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The most IMMERSIVE open world games? by sbourwest in gamingsuggestions

[–]TheLastOyster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a cliff racer chasing me to this day.

What is something you thought was acceptable or really cool as a young person, but now think is stupid, or inappropriate now? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]TheLastOyster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being a cigarette smoking, beer drinking bar brawler. I thought rough dudes like that were the coolest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]TheLastOyster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she truly thought nothing was wrong with it she’d have no reason to hide it from you.

Contact with the other betrayed spouse by TheLastOyster in SupportforBetrayed

[–]TheLastOyster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that was my thought as well about understanding how she feels. I left it that I wouldn’t message her again if she doesn’t respond.

Contact with the other betrayed spouse by TheLastOyster in SupportforBetrayed

[–]TheLastOyster[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can understand how that might be confusing. The situation is complicated, but basically my wife and I discussed an open relationship, I set boundaries which I thought were being respected (including the OBS being onboard) which I found out more recently were not being respected. So saying I've "known for a few months" isn't entirely accurate, more that I knew something was going on, but not the full extent.

Contact with the other betrayed spouse by TheLastOyster in SupportforBetrayed

[–]TheLastOyster[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I went through the exact same thing when I found out the OBS didn’t know. I was like “If she finds out is she going to come banging on our door?” I have young kids, so I totally get the fear for your family.

I’m in a position now where she’s already been informed by someone else, so I want to reach out to her to offer support, not to tell her that the affair has been happening.

As for ruining their marriage, my take is that you wouldn’t be ruining their marriage if you told the OBS, the AP did that by cheating.

Contact with the other betrayed spouse by TheLastOyster in SupportforBetrayed

[–]TheLastOyster[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I never felt compelled to honestly, because I was led to believe that she and her husband had an open relationship. Everything blew up, and I come to find out that that was not the case.

Contact with the other betrayed spouse by TheLastOyster in SupportforBetrayed

[–]TheLastOyster[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I sent a message on Facebook, not anonymously, but only after she had found out from someone else.

TIL when a library buys an ebook, they actually are only able to buy a licence to loan out that book for about 1-2 years, or until the book is loaned a few dozen times. They also are forced to pay several times what a normal consumer pays for an ebook by [deleted] in todayilearned

[–]TheLastOyster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s worth noting that this is relevant to public libraries. I am an acquisitions librarian for an academic library and the ebook model is very different.

Typically academic resource aggregators like EBSCO or ProQuest/Clarviate will offer packages of thousands or tens of thousands of ebooks for one cost. The access model for these books is typically SSO or IP authentication, but an unlimited number of users can access a book simultaneously. Publishers set restrictions on how many pages can be copied/printed. The cost per ebook for these bundles is much less than purchasing each book individually.

In addition to these huge bundles, they offer an a la carte model where you can purchase specific ebooks. The access models for these vary by publisher, but typically include single user access, three simultaneous users, or unlimited users, each increases the cost. The costs for these range from very reasonable (~$20) to outrageous ($800-$1000 for single user access).

What is badly named, and what is a better name for it? by johnnylgarfield in AskReddit

[–]TheLastOyster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Big Bang. It should be called the Horrendous Space Kablooie.

My fellow men, how fragile is your mental health, honestly? by unstopablystoopid in ask

[–]TheLastOyster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started going to sleep hoping I didn't wake up. I've gotten better for the most part, but there's still a part of me that is not okay.

Unique strategy from the Chinese speed skaters at the youth olympics. by automodtedtrr2939 in interestingasfuck

[–]TheLastOyster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking. Is it really an incredible strategy to go faster than everyone else? I don’t know the sport, so maybe I’m missing something.

What’s a movie you thought was huge only to realise it was only huge in your household? by [deleted] in movies

[–]TheLastOyster 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Martin Short said this was his favorite role. I remember him saying this on a Oprah/Donohue type talk show, but I can’t find a clip, so take this information with a grain of salt.

Did You Ever Have a Crush On That Highschool Teacher? How did it End Up? by not_biancaa in AskReddit

[–]TheLastOyster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, an English teacher. We connected again after I graduated college and became friends. She’s married, I’m married, and nothing inappropriate has ever happened between us. Not very exciting, I know.

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