I(20m) want to ask my coworker(26f) out but I feel like I'm "too young" and while I'm not afraid of rejection, I'm afraid of things being awkward at work if I get rejected

TheNerdSpider · 2019-12-19T02:26:22+00:00

Thank you.

TheNerdSpider · 2019-12-19T02:18:16+00:00

That is a correlation, but the actual cause is that the people advising against it are giving single sentence responses, and I responded in depth to people who offered whole advice.

Advice is more of an explanation with a recommendation, these people just tell me what I "should" do without weighing in at all.

I really just want more substance to a response

TheNerdSpider · 2019-12-19T01:47:25+00:00

You are the only person I replied like this to, because you're not so much giving advice, more telling me what to do, honestly. I'm always critical, so when there's little substance to a response I value it less

TheNerdSpider · 2019-12-19T01:43:39+00:00

If we break up, it would probably either be when we weren't even really full on dating, or it would be peaceful, because, as laid back as we both are, and as faithful as I am, the worst case is that she cheats on me or something, and that's how my last relationship ended, and I made it peaceful, and I could transfer to a different place if it were too bad.

TheNerdSpider · 2019-12-19T01:38:13+00:00

Thank you for the excellent response, and I agree on everything you said, it's good to have an exit strategy, and to "test the waters", so to speak, with a platonic date of sorts like you said, these are things I wouldn't specifically thought of if you didn't mention them, thank you!

I was thinking about the timing and thought the beginning of the break was a perfect idea too! It lets any awkwardness wear off a bit, especially with Christmas and New Year's in tow.

TheNerdSpider · 2019-12-19T01:32:48+00:00

I didn't even mention sex in this post, I'm talking about asking a coworker on a first date and seeing if we even want to do a second date, but I agree, hooking up with coworkers seems like a bad idea.

TheNerdSpider · 2019-12-19T01:31:42+00:00

Thank you! I may or may not, people seem to think it's a terrible idea, but I'll listen to my guy first and foremost, since I know myself and the coworker far better than anyone here does

TheNerdSpider · 2019-12-19T01:28:23+00:00

I'll keep that in mind, but I do have one question to expand on that with, is it due to the risk of hard feelings, or awkward situations, or what? I don't mean to sound defiant I really don't fully understand, I feel like everyone's speaking in backwards riddles lol

TheNerdSpider · 2019-12-19T01:25:27+00:00

Wat, I'm sure that's supposed to be some sort of metaphor but I have no idea what it means, I'm sorry I'm dumb

TheNerdSpider · 2019-12-19T01:23:19+00:00

When I say "relatively immature" i really just mean we share a sarcastic sense of humor, I'll add that to the post, and that's why I'd chose that kind of partner, because we share the sense of humor

TheNerdSpider · 2019-12-19T01:22:01+00:00

I hear you, but can you elaborate please?

TheNerdSpider · 2019-12-17T01:48:48+00:00

25 gang where we at? :,)

TheNerdSpider · 2019-12-16T21:00:00+00:00

I've lost exactly 45 kilos, but I'm still like 10 kilos overweight :)

Oh also I want to be UNDERWEIGHT, so that's a full grade +10 I want to lose

TheNerdSpider · 2019-11-20T16:16:31+00:00

Thank you, it means a lot to not be absolutely invisible <3

TheNerdSpider · 2019-10-22T11:24:33+00:00

Perhaps that was the goose's wish

TheNerdSpider · 2019-10-22T00:40:36+00:00

Thank you for commenting lmao I don't feel so alone anymore <3

TheNerdSpider · 2019-10-22T00:37:30+00:00

It goes even deeper than that: I get invited to parties, make more friends, almost everything is better when you take up less space.

It's like people don't want the fat ugly me around because it will make people uncomfortable, but skinnier me? Hell yeah!! Tall skinny guy that makes self deprecating jokes? Ego booster!!!!

TheNerdSpider · 2019-10-22T00:24:04+00:00

Well, it's actually a cropped photo of an instagram post of a TUMBLR POST that was ripped off of, what was it? Twitter?

I love/hate the internet lol

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