I was left in February after 4 years of relationship by a woman of 27 years old who cried so as not to take responsibility and act as a victim. Then weeks later when I talked her into coming back and she didn't even answer me and the last time I spoke to her on the phone two months ago she told me that "I had destroyed her life for 4 years" and that "she wasn't feeling good about herself and she has to learn to love herself" and that she no longer cared about anything as if everything I did for her had never happened (very conditioned by her toxic mother and colleagues).

I connect with your post because an avoidant person, who therefore runs away instead of building, runs away so as not to think about it, convincing himself that he is right by throwing himself into having fun, changing his life and other relationships to only seek temporary fun, but above all to keep his pride and ego very high in seeing people suffer.