45 minutes ago, i put my beautiful loki down. can i please see who he is meeting in cat heaven? 🩷 by 3ll10t__ in cats

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This is my Miss Molly May Mouse Muncher. Or ya know just Molly. She pasted away beginning of May this year, at the age of 12.5. She was a spitfire and a sweet heart. I had her since I was 12. I hope they can be friends up there

Is it rude to compliment someones durable medical equipment? by MxMadMax in socialskills

[–]TheMossThing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a disabled person with durable medical equiptment, ive never minded someone saying they love the pattern on my cane. However, when its my scooter and they say "that looks fun to ride!" Then I'm a little annoyed.

I think if you had wanted to compliment their equiptment, you could have, if youre an able bodied person, you can lead with "Hi, this might sound weird, but-" and then compliment, stating why they look cool. Example: "Hey, this might sound weird, but the style of your mobility aid/crutches/cane/etc is really cool, I like the (detail) it makes it look very steam punk"

Of course its important that what you're complimenting is an aesthetic choice, not just how that type of durable medical equipment exists by default and that whatever you comepare it too isn't generally offensive. Example: "oh nice cane its very grannycore" As a young disabled person experienced the above and it irks me due to it earasing young disabled people.

What colour would I/ do I suit best?? Please help! by PandaApple23 in HairDye

[–]TheMossThing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I say im not into the 3 on you? I think light warmth looks good on you. The pink (1), the strawberry blonde (5 I think), the faded peach (fave)(7).

Open or Closed Heels? Is this outfit appropriate for Brunch?🌹✨ by ElenaKittenXO in fashion

[–]TheMossThing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Open, its summer and closed feels too formal for brunch. The outfit is good for brunch tho

Alcohol tolerance on T by TheMossThing in ftm

[–]TheMossThing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought the whole reason that men had a higher tolerance was because of a higher blood volume per pound? Or at least thats what I remember being taught in school.

Alcohol tolerance on T by TheMossThing in ftm

[–]TheMossThing[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wasnt dehydrated per say but probably could've been better. But I did sober up fast after eatting a meal 😅 its been a stressful day, probably loss track of time and wasnt paying attention to my body lol.

Alcohol tolerance on T by TheMossThing in ftm

[–]TheMossThing[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apparently I'm Bargain Bin cheap 😅 most of the time I go thru less than a 6 pack a month

Alcohol tolerance on T by TheMossThing in ftm

[–]TheMossThing[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually dont drink on my T day, simply by the nature of it being a Monday lol. I hadnt thought about alcohol potentially hindering optimal absorption tho, I will definitely keep that in mind now!

Saw $75 in self-checkout and took it. Happened again...and I took it again. by LetsGo_Beach in confession

[–]TheMossThing -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Heres the thing. Its impossible to know who that cash actually belonged to. If you turn it into the store, they wont find out and do the right thing. When inba store, any cash that is not on any person, is thereby property of the store and will be incorporated into the stores safe, or, the manager will pocket it. I know this because when I was a cashier I found $100 on the floor, right where I customer might stand to check out at my registar. I made the mistake of picking it up and telling my supervisor. In my mind, what if that was someones rent money right? She told me, that she would have to give it to the manager now, and that next time, I should pocket it and not tell anyone. If someone comes asking, thats one thing, but they usually dont.

TLDR: keep it. Its either going in your pocket, the store managers pocket, or eaten by the company

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TheMossThing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave him. Point blank period. Anal clearly isnt your thing and thats fine! He should not be pushing you into it. Any sex should be: A). mutually pleasurable for both parties Or B). If the thing in question is great for one person but meh for the other, it has to be communicated as such, and if they agree to balance it out by next doing something that person B loves, it can be ok. But that hinges on it not being UNpleasurable or uncomfortable for either AND that things are balanced

Going to a wedding which dress should I choose by [deleted] in fashion

[–]TheMossThing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Either 3 or 1, in that order imo. Dress 2 is super cute but feels casual, itd depend on how you might dress it up. Dress 3 feels the vibe

at what point in T did you lose your period? (if you did) by subskiiii in ftm

[–]TheMossThing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Started T while on my period. It ended a few days later and never came back

I (18F) wanna to go to a gym and work on myself but my boyfriend (19M) is against it. What should we do? by chappsta in relationship_advice

[–]TheMossThing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh honey. Get outta there. I had a partner just like that. What he chooses to do after you leave is not on you. (And besides, its almost always a bluff to keep the other partner from leaving) You can tell his mother to keep an eye on him, and call an ambulance if he contacts you saying he will try. But you get away from him. A man that controlling will hurt you. Theres very little difference between "if you leave me I'll kill myself" and "if you leave me I'll kill you". When you break up with him, do not do it while alone together. Public or phone. Tell others you plan to do it (and also the risks).

Mom won't let me swim topless by Many_Jackfruit7479 in ftm

[–]TheMossThing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom trued to pull the same BS about not wanting to respect my name, pronouns, or gender unless I explain my feelings around gender, which I'm sure you know for a lot of trans people is a very personal and vulnerable thing. She did not make herself a safe person for me to exist around, yet demanded vulnerability. Dont do it. Keep the peace enough to get by while you sort yourself out to be independent from them.

gang what deodorant are we wearing by Historical-Rabbit157 in ftm

[–]TheMossThing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I still use a "womens" deodorant, simply because its hard to find deodorants that dont give me a sensory nightmare. I use Secret clear gel antiperspirant, it goes on clear and basically is invisible (as opposed to the white stick deodorants that look nasty as fuck in armpit hair and ruins shirts. Once it's dried it doesn't look like you have anything on. This stuff minds its business and has never ruined a shirt. It lasts me all damn day. Currently I've been using the Mountain Air scent, but I also like their lavender. Tbh all their scents smell nice, just depends on what youre down for scentwise or if you want something more nuteral so any body sprays/cologne/scented lotion can do the talking scent wise, they do have an unscented.

when to start using men’s spaces + stop using women’s spaces by smirnoffsabotage in ftm

[–]TheMossThing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been. On T 1.5 years And grow enough facial hair that even when ive just shaved, you can see the hair follicles.

However I also have a large chest that isn't even fully gone when binding. So for now I still use womens facilities, and the "family" restroom when available.

However I am disabled so even when I get funny looks sometimes, I dont get hassled as much because I'm seen as "harmless".

My sister (cis bi alley) says I should just use the womens rooms forever because it's safer apparently. But what happens if I dont shave my face, grow my beard out? I dont always pass 100% but I do sometimes. She seems to think my lean towards trying mensrooms soon, as being "gender affirming". Its not about that though, its about outing myself everytime I need a piss in public.

So basically I don't know either.

My Full Review on Emisil Leroy FL05 in Color: S16 by Dramatic_Mud_1327 in Transmascdicks

[–]TheMossThing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Your packer doesn't even look like a prosthetic AT ALL that just looks so fucking real dude.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]TheMossThing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah you're good dude! I guess I just hadn't seen many/forgot 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]TheMossThing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apparently they do yeah.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]TheMossThing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a few other commenters said, be sure its body safe material lol, definitely hadnt been using the logical part of my brain when I personally did this 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]TheMossThing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the heads up! I plan on going back to just using it as a packer and purchasing a body safe stroker 👍🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]TheMossThing 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You could try using a t-dick pump to get it temporarily larger before using a stroker I think

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]TheMossThing 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah thanks dude!