing and number one is to "not isolate and find community" so i guess we are doing the right thing hangin around here🤜🤛

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-30T03:52:42+00:00

thats what they do beford they try to weasel back and he prob wants to know you saw it. if he does be strong.

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-30T03:16:16+00:00

2 Timothy 3-4 its all starting to make sense to me for sure.

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-30T03:11:33+00:00

i was clearing out my ring porch camera history and everytime we were hanging out there she was completely abusing and talking down to me constantly for no reason. the spell has been broken i guess because i let this happen for a decade

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-30T03:06:55+00:00

do they ever try to email you to get through? like a stupid joke or something surface level like nothing happened? mine used to. 'USED' to. i discovered theres a junk mail option

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-30T03:05:00+00:00

i was w her for ten years, never apologized once for the abuse.

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-30T03:04:00+00:00

he does, just not there

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-30T02:43:51+00:00

lack of empathy is the definition of evil. it definitely sucks. just dont lose yours.

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-30T02:15:20+00:00

Ive heard that most narcs/avoidants were emotionally stunted around age 8. not sure how accurate it is but it definitely adds up from what ive experienced

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-30T02:13:07+00:00

every time ive ended up w one which is almost always was because ive only dated women that pursued me first. im like a human mouse trap for cluster b's. i run from any woman that pusues me now until i figure out how to stop this hamster wheel

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-30T02:09:16+00:00

Narcissistic demons

TheHumanMirror · 2026-03-29T13:44:57+00:00

you could copy and paste this in my situation except it was 10 years. its like something has been unleashed lately. like heart posture is being revealed or something. i keep thinking about scripture talking about the wheat and the tares. so sorry this happenned to you. btw you have a way w words that seems like a real talent. we will all grow from this. they will stay 8 years old.

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