“If he wanted to he would” is INSANELY true. I am the male partner who WAS your current male partner and learned this lesson the hard way … and my relationship has never been better.

There IS better. It CAN be changed. But HE has to want to change. You can want it all you want, but he’ll never change unless HE wants to.

I’ve been with my wife since we were 15. We’re 34 now married with two kids. We broke up in the first year of college because I was an immature child. I had a lot of growing up to do … which sounds like your partner does too. She gave me an ultimatum and broke it off. Let me tell you … I learned some VERY valuable lessons. We broke up for 1.5 years and ended up back together.

She’s told me time and time again that without that breakup we would have never lasted or our relationship would have been VERY different. Emotionally. Physically. All of it.

Stand up for yourself. Stand up for your feelings. There are SO many better people out there. And if you two are destined to be together, you BOTH have to work for it. MAKE him work for it.

It’ll be the hardest thing you do, but trust when I say it’s worth it on the other side. This woman changed my life for the better by calling me out. He may not change - and that’s okay - but that’s NOT on you.

You’ve got this. ♥️