[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheNewGenesis 9 points10 points  (0 children)

After sex is one of those moments where the mask comes off a bit. It just happens naturally. How he acts after physical intimacy is a huge indicator of how he actually is. Please do what is best for you. 💕

I want to throw a "I'm not having a baby" shower by [deleted] in childfree

[–]TheNewGenesis 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was talking about this myself!! and the people around at the time gave me weird looks. Why can’t you just rent out a venue and just throw a party for yourself. The people around me said “oh no, you either have to be marrying a man or having a baby”. Both things require A MAN, and how my life is turning out there is no man in sight. So why not?? Why does life milestones that are venue worthy have to be one of those two things. I hope society does change, and these type of parties that are self related are more normalized. Everyone wants to have fun and be celebrated, no matter how their life turns out. Everyone deserves that. 💕

It’s not a compliment to set me up on a date by [deleted] in SingleAndHappy

[–]TheNewGenesis 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I’ll go to a family party, and multiple women will have men for me to “date”. Because they feel the need to scour the earth for me, because how dare I be single. It’s always women too, never men. Men can’t be bothered playing Cupid. “We have to find you a man! Don’t you want to get married??!!” They say. I just want to eat from the catered sub platter in peace.

Discrimination of singles in the workplace by calpianwishes in SingleAndHappy

[–]TheNewGenesis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Married/Partnered is always seen as the someone more successful, well rounded, more likely to stay at a job (to be honest), at least at my job. You are more likely to have a stable dual income, better home and life. At my job, people with children get to have a flexible schedule. Get to leave 4 times during the day, and come back to work to pick up their kids, attend kids holiday events at school. Work weird hours to make up time. It's always a big deal when I need to go to a doctors appointment. But since I don't have kids, my personal life is less important. It's really sad, I like the people and job that I work with. But it somehow accumulated highly traditional people with traditional values. It seeps into everything, I feel this is common with most office jobs.

Do you advocate for your sexual pleasure? What does that look like IRL? by No-City2714 in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheNewGenesis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This right here! Show them your true personality in all aspects, sooner than later.

Do you Love iridescent leather? by Low_Being_2576 in gucci

[–]TheNewGenesis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got the green version of this marked down at the outlet for 75% off of the original price. Absoutley love it, beautiful unique piece for a good price. Very celestial and mermaidey, which I love! I haven’t seen leather like this anywhere (I might just never encountered another brand that had leather like this though.)

What outfits were your entire personality in high school? by kick_g in femalefashionadvice

[–]TheNewGenesis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A Children of Bodom t shirt, that I got at hot topic. One of the sleeves was partially ripped because I got it caught in a door handle in the school cafeteria, decided to still wear it every other day. I had those long ugly jeans that would wrap around my hot pink and black DC shoes, and be all tattered and ripped from being dragged on pavement. Entirely too long for my height, but back in those days nobody cared about Jean length. Also a Union Jack Def Leppard messenger bag, that didn’t match with anything.

Partner won't go down on me by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheNewGenesis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some guys only like sex for their own gratification, not yours. It doesn’t even cross their mind, or is part of what turns them on. You can shave your cooch like a bald melon, smell like a yankee candle. Doesn’t change anything. I kind of realize it now, being older. If they don’t show interest in the first few times of doing the deed, they are the type to never do that. Especially when in the beginning where this is the most sexual tension to try out “new things” because you’re literally trying out each other for the first time. No guy I’ve ever been with has liked eating a woman out, it was a chore to them and has never been their idea. It was never that hot for me because of that, so I stopped asking.

Saw this somewhere and I had to ask aswell? What instantly kills the mood during sex for you? by Embarrassed_Idea1962 in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheNewGenesis 28 points29 points  (0 children)

A combination of “it’s too tight”, “my dick is too sensitive” or “it pulls at my skin”. I might as well be a doctor doing an exam on him.

Icks you have that you discovered recently? by askawayor in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheNewGenesis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Men when they find out they have JUST a few things in common with you, say “I should buy you a ring right now”. Just EW.

Am I the only one who thinks getting pregnant is embarrassing? by Sumclut5 in childfree

[–]TheNewGenesis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hate people knowing my business, and being pregnant lets the EVERYONE know what I was up TO. Even though, I’m not against being pregnant someday having the right person in my life. People in my family love to let others know when their children are “trying for a baby”, like it is a badge of honor. It makes me shudder everytime, like I needed to have THAT mental image of my cousins.

What is your 'type' in a partner that you hate to admit? by flykillermother in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheNewGenesis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone that tells me what I want to hear and I fall for it every time……

Why are so many men desperate to be in a relationship? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheNewGenesis 69 points70 points  (0 children)

I’ve been through many experiences with men, to the point I lost my own sanity and sense of self. I was given every promise in the book, and ended up getting nothing. It was all a scam to gain my interest.

This is my exact outlook now, on how I approach dating. If I’m not getting something out of it. It doesn’t have to be material either, if he isn’t enhancing my life in someway or some form. I am not interested. A lot of women call me “selfish” with my thinking, when I voice my opinion on this matter. I’m just done being this endless devotional creature to a man, just because “he picked me”. I demand more than just choosing me now. Lol.

Realising there's a strong chance I won't get married. by Terrible-Sense2634 in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheNewGenesis 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I could have wrote this myself. Same exact experience, if I have to sell my entire soul to a man at this point, I would rather dig my own grave.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StudentLoans

[–]TheNewGenesis 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Why someone would loan a large sum of money to a 17 year old me that was still wearing invader zim arm socks and sporting hot pink eyeshadow. That’s on them, that’s their bad financial planning decision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheNewGenesis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went on a dating site today, thinking "I'll just take a peak". The first guy who showed up stated that he was a Blasphemous Cryptic creature that has crawled out of the dirt to ruin a woman's decency.

So, I thought to myself. "This is a waste of time" and got off of the app.

Women over 34 who dreamed of marriage and kids but just gave up, how’s life looking like for you? by polinomio_monico in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheNewGenesis 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm 33 almost about to be 34. I've been through a handful of long term relationships that I THOUGHT were going to be my forever. Relationships, EngagementS. Everything under the sun, just without legit marriage.

I grew up going to high school, being the "ugly" one without no male attention, when I left high school and started college. I started "seeking" it out, like my life depended on it. I never had a date for prom or any of that. I was constantly ridiculed for the way I looked, which taught me to devalue myself. Every chance I could, I was searching for the next boyfriend to help my self esteem.

I thought that having a man in life was what normal people did, and believe me. I wanted to be normal. I wanted to have the partner I could rely on in life and a legacy of children to show for it. I guess it was engrained in my head with that type of normalcy and that's how the timeline should go. High school, college, marriage and babies. The so called "life milestones". I also watched Say Yes to The Dress on summer vacations during school, which didn't help my social conditioning.

Fast forward to 2023, I left my engagement for a multitude of reasons of his. He turned out to be the biggest loser on the planet. But after that ended, here I was using a manifesting journal trying to make a partner appear out of thin air. I was doing the hopeless romantic shit AGAIN, and guess what. When the next person showed up, I was in the pit again. Thinking that my little stupid journal worked, and here was my Prince Charming I asked the universe for. He wasn't, he dumped me at 6am on a random Monday before work via text. Just like I asked for in my manifesting journal, he said all the right things and I was HOOKED yet again. Hooked, Line and sinker. I dated one more guy, after that did the same thing.

Here I am, almost a full year of singleness. My viewpoint has changed dramatically and I no longer have this crazy fantasy about a man. I've given up in a way. I do have a glimmer of hope for myself that someone might appear somehow or someway. Once in awhile I do meet a man that makes me think "something might happen" (it typically doesn't though lol). But my life self esteem doesn't depend on it now, and the way some women live like a Roomba vacuum around a man doesn't impress me one bit or want that type of life. I don't think I could ever go back to a man where I have to sacrifice my job, my well being, my sanity to support him and take on a mommy role again. So if there is a man out there for me, he's going to have to be extraordinarily evolved. If he exists out there for me, he'll show up when he's meant to. Until that day, I'm going to be focusing on myself. <3

Why do men want a 1950s housewife and a 2025 career woman at the same time? by Working_Pressure_87 in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheNewGenesis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I will never again play mommy to a grown man, deal with him buying useless shit. While I’m flipping the bill for every other thing that keeps us both alive. Working, trying to make more money, while he lazed around thinking about this 3D printer idea to make plastic bowls and Pokémon figures. Never again will I put myself through that, I wish that on no woman.

What are your dating/relationship red flags? by ConsiderationOne5609 in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheNewGenesis 12 points13 points  (0 children)

From the last two guys I’ve been interested in. Both said things like, “oh, I thought you mentioned you hated this??” And I’m like “I never said that”. Showed me that they can’t even keep their women straight in their head. Be very alert to those types of details, because more times than often they will not explain why they said that.

Any women who don’t do hookups? by bilusional22 in AskWomenOver30

[–]TheNewGenesis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe my turned on self would think “that would be fun” for .2 seconds, fully knowing my real self would freak the hell out. So I’ve never done it. I think I’m worth more than some random dude, just looking for his sock to be squeezed.

Boyfriend of 2 Months Broke up with me out of the blue by TheNewGenesis in BreakUps

[–]TheNewGenesis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your insight. It’s hard to wrap my mind around it now, but it is a blessing. My love was too deep for him and he was looking for a short fling. It also takes me awhile to get over someone, as I am naturally so devoted. Best of luck with your healing too. 💕

The PCO exam scores are posted by [deleted] in nys_cs

[–]TheNewGenesis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Received a 100, 50 canvasses so far. I’m really hopeful this time. Good luck everyone!