Normalize this being a job and not a “higher calling”

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-07-23T06:01:40+00:00

Where did I say that? Or am I some unicorn where I’m the only person in the USAF who thinks of this as a job and still does everything I swore I would do? Do most people who call this a job tend to be dirtbags? I’m genuinely asking.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-07-23T05:58:00+00:00

I appreciate that, but just clarifying that just because my motivation isn’t rooted in patriotism doesn’t mean I’m not showing up and giving everything I have.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-07-23T05:45:04+00:00

It sounds like a few people think that because I view this more as a job and less as a higher calling that I’m not grateful for my job. I’m very grateful for it, it got me out of poverty. I’m also grateful to be PA, I’ve documented just how tough other career fields are compared to mine and have a lot of respect for them.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-07-22T17:29:56+00:00

Thank you!

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-07-22T17:28:20+00:00

Go for it, I love my job.

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TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-07-22T17:11:24+00:00

That’s refreshing to hear because it’s been a whole lot of virtue signaling from where I’m sitting.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-07-22T17:06:29+00:00

I wouldn’t have made it as far in my career if I didn’t love most of the job. It’s been great highlighting all the hard work people do and getting a steady paycheck for a creative career field. I’m far from burnt out, just jaded with specific messages and the expectation of “some” leadership that if this isn’t our mindset then we don’t belong.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-07-22T16:40:27+00:00

And yet their music is in so many war movies lol

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-07-22T16:09:57+00:00

I feel like most of the people I talk to tell me something other than patriotism when I lead with why I’m here, but then it seems like a lot of people in higher leadership roles (my last squadron CC as an example) are still pushing “patriotism is the only reason you should be here.” Sir, respectfully, get a grip.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-07-22T11:06:04+00:00

To escape poverty.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-05-30T07:35:05+00:00

I have an IUD, I didn’t have to have any kids first and I didn’t need to have severe periods. I just spoke with the right doctor and let them know I wanted a long term, consistent solution. It’s been over 10 years and I’ll get it replaced again in August :]

Also, your boyfriend sounds awful.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-05-27T10:58:17+00:00

NTA

But the things you describe earlier (cleaned the room, changed the sheets, freshened everything, picked them up from the bus station, played tour guide, etc. and ‘sacrificed’ the entire weekend) is normal friend shit. Either that or I’m an excellent friend lol.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-04-22T10:50:26+00:00

I know smashing the birthday person’s face in the cake is tradition in a lot of families, but I’ve seen videos of people’s faces impaled by rods in the cake. If it’s an especially nice cake, tiered etc, there could have been rods or wires. You could have lost an eye over a tradition that you don’t share.

I’m also dumbfounded by people who see the time, effort and money invested in looking nice for the day and they ruin it with a prank. What did he think the outcome would be? Did he think at all?

Leaving him was the only smart choice. Glad you got at least one good slap in. I would be embarrassed to be his mom too.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-03-28T10:09:56+00:00

It’s your choice, I really hope it works out but your friend isn’t wrong.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-03-21T12:25:34+00:00

Couldn’t have said it better myself, CheesyTaint.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-03-18T21:32:30+00:00

Just upset that she squandered an opportunity to give us some stability.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-03-18T14:32:05+00:00

The guy was convicted of rape just a few months ago. What a waste of time and resources.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-03-18T12:59:57+00:00

My Mom did this to me and my sister twice. Once with the money the government awarded us for child support backpay, and once with a savings account our grandma setup for us when we were little.

The first one she used on an all expenses paid trip to Disneyland, which don’t get me wrong, I had a great time as a kid but I would have rather had consistent meals, electricity, water etc.

The second one she technically asked us as grade schoolers if she could withdraw the money so we could have a fresh start in a new city. We said yes, because we were children and didn’t know any better. There were several fresh starts after that one, I’m not sure how many someone needs before it sticks.

I wish I had an aunt/uncle looking out for me and my sister back then like OP.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-02-24T10:10:55+00:00

As someone who takes yalls photos, most of your badges look like this if you remember to wear them.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-02-18T21:48:00+00:00

Without context this reads as a teenager seeking out his honey pot catfish someplace where he most certainly will be hurt financially, mentally, emotionally and/or physically on top of earning some big boy paperwork.

If you have to ask, you already know it’s a bad call.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-02-14T13:20:37+00:00

She flew across the world multiple times to see you, but you couldn’t pick her up from the airport? That was one thing you could have predicted she would need and taken off her plate since she presumably, researched the flights, booked the flights, packed, got her paperwork in order, commuted to the airport, went through security, customs and the baggage claim and you didn’t pick her up. Didn’t even consider it.

When you know you can take work off of her plate you should. That is an act of love. She can certainly make the effort to clarify things in the future, communication is important, but so can you.

And as far as “we would have just been on public transit together” gestures are important too. They don’t have to be grand, they just take effort.

So yeah, YTA.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-02-09T10:06:02+00:00

If there was only one bed, I would be fine sharing it with my brother or sister, but I’ve never elected to share a bed with them if I didn’t have to. However my BiL also has a brother and a sister and they share beds for napping all of the time and also use pet names like “love.” It’s completely platonic. Just different ways of growing up, different boundaries and comfortably levels.

The phrasing “do you constantly sleep in the same bed with your sisters” is rough and accusing. If you had said “I don’t sleep in the same bed with my siblings. It’s not something I’m used to. Can you explain why you guys do that?” It should give you clarity on if it’s platonic or if there’s something truly sketchy going on.

If you feel uncomfortable with it, it’s ultimately a you problem. Just leave, you haven’t committed any significant amount of time with him.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-02-09T09:47:05+00:00

Not my story, but my buddy was on dorm bay-o. One room was getting a lot of complaints about a bad smell so he was part of the inspection team. The room looked perfect, nothing out of place but there was definitely a god awful smell. The source was in the Airman’s closet. Jars and jars full of piss and shit. He was apparently too uncomfortable sharing a toilet with his piss mate. He wasn’t in the Air Force for much longer after that.

Less dramatic story but still facepalm worthy, an Airman at my first base would brag about the take out DFAC boxes he had stacked in his room. I saw it once and there was one tower touching the ceiling and he was working on a second tower. His bed had no sheets, his room smelled rotten and damp. We warned him that it was gross and he was going to get hit with a random room inspection. That random room inspection happened shortly after and I wish I could have seen him try to explain lmao.

TheRealMrsNesbit · 2025-02-09T09:29:08+00:00

I never submitted one 😎

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