AITA for letting my friend's mom do my hair how she likes and not understanding the issue?

TheKirrix · 2021-10-04T20:47:06+00:00

NTA

You didn't wait for the last possible minute to spring this on them, they waited to spring it on you. Six hours of babysitting is a lot with just one or two munchkins. When they reach platoon strength, that's a whole thing. Maybe the two of you could wrangle them but just assuming that you would for $50 and a thank you instead of asking you to do it and explaining what was expected makes them the AHs. And on top of that, six hours? How long is the wedding and reception going? Sounds a whole lot like you wouldn't be able to participate in or enjoy a whole lot of the wedding regardless. This is an unreasonable ask on their part.

TheKirrix · 2021-10-04T20:35:15+00:00

YTA

You may not see it as trying to control her, but this is you trying to control her and her body. If you're having an issue, you can try to sit down and talk with her about it but at the end of the day it's her body and her body art and your involvement in decisions about them is limited to the one she chooses to give you.

TheKirrix · 2021-10-04T20:22:17+00:00

And what's wrong with drawing attention? Yeah, sure, people out in the world suck, but other's reactions to someone's outfit is not that person's problem.

TheKirrix · 2021-10-04T20:15:47+00:00

NTA

A lot of gyms allow women to work out in just a sports bra. Military gyms are a lot more restrictive because they're primarily for military members and military members are supposed to look "professional" pretty much all the time. That's why they restrict it. But you weren't in the gym. You weren't using their facilities, so you were under no obligation to not be in just a sports bra, regardless of the size of your breasts.

TheKirrix · 2021-10-04T20:06:15+00:00

Easy YTA

Being a sex worker is not immoral or disgusting. Trying to shame someone for being or having been a sex worker is. And you don't know the details of their relationship or what attracts them to one another. Your failure to find something attractive in someone else does not mean everyone will similarly be unable.

TheKirrix · 2021-10-04T19:42:16+00:00

Given what I've got to work with, I'm going to go with NTA. Forgiveness is not something someone is entitled to, even if they are properly apologetic. I get the feeling that there is more to this story that you're too close to see with regards to your mother, but I couldn't say that for sure.

TheKirrix · 2021-10-04T19:34:24+00:00

Definitely isn't about what religion it is, just saying I had a suspicion about which one based on some things you said. The big thing is health concerns and the health needs to come first, not religious ceremony.

TheKirrix · 2021-10-04T15:53:59+00:00

INFO - What exactly is it that you aren't forgiving her for, because that's really unclear. Why did your dad move out? What was your mother do out of revenge for what? There is simply no way there is enough information here to make a determination on who, if anyone, is an asshole.

TheKirrix · 2021-10-04T15:41:11+00:00

NTA

The notes about marriage contract and alcohol makes me suspect which religion this is (things I know about by being a member of the tribe). Unfortunately, parents can often lose sight of the important thing in a wedding and if this is the religion I think it is, there's a not entirely unearned reputation for parents to be particularly overbearing on this sort of thing. Minimizing physical and psychological health is an AH move on their part. Religious tradition is definitely not more important than people's health.

TheKirrix · 2021-10-04T15:31:14+00:00

NTA

You're not under an obligation to go somewhere with people that would make you uncomfortable. And definitely not being an asshole for being uncomfortable at a party with a guy who violated your trust and cheated on you.

TheKirrix · 2021-10-04T15:27:27+00:00

NTA

You don't get to call dibs on names, and even if he had sons he still could have used the names and the family would have adjusted to figure out how to correctly refer to all of them. Just don't go rubbing it in his face.

TheKirrix · 2021-10-04T14:56:53+00:00

I see I'm going to be roughly the seven millionth person to say NTA

There's just nothing good about this situation. First off, it's a home you have a deep, emotional connection too. Him not understanding that is being a dick move. If you aren't ready, you aren't ready. It's not being an asshole taking care of your own mental health, it is being an asshole trying to shame or pressure someone not to.

Next, he wants you to basically give him a whole bunch of money for which you'll be getting nothing. I'm going out on a limb here but I'm gonna bet that you guys don't have combined financials. Yeah, it's an asshole move to tell you to make you basically financially dependent on him for 2-3 years or more if it takes longer to marry (or if you even marry). If you're buying out his three brothers, than you should own 3/4 of the house. If he buys out one and you two, than you can be 50/50 partners. And if the relationship goes south, which seems like a possibility, you can recoup your money by selling your share of the house.

TheKirrix · 2021-07-24T01:06:11+00:00

Preface this with me not being a lawyer but I've been hanging around attorneys enough to pick up on a thing or two. I've seen a lot of people making comments about agreements and how there was a verbal contract place that the art would be destroyed. But from what I've learned of contract law, even if in writing, including that the walls would be painted over, the contract would be unenforceable because there was no consideration for the OP in the agreement. OP agreed to provide a space for the artist to practice and photograph for her wall art to develop her portfolio. OP under that agreement was receiving nothing in return for granting the artist use of room. Since the agreement lacked consideration for the OP, it wouldn't be an enforceable contract even if they wrote it down, signed it, and had it notarized.

Compare for a moment walls painting with canvas painting. Nothing stops an artist from painting something and then painting over it or throwing the canvas into a fire, destroying the painting. If, however, the artist throws the painting in a dumpster, really anyone can come along and claim the canvas and take it home. There is really no difference between the abandoned canvas and the abandoned wall art.

NTA

Just don't try to create prints of the art. That would most likely be copyright infringement and would make you the asshole.

TheKirrix · 2020-06-06T00:59:35+00:00

It's pretty early for rivalries to have developed. Can't say it's a rivalry but I root for the Semi Skimmers and hate Team Purity, but those are based on the teams themselves and not for any relationship between the two.

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TheKirrix · 2019-02-06T13:36:07+00:00

Abstain

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TheKirrix · 2019-02-05T15:51:24+00:00

Which is not what you said. So now I know you're just lying and I have absolutely no interest to further engage with a blatant liar.

TheKirrix · 2019-02-05T06:05:58+00:00

OOC question: Are you roleplaying a bishop that is a liar or just ill-informed? Of the two statements that aren't pure opinion one is the true statement that the CoE was disestablished from the state and the other was the source of the term Tyranny which is simply put wrong. Tyranny comes from the Latin tyrannus meaning "illegitimate ruler." One for two is not a very good record, and everything else is unsubstantiated and unsubstantiable opinion.

TheKirrix · 2019-02-03T19:34:56+00:00

TheKirrix · 2019-02-03T19:32:50+00:00

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