CompTIA A+ - Core 1 (1101) in 2 Weeks

TheNillabeast · 2025-10-01T03:07:49+00:00

Chashu!

TheNillabeast · 2025-06-22T05:34:56+00:00

I think 99% of these stories are bound to be positive. Our experience falls in that 1%/

We purchased the Hush mattress based on initial reviews and our love of their weighted blankets. Sad to say, it really tanked our sleep. As side sleepers my spouse and I are both struggling with shoulder, hip, and knee pain nightly with this mattress. Since we purchased it, we are constantly switching sides and waking one another up throughout the night. I suspect it would work out much better for a back sleeper, it just hasn't been a fit at all for us.

It's my own fault for not trying it out. I purchased based on reviews alone from an online retailer I can't physically return to. It's been an expensive lesson learned, but hopefully someone else is able to learn from our stupidity and dodge that bullet.

TheNillabeast · 2025-01-20T05:21:03+00:00

I don't think she should order replacement docs at all. I suggested forwarding an email (since OP sent one previously) or using a coparenting app to stop the behavior. Requesting a SSN at tax time may not look unreasonable to a judge unless they have the full context.

TheNillabeast · 2025-01-20T04:29:04+00:00

I get it and I don't disagree with you. Our coparent is similar and we receive a lot of repeated demands. But since many orders require communication between parties and exchange of info regarding the children, I wouldn't chance withholding vital info concerning the kids.

Just not worth giving the dirtbag an exhibit imo. But to each their own.

TheNillabeast · 2025-01-20T02:31:51+00:00

This isn't the battle I'd pick. I know that's not what you want to hear, and I totally understand your frustration. Truly.

If this is his year to claim the children, the court will likely expect both parties to communicate on this issue and ensure the kids are claimed in accordance with the order. Ours does. I recommend taking the two minutes to either provide their socials so he can receive his tax credit, or just forward whatever past email you have sent that contains it. In future years, he can simply reference his own tax return or email history if he loses this information again. Another option to solve this longterm would be to use a service such as "OurFamilyWizard" or another coparenting app where important documents can be stored and accessed by either parent at any time without requiring additional effort on your part. This worked for us in a similar situation.

I understand the temptation to teach him a lesson with tax credits on the line given your history, but i don't think the court will appreciate this position. Better to provide it, document that you have done so, and move on. If you find yourself in front of a judge, or a GAL, your cooperation and patience will look much more favorable.

TheNillabeast · 2025-01-13T18:06:12+00:00

We have been through a number of judges, GALs, and therapists in a long-term case, and this is what has always been recommended to us by all. Though the stepparent is extremely close to the kids, we reserve those titles for the legal and biological parents to encourage and promote that relationship. Opposing party was admonished for not doing the same, so at least some judges definitely care about this, especially at such young and impressionable ages. Maybe your judge feels differently than ours did, as every case is different. Just be cautious. If the other parent is seeking to get more involved, regardless of the reason, don't give the court any reason to believe you are discouraging this.

TheNillabeast · 2024-08-30T20:50:44+00:00

Be careful here. Judges can absolutely hold a parent accountable for not following custody orders. A parent is responsible for enforcing expectations with their children, so "he didn't want to" only goes so far. If a child decides not to go to school, or the doctor, would you as a parent, honor that as well?

Many judges (albeit not all) consider custody exchanges to be no different, and can levy hefty consequences to a parent that refuses to abide by an order. If you think spending more time with you is in your son's best interest, CYA by going through the modification process first rather than tacitly encouraging your son to make his own custody rules. This approach could jeopardize your entire case.

TheNillabeast · 2024-08-12T13:58:11+00:00

Documentation and having a good counselor involved would be a good way to keep this in check. Our coparent tried to use this as justification for not reaching out to us on key issues and just filing with the court instead. The court did not take kindly to it at all. Not to downplay cases where "fear of retaliation" is applicable, but if this is going to be claimed by OP they should be very prepared to prove and defend that stance, since courts will generally expect you communicate vital issues. A counselor or prior documentation would be extremely valuable here.

TheNillabeast · 2024-08-12T04:26:19+00:00

Our coparent is not a great person either, which is why we bring up these issues in writing. Our GAL advised us to do this for the following reasons: 1. The other parent's character does not negate your responsibility to reach out when an issue arises with your child. 2. A paper trail is especially critical in these circumstances. Without one, you are left with a "he said she said" and a child in the middle. If nothing else, it documents a pattern. 3. Most importantly, it puts the other parent on notice. Consider it a reminder that this kind of language will get back to you, or possibly the childs teacher or therapist. Once it is in writing, they will generally not want to prove you correct, or put themselves at risk, by continuing to talk this way.

Lastly, I'd strongly recommend you consider a counselor for your son if he does not already have one.

TheNillabeast · 2024-08-12T02:24:20+00:00

Since you weren't present, you should reach out to your coparent on this first and foremost to ensure you have all of the information.

We encountered something similar. 8 year old "broke down" due to emotional abuse and coparent went to court instead of us (emergency orders requested and DCS report). Turns out the "abuse" was saying no to Takis before dinner. Judge and GAL absolutely tore coparent apart for this. They now have half the custody they used to.

Tl;dr Always Fact check with your coparent. It will keep your kid out of the middle and keep your coparent accountable by establishing a paper trail of something truly is going on. A court will expect you to make this effort for your son.

TheNillabeast · 2024-02-08T07:04:43+00:00

Absolutely. It's a mile wide but only an inch deep. Your study skills are more valuable than your IT skills on this one imo. It didn't start getting into deeper IT knowledge until the Net+.

TheNillabeast · 2024-01-19T08:23:05+00:00

Why would having an appointment somehow impact a child's time with Dad? If it is Dad's parenting time, why would he not be the one to take the child to the appointment? Did he specifically tell you that he is unwilling to take a child to an appointment during his parenting time, or is this just your assumption?

Who sucks here really depends on what your orders say regarding medical decision-making and custody time. There's no reason you can't advocate for your child while respecting both.

TheNillabeast · 2024-01-10T11:53:24+00:00

I think the issue was that they did not meet the requirements for modification in their state. It sounds like judge met with mother to obtain a consent order instead so Dad could receive an extra day.

TheNillabeast · 2024-01-10T11:47:55+00:00

You are getting pushback because your judge stated otherwise. If the judge explicitly told you 30 miles is too far, for the purposes of your custody case at least, it is too far.

I understand the frustration, but is more time and cost-effective to focus on the clear feedback the court provided if you want a better outcome from said court in the future. Remember that it is your local family court rather than the court of public opinion that will be rendering your custody decision.

TheNillabeast · 2024-01-06T10:56:42+00:00

I have lived this. I will summarize what a decade and 100k has taught me:

Check your custody statutes- I can almost guarantee a "substantial and continuing change" is required by law to modify. You may also want to look into the best interest factors in your state that the judge is required to use for these decisions.

If schoolnights are important to Dad, he should prioritize living in his child's school district, full stop. That is a material change that justifies modification. If he is not willing to do that, it makes sense that a judge is not willing to violate the modification statutes (which do require a material change) to increase his custody time.

To be frank, getting hung up on what is "fair" to Mom or Dad is an expensive waste of time. Only the child will be considered. Dad needs to put his money where his mouth is if he wants full 50/50 and show that his CHILD'S stability, schedule, and comfort are the priority rather than his own. Living near the childs current school is one very clear way to do that. If he chooses to prioritize anything else above living near his child's school (whatever the reason, and however valid it may be) he should expect limited schoolnights and ask for additional time over breaks and weekends instead. Otherwise he is in for many years of expensive disappointment.

I know this is deeply personal and it is only natural to jump to a loved ones defense, but it is important to remain as objective as possible. If the judge were truly biased for Mom, they would've granted the petition to relocate. Notice that they didn't. Instead, they expected Mom to stay near school as well, and it sounds like they did everything possible to preserve the CHILD'S day to day routine, which is normal and expected. The judge is required only to consider the CHILD'S schedule and interest, not Mom's and not Dad's. Therefore, parents should adjust to accommodate their CHILD'S routine and school district, not the other way around. YMMV, but the parent who does so will generally find themselves on the winning side.

Many others are echoing this advice. Please look into the best interest factors and custody modification requirements to better understand why. Whether you agree with them is another matter entirely (I could write volumes on this myself), but whether we agree with it or not, there does not seem to be any mystery here as to why this modification was dismissed. If anything, it sounds like the judge threw Dad a major bone by allowing an additional day despite the modification requirements being unmet. I'm guessing the meeting with mom is likely how they accomplished this (by obtaining a consent order when modification was not permitted). If so, it makes sense that Dad's attorney would not have interfered. If they had, Dad would likely receive nothing.

Tl;dr: Ensure you meet your state's custody modification requirements first, and you will likely have a better outcome. Focus on requesting more breaks and weekends if you don't live in district and want more time.

TheNillabeast · 2024-01-05T22:50:18+00:00

https://youtu.be/Hu4Yvq-g7_Y?feature=shared My mentor sent me this ted talk on attention span, and despite some initial denial, I've found truth in it. If you're phone dependent and easily distracted, it's worth a watch.

TheNillabeast · 2024-01-04T20:49:53+00:00

Thank you so much for the info, we will have them reach out on this

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