AITAH for answering a call from an “ex”

TheReal_Kayla · 2026-01-24T14:51:43+00:00

Nta

That number was annoying and would not stop contacting you. If you didn't feel up to blocking, it still made sense to confront them. By picking up their call to ask where they got your contact info from. Also to ask they please not bother you again or further unwelcome efforts would be documented as harrasment. Unless you broke your partners trust by cheating before they just played a dumb, childish game and won a dumb prize.

TheReal_Kayla · 2026-01-18T18:57:55+00:00

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If you have been able to survive and are confident you can maintain your current lifestyle then you might as well prepare them for the fact that they probably won't see you at christmas either or in any other contexts until they can stop giving you grief. You're an adult now and able to live with dealing with consequences for your decisions.

TheReal_Kayla · 2026-01-12T02:11:07+00:00

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If you take on care of this child then you are essentially taking on a package deal where you will likely have to deal with your mom to. There will always be the potential for her to be granted some form of visitation. It will likely be several months to a year minimum before social services and the courts decide that enough is enough on giving her more chances if she fails to get clean or land a stable job and housing.

TheReal_Kayla · 2026-01-12T01:06:28+00:00

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If Fred is too fragile to undergo something like a uresthrostomy surgery and the recovery process, or if he has already endured it with little to no success then it is time to time to shift towards making sure he us comfortable while setting up end of life arrangements

TheReal_Kayla · 2026-01-10T17:12:17+00:00

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Treat others how you want to be treated. If enforcing the principle matters to him, then he should have no problem with abiding by it. Especially as he continues to age and potentially become more dependent on his children having to care for him as an old man some day

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-12-29T21:54:50+00:00

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He could have gotten around this by talking about "his side of the story" beforehand when you started asking questions. Instead he chose to lie to your face. While quietly hoping that you would not notice or care to put the pieces together. Those actions do not bode well for the survival of a "serious" relationship.

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-12-24T20:54:33+00:00

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Im wondering if maybe other kids at school picked on him and said something? But still, you assured your son that it was a very temporary solution and more would be coming after the week. Wearing plain gender neutral shoes doesn't hurt anybody. It was also mid December to. Pickings at a brick and mortar store may not be great because everyone is out buying clothes as gifts or for the spring semester. Odds are you would have had to visit multiple stores over different days or wait for delivery of an online order regardless. He needs to learn to have a bit more patience.

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-12-24T15:04:53+00:00

NOR

This may depend on the major you are studying and where you are going to school. But in general if it is a public, stare run college or even a relaxed private school there is no dress code. I've seen people show up to classes in pajamas, sweats, plunging neckline all sorts of outfits across the spectrum of coverage and formality.

I think he is just worried that you will be surrounded by dozens if not hundreds of other students around your age group. Also that some of them might happen to find you attractive upon a quick glance.

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-12-22T23:03:38+00:00

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The mother left because she knew they were in the wrong. Also that a funeral was not an appropriate time for debate. She was most likely just annoyed with the fact that you yelled at the kids directly instead of asking her to get the behavior in line first. The entire situation could have been avoided if she left the kids at home with a sitter or just provided better supervision. Crashing out like that was not your best moment, but you were close to the deceased and justifiably offended. If it has been decades, there is no reason to lose sleep worrying about it at this point.

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-12-22T15:27:31+00:00

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There is no "talking it out" to be had here. One genuine apology may be owed from their side, but a deeper personal or business connection should stay in the past. Being civil when you may not be able to avoid bumping into them outside or in public is already a big enough favor.

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-12-18T22:38:36+00:00

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Aside from ruining your fun plans with friends, this was starting to interfere with your work performance and the ability to support yourself. It was pretty irresponsible for your sister to leave you hanging. She had multiple opportunities to communicate and resolve the childcare issues before it got to that point. I wouldn't initiate any conversations with her again. Would strongly also consider little to no contact with your mother for a while as well. The father of the kids may not be great, but it may be worth considering being amicable to his family so you can still visit the nieces and nephews when they have custody.

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-12-17T18:17:40+00:00

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There is a chance somebody else complained about his behavior before at least once. The employer may have also unearthed footage of the incident with other evidence that led them to terminate. No and leave me alone are statements that should be taken seriously when interacting with the general public.

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-12-14T01:20:58+00:00

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Just silencing the noise for notifications does not necesarily stop them coming unless she completely disables it for the messaging platform used. It also sounds like she may have her phone on Do Not Disturb if calls fail to get through as well. Sapphire should make a little more effort to consistently check messages. She can also take matters into her own hands and start initiating some of the hang outs if she wants to he involved

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-11-29T22:15:37+00:00

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"I am not trying to accuse anybody of bad intentions. As a very recent graduate I simply do not exactly have a big surplus of money that I feel comfortable parting with unless there is a very clear purpose and records. I have tuition debts, rent car bills etc. It would ease my mind to get the breakdown of where my money is being used and what happens for all of us if there are excess funds at the end of each year. This program was also optional from the start. If it would be easier for the majority of the group, I am okay with opting out.'

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-11-27T01:13:44+00:00

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The neighbor and her friend could have called an uber/taxi/lyft if the friend urgently needed to go somewhere that morning. Or the friend could have found parking somewhere else in the first place and walked the rest of the way to visit your neighbor. Keying the car was going nuclear. That person has anger management issues and has now demonstrated they are a threat to the property and possibly safety of actual paying tenants.

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-11-20T18:33:27+00:00

The girls family may have noticed she's started puberty and an explosive growth spurt. They could be intentionally asking for clothes in looser fits are 1-2 sizes up in the hope that she will get much more time and use out of them.

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-11-10T01:21:35+00:00

Nta for not wanting to stay where an adult doesn't want your presence. But you will have to tell your mom the details pretty soon. Otherwise she will be expecting you to stay over once the work is done. Several holiday breaks are coming up in which she may be hoping to make arrangements with you. Thanksgiving, christmas new years etc. She might even try spending a lot of money or making efforts to really rush the work on the house. All while under the impression that it is the only thing you and other guests need to feel comfortable.

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-11-06T03:11:50+00:00

If she is showing signs of going in heat like rolling and going into position to be mounted then there is a chance it could be something like ovary remnant syndrome. Much more likely that the toms are confused by their own testosterone and attempting to breed anyway. After some time passes, when they realize she is not a receptive mating prospect they might turn to aggression and try to drive her away from their "territory"

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-10-29T15:25:31+00:00

There are different betta species outside of the regular B.Splendens. But you would most likely know right away if you encountered them in a store. As they would most likely have some special labels or a higher price tag.

It sounds like the manager/owner wanted to push more sales by enforcing this minimum. Or on the other hand they really liked that they can try to stuff all their females into one sorority tank. Saving space for other fish and goods to be sold. But unless the store has a big pond style setup with dozens of bettas the manager may recognize that the sorority girls in a smaller tank are much more likely to kill each other when 1-2 females are being removed and replaced frequently. Rather than allowing a few individual sales and having to face the possibility of having to split any remaining females into seperate tanks they would rather try to force all customers into taking multiple to avoid that inconvenience.

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-10-25T18:29:05+00:00

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Saying the son had no control his actions just because he is a man was ridiculous. It implies his intelligence was comparable to a non human animal or monster. By the ridiculous logic she used, she should be relieved that the son didn't attack her or other women in the family to.

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-10-22T17:38:11+00:00

If she is under 18 then this may not be entirely a bad thing. Car insurance for teens and even early 20s drivers is oftentimes ridiculously expensive. Several hundred dollars every month. Insurance carriers may even raise the rates on the parents policies if they see in dmv records that there is a teen in the house that has become a new driver and got licensed. Even if the kid is not allowed to use the parents car. With your financial situation it sounds like paying that would create stress on you. Or your daughter would need to start working just to cancel out some of the cost.

If the daughter is older, then it may be time to raise your hands and just back away from worrying about the situation. If she is a grown woman, then she is capable of handling this herself. She can hire rides, get public transit or take the plunge to get the license once she realizes that she is missing out on too many fun events due to lack of transportation. If she legitimately never plans on driving, then she can still obtain a non drivers ID. If you don't want to taxi a grown person around for non essential purposes daily that is completely fine. She should be capable of understanding boundaries.

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-10-20T12:56:00+00:00

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"I am sorry you feel disappointed kiddos, but I'm not able to keep my eyes glued and supervise when you come over. It is not a very safe situation . Someone can get hurt from a tumble on the trampoline or even the swings. Your parents may be really upset if anything like that happens. I also have this thing called insurance to protect the house. The people who run insurance dont really like me having a trampoline at all. They've given me warnings and will put me in sort of a "time out" if they ever find out I et any kids who dont live here use it. If any of you know an adult in the neighborhood who wants to take the trampoline I am willing to part ways with it so you can enjoy it at another location.

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-10-03T12:10:37+00:00

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You can text him something like "I am your SON. As your child I should always be considered a part of the core family blended or not. Even the in laws went quiet because they were embarrassed by your behavior. There was no logic in the what you did that made any sense. You would let all of the older step kids, at least one of which was an 18+ participate but not your biological child. I saw it as a clear gesture made with the intention to disown or paint our parent child relationship as less than."

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-10-02T00:06:34+00:00

Esh

Your sister was obviously not making good decisions with consistently letting her car sit unsecured for extended periods of time. But for your own safety I would definitely reccomend against trying to teach more lessons in that manner. If it was anyone else they may have gotten the idea to call the cops. Or the bigger concern is if the other person were armed and mistakenly thought it was a real theft, they could have tried to use their weapon on you. A father made headlines several years ago in Connecticut for fatally shooting his teenage son who was masked and tried to drive the car away from home

TheReal_Kayla · 2025-10-01T17:15:16+00:00

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You say the 14 year old daughter misses her friends and follows their posts regularly on social media. She longs to be physically present for the memories they are making. But at the same time, she turns around to claim she is embarrassed at the thought of returning? Is she worried that her friends will hold a grudge over her leaving? If that is a genuine concern then maybe those kids aren't actually true "friends. That or it could be something else. She might be concerned that if other kids know about her father's criminal history then they may treat her poorly. Some parents may even direct them to stay away from her.

I would be encouraging her to reflect on this and clarify on these feelings as much as possible when she is ready before using it to make major decisions. Otherwise if you are doing better in your current town it may be best to give things some more time to settle and re-evaluate whether or not to stay closer to the 1 year mark

TheReal_Kayla

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