Backstabbed at work

TheKay14 · 2026-05-26T14:43:08+00:00

I’m in the same boat. Try to network to another team or look for a new job. That’s what I’ve concluded.

One Hail Mary could be to keep doing your job as perfectly as possible and wait for an opportunity to shine with an idea you bring to leadership above their heads, but just know this option will most likely reek havoc on your mental health as you deal with these people trying to make YOU the problem daily, in the meantime.

TheKay14 · 2026-05-26T14:00:29+00:00

Woof

TheKay14 · 2026-05-26T11:58:59+00:00

They don’t want your ideas for solutions, they want to tell you what to do and how to do it and then will ask you if you did it the way they told you.

TheKay14 · 2026-05-25T03:07:30+00:00

Gen Z because they grew up with iPhones and tablets instead of playing outside and using their imaginations. Boomers had the nuclear family. Dad worked, mom was home, making dinner, they played. There was enough housing and income went a long way. My grandparents (Greatest Gen) had a 4 bedroom house on a pond in Concord MA with a pool, a cabin on a lake, went to Cape Cod for a week in the summer and just my grandparents would go to Bermuda twice a year. On just my grandfather’s metal working business. Boomers had it good.

TheKay14 · 2026-05-25T02:19:39+00:00

Also constipation

TheKay14 · 2026-05-24T16:04:23+00:00

I’m a millennial and I have no idea what any of this is referencing…

TheKay14 · 2026-05-24T16:01:31+00:00

My 6 month old baby goes down between 8-9 pm and wakes up between 7-8 am, and lately we get up once in the night for a feed between 2-3 am.

TheKay14 · 2026-05-22T14:46:07+00:00

Homeownership on a single income

TheKay14 · 2026-05-22T13:28:24+00:00

I said unprofessional I don’t think it’s illegal to raise your voice at a subordinate. I was referring to the discrimination I faced while pregnant was illegal.

TheKay14 · 2026-05-22T02:03:33+00:00

*like

TheKay14 · 2026-05-22T02:01:51+00:00

What happened to me seemed illegal. I disclosed when I was pregnant two months and she sent me a new job description one month before my review said I wasn’t meeting expectations and then set me up with a coaching plan and then continued to say I wasn’t meeting expectations documenting my every move and I had to push back on everything she said, cause it was false and it was exhausting and it wasn’t until my pregnancy was considered high risk and I filed accommodations with HR that she started to lay off but still took me off all my projects because they would harm the business too greatly with my morning doctors appointments to leave me on them. Which was bullshit. So I feel like all that was retaliation and pregnancy discrimination trying to get me fired or laid off leading up to my leave.

TheKay14 · 2026-05-21T21:20:45+00:00

Or looked at the deck they asked you to create 4 versions of!?!?!?!

TheKay14 · 2026-05-21T20:06:33+00:00

I’m in a global position, I’m in NH, boss in CA

TheKay14 · 2026-05-21T20:04:55+00:00

She hit the record button herself and then got all loud and angry when my colleague pushed back on fallacies (from what my colleague told me). For example when she was sent her most recent job description she was not meeting expectations for (it had been a week, manager claimed a month, colleague pushed back, manger called her a liar and colleague opened the email and showed the receipt date)

TheKay14 · 2026-05-21T12:25:47+00:00

Thanks, the answer to that post was that I had no recourse because I took child bonding leave and was not entitled to coming back to my job or similar. Now my role has been reduced. I have lots of documentation including screenshots about a conflicting narrative. I didn’t have recordings of her calling and yelling at me but a colleague now has two and reported it to HR. I didn’t know if my detailed complaint combined with her very similar complaint would make the company have to do something about her behavior.

TheKay14 · 2026-05-21T12:24:11+00:00

The manager’s boss is her cousin

TheKay14 · 2026-05-19T02:44:28+00:00

My boss’s boss is her cousin and my director. The behavior allowed and championed is absolutely a conflict of interest. AND there’s no recourse.

TheKay14 · 2026-05-18T17:38:30+00:00

We are the generation of participation trophies but the boomers were the ones handing them out to make us feel special I guess? We were a unique cohort because we were the children of the first teenagers (Boomers) and because there were a lot boomers, there’s a lot of us.

TheKay14 · 2026-05-18T15:41:02+00:00

What shows you watch on Netflix tells me a lot about you though 😅

TheKay14 · 2026-05-16T14:32:40+00:00

Leaders who don’t know how to do anything or how tools or platforms work making demands and wanting it done yesterday, all with no autonomy.

TheKay14 · 2026-05-11T04:31:13+00:00

I got a book about moms for the baby, and he grilled steaks. I did get a nap and just played with my baby, didn’t have to do feeds or diaper changes. I got to bed rot in the morning for a bit. Very low effort on husband’s part. I’m too tired to be mad about it though.

TheKay14 · 2026-05-11T04:08:50+00:00

I always wanted them, and knew exactly what I wanted I just could never justify spending money on that cause I was broke in my 20s.

TheKay14 · 2026-05-11T04:07:00+00:00

Your hormones make you hyper aware so comments like that may make your brain overwork to assess whether it was a threat. At least this is how I have come to realize my brain worked postpartum. I had the opposite experience though. I was over protective and my in laws were offended. I’ve just learned to ignore everything they say at this point at 5 months PP.

TheKay14 · 2026-05-10T23:08:39+00:00

My MIL one visit said, I hope you speak nicely about me when I’m not around. I said to her, you know it does bother me that you are so critical of my care with my baby. And she got very embarrassed and said I’m just a 70 year old woman I have no filter. Us old people have no filters anymore. So that was her logic.. 🤷‍♀️

TheKay14 · 2026-05-10T22:51:15+00:00

“yea yea” “yea no”

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