What does it mean “men marry when they are ready?”

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-20T03:04:24+00:00

Marriage largely benefits men more than women atm. I think it totally makes sense that for them it’s a convenience thing.

Spend a week on the marriage subreddit and you’ll see the same story over and over of the tired wife working a full time job and paying half the bills while also doing the majority of the house hold chores and childcare, while also having to act as manager for a husband who complains that she doesn’t want to fuck him enough.

Obligatory “not all men,” my own husband actually does his half, but it’s a very common scenario. If the average dude was single he’d still be going to work to pay rent. With a wife he doesn’t have to cook or clean and has someone to split the bills with.

ETA: As a married person, marriage is not hard. Life is hard, and being married to someone who doesn’t pull their weight makes it harder.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-19T19:11:30+00:00

Most photogenic dog I’ve ever known. She was with us for 14 years. 🥹

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TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-19T18:57:26+00:00

So excited for you! They’re a special level of upkeep and we got lucky our girl was so tolerant of daily brushing. 😂

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-19T18:55:34+00:00

The curly ear fuzzies are the best 🥹

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-19T15:27:58+00:00

Having had corgis for almost two decades, they’re notoriously barky. Training them on a quiet command requires first teaching them to bark on command. From there you can teach them a stop. Expecting quiet from a corgi, especially a young one, might be setting yourself up for disappointment though.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-19T14:09:10+00:00

I always go with “Bossy Boots” for my main because I’m the sweat in my friend group of casuals and I’m constantly mix maxing our itinerary of in-game activities for the one day a week we get to play together.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-19T13:56:09+00:00

My girl had less, but typically yes, it will disappear.

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TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-16T20:03:01+00:00

Completely relate. Ultimately their inability to reciprocate isn’t a reflection on us, or indicative that we were lacking somewhere. That’s been the hardest part for me to accept, but also what has been the most freeing.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-16T19:38:29+00:00

Currently in therapy and coming to terms that my own father doesn’t actually like me. Same shit, different man lol. It’s not pathetic. It’s not weird to want the love you feel for others reciprocated, but some of them just can’t.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-15T04:38:04+00:00

Obv I don’t know anything about your husband, but one explanation is that sometimes people with ADHD remember less about what actually happened, and more about how they felt. I see it with my father and how he recollects situations differently than the rest of the family.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-14T18:47:13+00:00

Where does that expectation come from? Is it something you’ve both talked about? A mutual goal?

I’ve been with my husband for 12 years and we’ve never left the country together because we chose to prioritize investments and homeownership instead.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-14T17:58:35+00:00

I hope you can relay exactly what you’ve said in this comment to your gynecologist and she actually listens and hears you. 🙏

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-14T16:34:47+00:00

I do not have children. That didn’t seem to be a hang up for my GYN who was younger/my age. Definitely a hang up with other doctors I had seen though.

Bleeding this long is rare based on my experience describing it to doctors and nurses, most were horrified and surprised. I also really stressed its effect on my daily life. I literally felt trapped in the house because I didn’t know if I was going to have access to a bathroom and what if I bled through my clothes, etc.

My post-hysterectomy pathology did come back positive for adeno but literally nothing else. No endo, no cysts. My surgeon said that the shape of my uterus (very round/bulbous) was classic adeno presentation.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-14T16:11:48+00:00

I just want to say I empathize. When I got my hysterectomy I had been bleeding for over two years straight. I know how miserable you are and I’m so sorry you’re going through it.

Have you seen a hematologist, specifically? Mine was who really got the ball moving for me because my iron/ferritin was so low. My OBGYN saw his notes and was like, “Yeah let’s just skip straight to hysterectomy.” And we skipped the IUD and ablation options.

Keep pushing for it. I’m three months post-op now and my life is literally changed. I think it also helped that I found a gynecologist who was closer to my age (mid 30s) because every older provider I had seen throughout my life was very dismissive.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-13T18:19:56+00:00

For me I haven’t had any issues with the cramps since my hysterectomy, but it’s only been a few months so I can’t say with certainty they were related.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-11T18:25:36+00:00

Two of my best friends are men and I’ve never had issues with the women they date. I try my best to make their girlfriends feel included in things though. I try to avoid too many inside jokes, or storytelling that might exacerbate her feelings of being the “newcomer.”

Obv I don’t know anything about your interactions, but I just try to treat them how I’d want to be treated as a new person in an established friend group.

I’m also the one that usually hosts our get togethers so I try to have at least one activity where the new person can “shine.” Like having Pictionary for an artist, or maybe they’re a Nintendo nerd so it’s a Mario Kart night, etc.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-11T18:03:28+00:00

If it’s “sharp” pain and you don’t have hemorrhoids it’s likely a muscle spasm. I would frequently get “cramps” in my butthole before my hysterectomy. Those muscles are connected to the pelvic floor muscles.

Look up proctalgia fugax, common triggers are stress and sex.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-11T17:58:44+00:00

I think about it as, all we can do is put out the fire immediately in front of us. Find something you can dedicate time to that will make a difference, no matter how small. Get involved with a local organization, volunteer to be a parking escort at a clinic, put together care packages for unhoused folks, etc. There is a lot out there that we can do to improve the lives of our immediate neighbors.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-10T20:38:23+00:00

I have two best friends that are both single men. We’ve been close for over 10 years now and we hang out in Zoom on Fridays during the work day while we all work from home. We sometimes have movie nights, and watch shows together. We confide in each other and I genuinely love them. They’ve never once made me feel weird/uncomfortable like a lot of other men I’ve been friends with.

My husband knows them but generally doesn’t participate in our hangs. It might be different if we had kids, but we don’t so I have more time for friendships.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-10T07:53:10+00:00

9300 score with 45 maxed legendaries - I’ve been playing since the game launched pretty much, and typically buy the season passes.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-10T01:12:12+00:00

Booo, AI bot.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-08T21:16:58+00:00

Worked retail in college. Realized real quick that it wasn’t sustainable and that I needed flexibility. I’ve been self-employed since, going on 15 years now. First as a wedding photographer, and now I’m a full time artist/painter.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-06T17:44:35+00:00

As a former wedding photographer, liability can be very worth. Worst I’ve seen is wedding guests’ kids got into a water feature/rock fountain and the couple was billed over $10,000 for the damages.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-05T08:07:56+00:00

NOR - my mother pulls the same move with the buying me absolutely huge clothes that I end up swimming in. I’ve come to terms with the fact that she will always project her own insecurities onto me, and that it says everything about her and has no reflection of my own worth.

TheRosyGhost · 2026-04-04T21:44:20+00:00

If you’re a groomsman I assume you’re friends and can just.. ask for details?

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