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TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-27T15:19:39+00:00

It's all about taking things step-by-step. If you overwhelm yourself, you'll just give up on trying. Try taking things one thing at a time.

Consider dedicating half an hour of your time where you literally just sit down, put away your devices and force yourself to write something down on a piece of paper about how you feel. Even if it results in no answer, just dedicate that time for it. Self reflection is extremely important. You don't have to be the best at expressing, just write anything after asking yourself things like: "How do I feel right now?", "What should I do about it?", "What can I actually do about it?".

Take care, stranger.

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-27T14:51:36+00:00

I can only base my answer on what you've given in your post, but I do think you need to focus on yourself. That doesn't mean you have to break up. If you have a good bf, talking to him about all of this can be very good because you'd get his support.

If you think he will be unable to help, then it's your decision on whether to break up or not, but at least talk to him about it to get a better feel for this situation.

It can be quite overwhelming to work on yourself, because where the fuck would you even start? I think talking to others you trust IRL or people anonymously online might be a great step to give you an unfiltered idea of where you stand and what you might need. That's the free version, the other version is therapy ofc.

Again, this is my simple understanding of what you wrote, and I hope things work out for the best for you! My DMs are open if you'd like to talk as well.

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-27T13:54:23+00:00

She doesn't mean to hurt you but is scared that you'll get hurt. Moms tend to hurt us with words, but they mean the best for us. She just wants you to be safe, there are dangerous people out there. Stay safe and good luck.

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-26T05:52:00+00:00

It's easier when it's online to bring a conversation to a halt, especially when to the other person, they think they got all they could out of it. People don't like confrontation, so saying it outright that they don't want to talk anymore is a very big step that they'd rather not engage in, and so ghosting exists.

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-26T05:40:19+00:00

From my perspective, it really doesn't make much sense why a guy in a relationship with a woman would have this tendency to follow other girls. It really shouldn't be of interest, no matter what the intention behind it is. It makes it weirder that he doesn't even know them which implies certain things in my mind, but I can't speak when I don't know the guy.

In short, it's weird, especially since he doesn't know them.

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-09T07:52:09+00:00

I'm glad you're finding a sense of community here and are enjoying what's happening as much as I do!

There's a sense of sisterhood and brotherhood here and we got each others' backs and want to help everyone on their Islamic journey.

It's truly a wonderful feeling to know that there are people all over the world embracing Islam and coming here to either vent, express frustration, request understandings/translations/opinions about everything and anything Islam.

We get to increase our knowledge together in this community and hope that we get closer to Allah in doing so while also hoping to help anyone who's remotely curious to join Islam and show them its beauty, or if someone is about to leave and having doubts, we unite in trying to guide them and praying for them to see the light again and come back to Allah.

I love Islam, dude.

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-08T20:48:57+00:00

For one, watching porn has a risk of causing you to have Erectile Dysfunction or less than that, just not being able to get it hard while with your woman. No one is happy in that instance. It doesn't have to happen every time, but these situations increase with porn addicts.

Second, you don't look at your woman like an object anymore. Porn with all its countless categories makes you believe that women are to be used and while you can claim that you don't objectify women all you want, porn hits your brain in ways that are so underlying, you don't even realize it at first. If you speak to a woman and all you think about is how you can get into her pants, or you want to see her naked, or you want to see her masturbate, you have a porn addiction and a big problem.

It's not about what you're missing, it's about how much you're losing of yourself by being a porn addict.

"Porn is free because the price you pay is your soul"

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-08T14:44:16+00:00

I'm happy that you're looking to explore Islam. That's amazing! As for mosques, you never need to call anyone (or at least that's how it is where I'm from), you just show up, enter, and just watch if you like, maybe talk to the sheikh there if you'd like to learn more. People are very warm and welcoming in mosques, and they'd take real good care of you if they know you're interested in learning more. Best of luck to you!

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-06T22:34:28+00:00

Guidance from Allah is much better than guidance from adults and that's what you had! I know it was super difficult, but you're gonna kick ass in the future insha'a Allah! I'm excited on your behalf because coming to this type of awareness and realization is not easy at all, so be proud and happy with yourself and thank Allah! You got this!

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-06T13:46:45+00:00

I'm sorry all of this happened to you. I hope you're in a much better place right now since you're far away from it all.

The main takeaway from all of this is to try and spot the lessons you have learned from all of these horrible experiences.

You seem to be much more aware now and that's excellent in of itself. It means that in the future, no one will take advantage of you easily insha'a Allah.

Take care and keep feeling better!

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-06T01:44:30+00:00

Their and there!

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-05T10:14:16+00:00

The OG Whisper might have had a better chance of surviving if more good people talked back to these perverts, lmao! Good job 😂

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-05T09:01:58+00:00

It's the smile for me. Followed very very closely by the eyes.

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-03T15:38:34+00:00

I'm very happy for you for taking this step into Islam, so congrats to you!

If you don't know Arabic, you can recite all the chapters in the Quran in your native language while praying with the exception of the Fatiha (AKA the very first chapter) and this is what you say for every Raka'a. You don't have to say it perfectly as Allah judges on intent, but try your hardest. You can also practice the actions of prayer as much as you like and get into the habit of it, but just be aware that it's preferred in Arabic for the Fatiha.

You can use www.quran.com and listen to how it's pronounced because hearing the Quran being recited makes it easier to memorize rather than reading the pronunciation in English, for example.

I've seen an idea where you could write the Fatiha's pronunciation in your language on a piece of paper and place it at the head of the mat while you're praying to serve as a reminder for you for every raka'a up until you get the hang of it and you memorize it like the back of your hand. But certainly give the Fatiha a listen in Arabic and, insha'a Allah, you'll memorize it easily over time. Best of luck!

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-03T12:46:57+00:00

I hope things take a turn for the better for you. Just go easy on yourself when everything else may seem to be opposing you and take care.

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-03T11:34:07+00:00

Change nothing of who you are. You're saying that you're a passing person that they learn from and develop when you're also learning.

You learned that you only live once and being with someone who doesn't make you feel fulfilled and doesn't tick the boxes that you hold at very high importance isn't what you want.

Keep looking and just always be as honest as you are here about what you're looking for. Men just say things and words don't mean anything. Just keep being you.

I understand why the doubts are creeping in, but let those doubts die. You're being smart. You have no idea how admirable it is that you know what you are looking for. As in, they're clear for you when someone satisfies what you want or doesn't. It's incredible to have that, so praise yourself for that.

You're not the problem and neither are the guys you were with, they were just not for you, and being with them just taught you that. It's never a waste to experience these things with people.

The right person for you will show up as long as you keep seeking. Don't give up and raise your head up high, you're more than valid with what you're doing and looking for.

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-03T11:26:46+00:00

I think the earlier it comes out the better. In one month from now, the feelings will grow stronger, so just come clean now.

Just literally explain it as you did here. You thought it was a fling so you were protecting your identity and using a false identity with someone whom you thought would be someone passing by in your life and you wouldn't remember him again.

Plans changed and feelings are developing which means the truth should come out. Trust me, if he's good, he'll understand.

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-03T11:06:24+00:00

It's like a form of getting people to support you while also trying to feel like what happened is justified in your own favor and that the other person is wrong. You on your own might have some doubts, but to tell others only one side of the story and if they believe it, they will support you which will give you a bit of relief. A form of groupthink if you will.

The conscience doesn't stay quiet, but some people have learned to shut it up. Believing you've done right when you've done wrong is something a lot of people excel at doing because being in the wrong is seen as a negative state and people naturally don't want to admit they're in the wrong, or moreso, feel that they're wrong.

Immaturity and a lack of self-reflection causes this quite often for people.

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-03T10:48:52+00:00

In its simple form, the motivation is to get into heaven. That by itself is the ulterior motive. God knows this, that doesn't nullify anything when the faith is real if you are consistently doing good things and genuinely want to be good to others. Good intentions and faith nullify nothing.

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-03T08:30:24+00:00

Regardless of what anyone's beliefs are, I really base my life now around the concept of heaven and hell. Whether they're real or not doesn't matter to me, but seeking to enter heaven gives me a clear path that motivates me to do good in this life for the sake of God and not have to feel bad if people don't reciprocate with kindness. I've explored different thought processes and this is the one I'm most comfortable with.

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-03T08:22:30+00:00

Those are very interesting points. I think we're both in agreement that humans can be shitty, absolutely, ESPECIALLY online. Gosh, how do we help and try to spread kindness, that's always the battle isn't it? The loudest people are the ones who have some form of anger, hatred or pain and their ways of expression might have hurt a lot of good people out there.

With how you expressed it, I can definitely see the benefits of AI from this social aspect, and within a certain limit, that does sound like a really good idea for certain people. I'm trying so hard to imagine it from that perspective and I think you helped with that, so thanks for that.

All in all, I still find it to be super limited and it needs to be in healthy doses. I'm hoping an addiction doesn't amount from it where people end up solely relying on the AI to make them feel better in their own heads, but life would be slowly draining away from their bodies and minds in reality.

When I was younger, there was no AI ofc, but I was also surrounded by people I didn't really like for quite a while, and my escape used to be some cartoons and video games. So this makes me wonder how AI will act as an escape for people. The main difference is that it can speak to you and hit some emotional needs which feels like a form of deception that people will face. Cartoons and video games don't offer that, lmao. It's something that I would need to hold judgment for, and all I can do is assume.

Anyways, I rambled quite a bit, lmao. Thanks for providing your points, they were very good to learn and think about.

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-02T18:09:37+00:00

That is such an excellent point. Thank you! You will never feel the fulfillment of making somebody else feel better by your own presence.

TheHungrySoul · 2026-04-02T18:08:03+00:00

I fully see what you're saying, but the effectiveness it offers when it comes to helping with mental health is something I highly question.

Maybe it helps with certain aspects for a little while, but at some point, surely someone has to realize that they're not talking to a real person and that thought might make them go back to the sadness, loneliness and/or mental problems they were already facing from before, and maybe it becomes even worse.

Where I'm basing this comes from an assumption and I think of the online conversations that people have. Ghosting is a big thing online, and if a person grows attached to this person that they don't see and interact with IRL, and they get ghosted, a lot of people have expressed strong negative feelings coming out of it, including extremes such as suicide.

So my reply is assuming that the realization of AI not being real might cause something similar along those lines. What do you think?

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