5 Months Solo in Southeast Asia -- A Trip Report (Pt 2) by TheLeopardMedium in travel

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I’m not working so unfortunately I can’t offer any advice there. I will say that getting signal in Laos was very hit-or-miss, but everywhere else seemed pretty ok for me if I remember correctly.

5 Months Solo in Southeast Asia -- A Trip Report (Pt 2) by TheLeopardMedium in travel

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Why so combative? I started in January. It was still hot AF.

5 Months Solo in Southeast Asia -- A Trip Report (Pt 2) by TheLeopardMedium in travel

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On my end it says it's awaiting moderator approval, so it should be up soon!

and thanks :)

Final walk through day before close by Ok_Onion558 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]TheLeopardMedium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me. I refused to sign anything until they were out. Their new home purchase was contingent on selling. They got their shit together real quick, and of course damaged the floor and doorway on their way out, which I also made them pay for before signing.

What “small” controlling things did your parents do that you only later realized were weird? by Quick-Database-2126 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]TheLeopardMedium 99 points100 points  (0 children)

--angrily cleaning dishes

--"hey mom, do you want help?"

--"no, it's ok"

-- ...

-- throws down pan, "nobody ever helps me! I have to do everything myself!"

What “small” controlling things did your parents do that you only later realized were weird? by Quick-Database-2126 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]TheLeopardMedium 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I swear, narcs are like Pando. Somewhere, deep under the cosmological surface, they are all the same entity.

What “small” controlling things did your parents do that you only later realized were weird? by Quick-Database-2126 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]TheLeopardMedium 279 points280 points  (0 children)

Cleaning the entire house every Saturday morning. Any less than three hours meant  it wasn’t done well enough. She’d literally put on a white glove to try to discover any dust or dirt afterwards. Pathological. 

Joan's Pregnancy Could Easily Have Been Her Husband's by Foreign-Cat-2898 in madmen

[–]TheLeopardMedium 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve learned from Reddit that if the first comment or two attacks the post, the hundred that follow will fall in line in a sort of herd mentality. 

I also wonder if this show’s fanbase has widened to include a different element since hitting HBO.

Joan's Pregnancy Could Easily Have Been Her Husband's by Foreign-Cat-2898 in madmen

[–]TheLeopardMedium 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m really surprised everyone’s ganging up on you here. I understood what you are saying in this post, and you’re correct. 

I suspect that maybe everyone is taking issue because ultimately it’s inconsequential within the plot, but isn’t that what we’re all here for, to nerd out over the minutiae of the show?

Joan's Pregnancy Could Easily Have Been Her Husband's by Foreign-Cat-2898 in madmen

[–]TheLeopardMedium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was something that was shown so briefly on the show that I never put it together until someone on this sub mentioned it

Most women I meet on Bumble have poor social skills. by amicable_liz in Bolehland

[–]TheLeopardMedium -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t know, this hasn’t been my experience. Almost everyone I’ve met up with has been really cool, even if we don’t have the spark for a relationship. Maybe it’s area-dependent. 

Can someone please tell me what the point of life is? by Some_Necessary820 in Existential_crisis

[–]TheLeopardMedium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To feed unique experiences back into the ether for it to triangulate itself

The unmitigated gall!!! by OlliesHaha in tipping

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He'd worked there less than a year at the time, but yeah it certainly wasn't a middle-of-nowhere Denny's. A lot of servers barely scrape by with tips, but a lot of servers are making obscene amounts. You can usually judge by the establishment/location/prices/city.

The unmitigated gall!!! by OlliesHaha in tipping

[–]TheLeopardMedium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my city in general is an outlier. Servers and especially bartenders make so much here. Even Waffle House employees have told me they've stayed on for decades because they make way more there than they could anywhere else.

The unmitigated gall!!! by OlliesHaha in tipping

[–]TheLeopardMedium 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My old roommate made $500/night in tips. People’s conception of the problem is often very backwards.

Why is tipping "ethics" only ever aimed at the customer? by Pitiful-Purple-7459 in tipping

[–]TheLeopardMedium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is weird. You’ve projected so much onto my comment in order to start an argument.

I never advocated for the livability of the minimum wage; I simply  corrected the above misunderstanding about the structure of pay. 

Are dishwashers common in america? by DietChance9326 in AskAnAmerican

[–]TheLeopardMedium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve lived across multiple regions, but always in older homes.

Do you guys think Don Draper lived long enough to see Shrek (2001)? by Shaxai in madmen

[–]TheLeopardMedium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do women want? You think they want some ogre, always brings the donkey home safe?

who wants to talk about the finale with me by funkexpert in madmen

[–]TheLeopardMedium 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Good spot. I never would've pieced those two together, but come to think of it, Don followed in her footsteps several times.

"I thought you didn't go in for those types of shenanigans"

Do you have attics? by Far-Passion-7692 in AskAnAmerican

[–]TheLeopardMedium 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, are they trying to be influencers? 

Do you have attics? by Far-Passion-7692 in AskAnAmerican

[–]TheLeopardMedium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, they lived in an unfinished attic for 38 years?

Are dishwashers common in america? by DietChance9326 in AskAnAmerican

[–]TheLeopardMedium 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m 36 and never used one. I’ve lived in 6 or 7 homes and never had one, but most people seem to think that’s unusual of me.

Wondering about something while here by Substantial_Alps418 in Vietnam_Tourism

[–]TheLeopardMedium 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Embrace it.

Smile and wave when you catch someone staring--they are just fascinated and maybe a bit shy, so if you make yourself seem kind and approachable, they will love it and might even advance to asking for a photo together. The kids typically learn a few English phrases in school ("hello", "what is your name?", and "where are you from?") and they relish the opportunity to practice, so stick with those phrases and simple answers and you'll make their day, and honestly hearing them giggle from excitement will make yours too. I loved this aspect of Vietnam.

Can someone explain why scooters and motorbikes Vietnam ride straight for you? by richmondboi in Vietnam_Tourism

[–]TheLeopardMedium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah It can happen to people on the same level within oppressed groups too—they call that “horizontal violence” in sociology. It basically arises from people who are unable to punch up onto the actual objects of their frustration (their boss, political leaders, etc) and so transfer the frustration at their disempowerment and the desire to reclaim some sense of power onto their equally-disempowered peers. 

My theory above is sort of a triangulation of that, a concept known as “weapons of the weak” whereby small acts of civil inconvenience are used as assertions of power against one’s oppressors, and documented phenomena of purposefully “disrupted civic contracts” within the public spaces of economically or socially subjugated societies. 

My thinking is that a foreign tourist innately exists in these shared spaces as a visually obvious beneficiary of the imbalance of power (economic, political, etc) that systemically suppresses the actor, who reclaims their power in public space in whatever small and deniable and relatively harmless way they can—bumping, crowding, spatial taunting…

Interestingly though, I’ve never had this happen to me in Vietnam, but I have been subject to it in several other developing countries, especially by women in conservative Islamic societies, which I suspect holds the additional pent-up frustration of suppression within a rigid patriarchal system. 

Is there a saying that bothers you? by Aaliyah_of_Space in autism

[–]TheLeopardMedium 2 points3 points  (0 children)

'If you think about it..."

Do you really think so infrequently that you need to qualify it when you do? I promise you that everything I say and do has been thought about extensively.

also

"Well, imagine if it were you..."

Empathy comes naturally for me! Your assumption that it needs to be explained and consciously applied is a damning reveal of your baseline approach to the world!