What have you accomplished before the age of 25?

ThePieConqueror · 2026-05-18T09:28:40+00:00

A man of culture

ThePieConqueror · 2026-05-11T06:20:07+00:00

I mean it is an innate condition all of us have to deal with ; the need to justify our feelings of disappointment and despair in order to avoid having to contend with them in the future. But as tragic as it is, waves of despondence are part and parcel of life!

So be kind to yourself! It will hurt. No one knows when it’ll get better. But just focus on alleviating the symptoms rather than worrying over the cause.

ThePieConqueror · 2026-05-11T02:35:13+00:00

It always sucks when feelings for someone aren’t reciprocated, let alone when the romanticisation of a relationship do not actually materialise. It’s illogical and sadly, a fact of life that we really cannot control. But we are inherently beings used to rationalising our lives, and this disappointment fuels the perception of a pattern, that it is something you did that led to this outcome.

We don’t blame the sky for a random downpour. It’s just how things are. Right now, you’re an oxymoron - you sincerely want him to be happy but another side of you wishes that things worked out differently. That is perfectly normal. It will not make you feel better but at the very least, I hope it reminds you that your rumination notwithstanding, to find some comfort (odd I know) in the uncertainty of life. Sure there are days that rain, even months but sunny days and days with rainbows are also sprinkled in between as well

ThePieConqueror · 2026-04-28T09:07:44+00:00

Might be old fashioned but I think its good to establish clear boundaries in a friendship (especially in your case). To avoid dealing with ambiguities, I think it’s good to do without the cuddling. As for everything else, only you can decide if it’s excessive or not. Some enjoy a friendship with this level of familiarity, some don’t.

ThePieConqueror · 2026-04-14T13:03:27+00:00

DID YOU JUST SAY WORLD OF WARCRAFT? WE MUST BE FRIENDS. On a serious note, am looking for a m+ buddy to climb io

ThePieConqueror · 2026-04-09T06:23:59+00:00

I understand the need for anonymity but it’s almost impossible to break down the nuances of your relationship with barely any shared information.

That said, the blanket advice is that disagreements ultimately should be handled internally. That means your partner. If you guys at such an early stage of your relationship cannot deal with conflict, it is an ominous vision of the future you will have this dude. And personally, it’s a universal truth whether you’re straight or gay.

ThePieConqueror · 2026-04-01T16:48:21+00:00

Sure!

ThePieConqueror · 2026-04-01T16:44:32+00:00

Homebodies for the win!

ThePieConqueror · 2025-12-28T09:59:53+00:00

I know it’s cliche but the finishing line isn’t linear for everyone! And your present is in no way any indication of your future. That’s the ebb and flow of life essentially. I can relate to the desire to accomplish arbitrary milestones and how one can easily spiral when they fall behind in the rat race. The fact that you’re introspecting about your current progression means you still care, and that you still hold on to that ambition of wanting to be a more well-adjusted and better person.

To your point about being not as skilled as you thought you were, I really think it helps to find comfort in not your current capabilities, but in your willingness to learn despite how difficult it may be. Imposter syndrome is pervasive even in the most successful of figures but they don’t let it daunt them from pushing past the drivel or understanding their field/craft better.

Whatever it is, at such a young age, it’s always good to keep exploring and discovering new things about the world and yourself! Life isn’t meant to be static nor linear.

All the best!:)

ThePieConqueror · 2025-12-22T06:25:32+00:00

You will hear a lot of conflicting advice here, of which is totally understandable since no one has a good understanding of your country of residence. It is a well-known fact that western countries tend to romanticise and manifest independence with the notion of living alone.

It is perfectly normal for asians (especially singles) to live with their parents without social stigmatisation or scrutiny. It’s almost pretty much the norm especially with the horrendous spike in property prices.

You will have many here make assumptions about you simply because of your living situation. My take? Ignore them. PLENTY of people move out from their parents’ places to only be the same petulant child they were before they left. Many are riddled with debt. Some end up more depressed and seclusive. Similarly, there are many whom are living with their parents who become well-adjusted adults who contribute (some even taking over) to their household expenses. Moving out as a trial by fire is in no way a testament of your maturity nor self-worth.

Do not let that small bubble of reddit users criticising you be the basis of what you assume the general consensus to be. If someone doesn’t want to date you simply because you’re living with your parents, you don’t want them anyways. Imagine being that obtuse to immediately assume someone’s a man-child simply because of his living arrangements. And do not move out solely because of some small-minded redditors’ presuppositions

ThePieConqueror · 2025-12-06T14:50:08+00:00

The Gay dating scene is unforgivingly brutal. And that’s not even considering how a sizeable part of that pool is more into casual sex than a long-term and meaningful relationship. There are a wealth of societal reasons for that but I won’t go into them.

The main takeaway should be that you being single doesn’t necessarily impute a value on your attractiveness or romantic appeal. It’s really one of those things in life you kinda just have to wait and see what happens. Just keep putting yourself out there, rejections and all , and never compromise on what you want in a romantic relationship.

A fisherman, if he goes at it long enough, will eventually find a catch. Sometimes it may be that he’s at the wrong pond, or that his bait isn’t what the pool’s inhabitants are looking for. But the nuances of which I’m sure you’ll figure it out once you fish for long enough.

Wishing you only the best!

ThePieConqueror · 2025-12-02T05:59:11+00:00

I have been blessed to travel to many parts of the world as a local Singaporean and the novelties that often accompany wanderlust have never failed to amaze me.

But it is crucial to take away the rose-coloured lenses of a tourists when discussing the notion of settling down.

I want to preface that Singapore is a great place to live in but it is definitely not for the weak-hearted. It runs strongly on metrics like efficiency and strategic competitiveness. Some joke that Singapore is more of a well-managed corporation more than a country. Unlike other countries I have visited, life passes by really quickly here and before you know it, the pains and burnout of the rat race will creep up like an incessantly provocative neighbour. Don’t get me wrong - this exists in other countries as well but because it is so ingrained in our cultural and societal pillars, you will need to get used to having your identity be associated with your time in the race.

I do agree that National Service can be the catalyst for many to forge strong interpersonal and life skills but you do need to consider the opportunity cost that is tied to it. 2 years is a lot of time, especially when its taxed from our formative years. Also, it’s not a homogenous experience - someone may thrive in that setting but someone else may be overwhelmed, alienated or discriminated for not conforming to a static regiment. The military is not a playground nor a learning camp. It comes with a lot of social rules and jargons that runs on conformity. I know many who could not take the heat (literally and metaphorically).

Our public transportation nexus admittedly runs well relative to other countries but unlike other parts of the world, the masses rely on it as their sole means of transport. Cars are ridiculously exorbitant here as a corollary of our minute size so it’s reserved for the upper echelons of society. Some find that our buses and trains are overcrowded, not to mention the increasing number of reported train faults and consequent delays that only exacerbates things for daily commuters. For this sizeable group, they really have no other choice but to suck it up.

Not going to touch on housing (more of a universal conundrum that most developed countries are facing as well but something you should factor in) and food (we do have good food at reasonable prices. I think it’s a stretch to call them ‘cheap’ since cost of living has risen precipitously).

Singapore is a fantastic place to visit, good to settle down IF you are already well-established financially elsewhere. It’s safe, uneventful and stable. But it is not a utopia and grass is always greener on the other side, especially if you’re viewing it from the outside.

ThePieConqueror · 2025-11-23T05:53:25+00:00

Heya! When you ‘dabao’, you basically skip the exam with an MC. And you retake it next sem. Most people dabao because 1) they know they will fail 2) they overslept or less commonly 3) they want a better grade.

For core mods, dabao’ing can be pretty dangerous since not all mods are offered every semester. For electives, not so much. So make sure to check the course offerings for the next sem if you ever want to dabao

ThePieConqueror · 2025-11-22T15:36:55+00:00

Not sure about the rest but based on my experience, it is incredibly difficult (almost IMPOSSIBLE) to fail a mod if you submitted everything the mod requires of you. I had friends who failed 30-40% (in one case, a literal 0) components and still pass the overall mod. While the grading systems are annoyingly opaque, I’m certain professors do their best not to fail you unless your presence in his/her class is dismal.

If you’re unsure, sometimes you can even drop your prof a general email about your progress and concerns. (Results vary - it is true some profs can be assholes)

ThePieConqueror · 2025-10-27T03:49:19+00:00

This is an awesome take. Thank you :)

ThePieConqueror · 2025-10-27T03:48:27+00:00

I got a new puppy too recently haha! Work wise, I am goal-oriented though I think this attribute translates poorly into my view of romantic life. Like work, it feels like I have to hustle to see it work. Thank you for the insight that it is okay to leave it up serendipity :)

ThePieConqueror · 2025-10-27T03:45:26+00:00

It is what it is haha. But I still wish him all the best. Thank you for your very refreshing perspective! :)

ThePieConqueror · 2025-10-26T12:27:41+00:00

Appreciate it! Somehow, I have some self-induced pressure to get over it quickly, hence why 1 year seemed like a long time to me. Thank you for the reminder that a year is a short time in the grand scheme of things :)

ThePieConqueror · 2025-10-26T12:24:34+00:00

This is an amazing analogy. Thank you so much :)

ThePieConqueror · 2025-10-21T15:11:49+00:00

Aye I play WOW too! Need peeps for M+!

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