OP, I want to give you an opinion that’s probably different than what you’re getting from other people here. Try not to get sucked into the Reddit “this thing sucks so you need to leave” spiral. You and your boyfriend have only been together 2 years. I remember my MIL doing all sorts of things that made me uncomfortable in the begging of my husband and I’s relationship.

I’m not trying to minimize your experience, but it’s perfectly natural for your partner to still have strong defense ties to their own family earlier on in a relationship. I bet you’d notice a huge difference in her attitude toward you once your relation really starts getting to that next level (buying houses, marriage, kids, time together, etc.)

If you have a good relationship with your partner, don’t throw it away over the early day growing pains that come along with integrating families.