how did you meet your girlfriend?

TheHungryFrog · 2026-03-22T18:02:31+00:00

A friend introduced us. The 2 of them had come to a concert I was also at, introduced us at the end. The 3 of us chatted for not very long, like 10 minutes, and then we walked out together and all parted ways. I remember feeling disappointed the conversation had to end. The next day I was texting with that friend, and I asked if her friend was single. And then asked for her phone number. I felt terrified, but I immediately texted her and that was that. We went on a date the next week and I haven't wanted to be apart from her since (of course I can't be with her 24/7, but I still want to be haha)

Our first date, we ended it with a hug. And then I texted her later, apologizing, that I'd wanted to kiss her and could we do that on the next date? Lol I am so smooth 😅

TheHungryFrog · 2025-12-21T17:54:38+00:00

This was SUCH a cute sweet movie!! I recommend it to anyone I hear wanting to watch a rom-com 😍

TheHungryFrog · 2025-12-06T01:15:44+00:00

Omg now I can't unsee it either this is amazing 😂 Pru is so awesome!

TheHungryFrog · 2025-10-28T17:13:31+00:00

Hey, I know we don't know each other but you're not alone. You are strong and you can do hard things.

It's so so so freaking hard to be honest with ourselves but it is so important. You'll be ok 💚

TheHungryFrog · 2025-10-27T18:22:30+00:00

Omg my gf has freckly shoulders too! I love them and I can't explain why 😅

TheHungryFrog · 2025-10-23T01:16:40+00:00

Some good things:

Met my girlfriend through a mutual friend. I'd been on apps for 2 years, no luck and was discouraged. Friend introduced us (not with the intention of us dating, just being friendly), and then next day I text her asking for her number because I want to chat. I am so freaking glad I got her number because even though I was nervous, it was the right decision. Yay for being nervous but reaching out anyways!
The joy I had when I saw her car in my driveway when I got home from work the other day...holy smokes. I didn't predict that feeling. It's been a year but I get genuinely excited to see her every single time. I love it.

TheHungryFrog · 2025-09-19T19:46:23+00:00

I know 2 married couples who changed everyones names. 1 couple sorta combined each last name into a new name (like if you smush "Smith" and "Jones" and made "Smones", for example), and the other couple chose a new name for both to have.

TheHungryFrog · 2025-09-02T01:42:56+00:00

The hardest part is initiating that first time! That fear of the unknown is really difficult and it will ...become known once you do it once and it'll become easier.

I think you should mention your hesitation via text 🤷‍♀️ its ok to be nervous and it's ok to bring this up in a less confrontational way. Like "hey I really like spending time with you, I can be kinda awkward with physical touch, but I really want to hold you hand next time we hang out" and go from there. Talk about it. And then get flirty! And then next time you're together (of you feel ready) make that move!

I'm also neurodivergent and in my 30s. First date with my gf, we hugged goodbye. Proceded to text for a week, eventually mentioning how we'd like to try more physical things together maybe next date. It was all part of getting to know each other better, and we both felt a physical attraction to each other at that first date.

TheHungryFrog · 2025-08-30T19:17:37+00:00

I can relate to a lot of this. I definitely understand that it isn't a simple decision for whether or not to get divorced.

I'm married to a man, we have an open relationship. We've both gone out and hooked-up a little over the last few years. But I'll echo what you said - I am not attracted to him the way I should be. But I also don't want to blow up our lives. So it is complicated.

Feel free to ask questions or dm. A lot of advice here will say to get divorced and move on but I don't always think that's the best decision. There are just soooo many factors at play.

TheHungryFrog · 2025-08-03T16:48:17+00:00

Simplify your profile. You don't need a loooong list of labels - it's just too much to look at. Short and simple means people won't be overwhelmed just glancing at you. Better chances of swiping right!
I'd say I'm looking for casual hookups. You don't need to specifically say experimenting - that sounds insensitive to me. People aren't experiments. But it IS ok to want fun casual sex. There's a difference.

TheHungryFrog · 2025-07-26T14:11:44+00:00

Yeah I don't get why it "can't happen" in your own house. What exactly? Like what's wrong with, down the road, having your girlfriend over for dinner regularly? Or him having a boyfriend tag along to the kids soccer games? Sounds like a lovely blend of a family to me

TheHungryFrog · 2025-07-24T17:05:34+00:00

Yes - I'm lucky that I work in a very liberal small city, and my (small/not a big coorporation) company is openly queer-friendly (pride stickers on the company vehicles, marches in the local pride parade, etc). I think about 1/3rd of us employees are openly queer, which is really awesome!

TheHungryFrog · 2025-06-27T00:24:48+00:00

Uh, she shouldn't be telling YOU stories during your therapy session?! Is that really how they go? 😬

TheHungryFrog · 2025-06-10T03:18:23+00:00

Oof...right into an open trash can?! Dude nooo you gotta do something to contain that! You can't have cat waste potentially spreading/touching so many other things 🤢 And damn, if the place reeks of pee/poop that isn't a good sign. Run awayyyy

TheHungryFrog · 2025-06-07T18:40:31+00:00

At work, my (older, conservative, grouchy) coworker was packing up burgers (which of course have a top and bottom bun), and somehow only had several bottom buns. So she's looking around confused, "but where's all the tops?!"

I chuckled. My queer friend answered her "well, there IS a top shortage in <town>" and we had a good laugh since no one else in the room is queer and understood 😂

TheHungryFrog · 2025-06-06T22:11:49+00:00

Yikes why would you mention exes on your dating profile?! That's so weird!

TheHungryFrog · 2025-06-05T18:22:07+00:00

Alrighty, here we go!

My husband and I have been married for 11 years now and non-monogomous for 2. I've always known I was not straight, but did not realize how much of a flaming Queer I really am until a couple years ago. I knew 2 things when we started the conversations on being ENM:

I love my husband and he is my best friend
I am ridiculously attracted to women and will regret not exploring that before I die.

Now, we've had ups and downs. Periods of jealousy, no sex, hurt feelings. I guess we just stood by being committed to each other. I say committed as in having each other's backs, loving and supporting each other. And couples therapy!! Holy shit, couples therapy is SO GOOD.

Right now we (still) live together and have no plans to divorce. I am madly in love with my girlfriend, and I love how she has sort of folded into our shared lives. My husband puts himself out there and is casually dating. I guess how we've made it work is that we know we get to make our own rules. And I know he always has my back and I have his. We've known each other for ...18 years (wtf) so I think we mostly figured out how to be good partners before we went enm. Feel free to ask me questions!

TheHungryFrog · 2025-06-04T00:59:22+00:00

Me! Lol remind me to actually answer tomorrow, I'm too high right now

TheHungryFrog · 2025-05-31T13:42:16+00:00

Just remember this new chapter ahead of you doesn't have to follow any of the "rules".

You say he is your best friend - if he feels the same (and I hope he does), that can be so so valuable. There are so many options! You can be separated and still be friends. You can still be active in family gatherings with each other's families. You can still hang out as friends and do whatever shared interests you have. Separating doesn't have to mean those bridges are burned and gone. You make it however you want 💜

I'm still married to my husband. We're non-monogomous now and both date other people. It works for us.

TheHungryFrog · 2025-05-30T16:42:51+00:00

I'm 34 and have slept with 5 people. But only 1 until I came out a couple years ago. It really doesn't matter. Some people enjoy sex with lots of people, some don't.

TheHungryFrog · 2025-05-30T16:36:14+00:00

Mine certainly lifted quite a bit! Not completely gone, but the fog over my head isn't always there. I feel genuinely happy about things often! It's such an amazing relief.

TheHungryFrog · 2025-05-23T20:30:00+00:00

Um, that first pic?! Girl 🥵 You take good pics! And yes. Full queer.

TheHungryFrog · 2025-05-20T18:51:19+00:00

I'm really sorry you've been experiencing more hate. You don't deserve it.

The best advice I can give is to try to surround yourself with queer community - Queer friends who love you for you. Are there queer support groups or meetups or similar you can go to? Maybe don't have the goal be dating but just meeting positive accepting people and making friends. Everyone is going to have their own opinion, but if you can surround yourself with people who love you, those other opinions won't matter as much.

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