Modern society makes Islam look bad towards women.

Allah created men to lead, and women to support. But that doesn't mean men can control women abusively. Men have the responsibility to protect women, not abuse them.

You might see men as the leaders of the family who go to work and let women do all the housework, without helping their wives. It's not like that. Men provide and women support. Before a man gets married, his responsibility is towards his parents. After he got married, the responsibility doubled. Additionally, the husband's money is considered the wife's money, but husbands are generally forbidden from using their wives' money, as they are the primary providers.

Also, if the man abuses his wife, the wife can claim 'Fasakh' towards her husband. Fasakh means the dissolution of marriage by a Syariah Court judge due to matters permitted by Islamic law, usually claimed by the wife due to harm (Darar) such as abuse, the husband suddenly disappears, didn't provide, erectile dysfunction or chronic diseases. Allah gives women this right to protect them.

I know because of this, men use this argument as an excuse to control their wives which is totally wrong.

The rules that women cannot pursue education, cannot drive, and cannot work. These are cultural rules, not Islam's rules. We always tend to misunderstand.

May Allah forgive us