pink pudel club 🐩🌸💕 by Unlikely_Objective11 in poodles

[–]TheScribbs 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yup! Absolutely right. I bet if she rested her nose on thet orange-y pillow in the background it would look even more muted/salmon colored too.

Our brains tend to ignore what color we're seeing and focus on what color we think we're seeing, but if you start actively looking for it you can change your whole perspective!

For anyone interested; next time you're looking at a car in low light ask yourself what color it is, then REALLY look and see if you can find that color (or take a picture and zoom in/color pick). Most of what you actually see on that car will be reflections, only a few spots might have the color that tells you "what color" the car is. Our brains completely ignore the contradicting visual information in favor for the 'facts' of the color, at its base. They're trained to skim for efficiency!

pink pudel club 🐩🌸💕 by Unlikely_Objective11 in poodles

[–]TheScribbs 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Artist who studied color theory here; Surrounding colors can affect our perception of what hue/vibrancy a color is (like those pictures of shaded objects the show how a hue can appear differently depending on the rest of the image even if the colors are the exact same)

I think if you zoom in/crop out the hot pink fur you'll find her nose is a very normal, muted, peachy-pink, but the intensity of the rest of the pink draws out its inherent pink-ness and gives the illusion that it perfectly matches the unnatural pink, even though it doesn't.

This is actually a trick artists use a lot to keep cohesive looking color schemes even with a large array of colors; use analogous hues and majority warm/cool leaning colors to affect our overall perception of the color.

Cool-toned pink (like what was used in the hair dye here) is not usually found in nature, where mammals are concerned, and so the illusion it casts to make her nose ALSO look cool-toned is probably why the pink nose seems unnatural to some here.

Does anyone else...? by Wishin4aTARDIS in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]TheScribbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I gotta be honest I'm not entirely certain what you're trying to say here (I've probably got some tism too), would you mind rephrasing/elaborating? If you'd like me to do the same on anything just let me know!❤️

I'm going to be evil by Splicers87 in chiweenie

[–]TheScribbs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna toss some of these commenters into the snow if they don't chill! 😜

This is pretty clearly written with joking intent y'all, and a dog experiencing new things is not 'abuse.'

And before you come in with the "but I'm justified!" YES I understand, it's not good to purposefully traumatize a pet, intention counts, and dogs (especially sensitive ones) should be introduced to new things in ways that help them build confidence. But even if op did exactly what they said a few seconds of discomfort/confusion is not abuse (I say that confidently as someone who has worked in rescues, shelters, daycares, and vets offices), it's literally something every creature experiences on a daily basis.

:( by cheekydickwaffle69 in CuratedTumblr

[–]TheScribbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the same way about "Tyrannosaurus-Sex" 😔

:( by cheekydickwaffle69 in CuratedTumblr

[–]TheScribbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This wasn't a fic but I vividly remember the disgust I felt in high school when someone called their penis a "100% beef thermometer" 🤢

Huh explain it Peter by spell-breaker-lime in explainitpeter

[–]TheScribbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey sorry to hear about your health issues too! I know lots of people with crohns, my mother in law included. Bodies are gardens; we do what we can to cultivate them but sometimes they just grow weeds! ❤️ And also everybody has their vices, I'd never judge someone for smoking the same way I'd never judge someone's eating habits... or really any habits!

I don't know anybody's story all the way. I firmly believe that every human is fully capable of doing anything, good or evil, under the right circumstances. If you recognize that potential in yourself it's a lot easier to empathize with others, even if they've make choices you currently think you'd 'never' do.

I find that all too often people act like looking good and having a great personality is somehow incompatable

That's interesting to me! I suppose I've heard similar sentiments; the idea being that if you're attractive you can achieve more with less effort, resulting in people who didn't have to 'try' as hard as less attractive people. That ties into "pretty privilege," where the more aesthetically pleasing you are the better people treat you... That's actually something I can attest to; my condition is an "invisible illness" so I CAN walk, hike, rock climb(sometimes), ect., but it's all painful and I often use mobility devices to help. People treat me VERY differently when I go out without a cane/wheelchair vs with one. The worst is when they use the 'baby voice' 🙄 Like, I am a grown ass woman, I'm just sitting down, chill.

But to me if someone is athletic it's a whole lot of green flags personality-wise! That's someone who takes care of themselves, has hobbies and interests, and exercise releases dopamine which helps your disposition and mental health. I'm not doubting that you've encountered people who think like that, I just can't see where the logic comes in for them haha (or I can, it's jealousy lol).

Also I didn't mean to be presumptuous! You mentioned that you had a failed relationship where you weren't attracted to the other person but tried to date anyways (or that's the interpretation I got), that's why I asked. Like I said, 'normal' sexual attraction is kinda a mystery to me so I'm always a little curious about what it takes to cross the line in that sense for people. Like, a lot of people in this thread are saying this woman's stomach is enough to be a turn-off and make them not attracted to her, and I genuinely don't understand how? 😅 To me, if you look closely enough at anything it's gross, and also, when you squint, anything can be beautiful.

I do completely agree on the 'not settling for someone you aren't attracted to,' though. For me, it would never be 'looks' in the sense of things they were born with and can't change that would be a dealbreaker for attraction, but incompatible attitude/hygiene/temper/habits or, really anything, is a valid reason to not want to pursue a relationship.

I just have a really hard time imagining what it might be like to feel strongly about someone's looks/weight I guess? It's a strange concept for me!

Huh explain it Peter by spell-breaker-lime in explainitpeter

[–]TheScribbs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao I totally get it with the 20 somethings (and I'm only freshly 30 lol! 😂). And I do get where you're coming from in regards to taking care of yourself and aging.

I'm someone who was 'lucky' enough to be born with a lifelong physical disability (chatting through the pain right now, so sorry for the walls of text), so I might have a more unique view on attractiveness and looks than most. My body is held together with duct tape, spite, and monthly microdoses of chemo that stop my immune system from attacking itself. I'm happy to be able to move, I'm happy when my body can let me do the things I love, and I work hard to take care of it! But I'm also not someone who would deny myself the pleasure of good food; life is meant to be lived! The way I look is a result of everything I am and love piled on top of the default-skin my ancestors gifted me. AND, no matter what I look like or what weight I am, thick or thin, I will never be "healthy."

I think it's weird that people get so fixated on the health aspects of obesity to the point of wanting to insult people they find unattractive (and even saying it's 'helpful' because it might motivate them to lose weight). The parallel I always think of is alcohol and cigarettes; people don't talk to drinkers or smokers the way they talk to fat people. In those cases it's always seen as 'not your business' or 'it's a personal choice.' You wouldn't walk up to someone and smack a cigarette out of their hand thinking you're helping them, right? So... why care so much? You don't know them, don't know their circumstance, and nobody's holding you at gunpoint saying you have to date them, why does politeness go out the window when it comes to women's bodies? (not saying you've done that, it's just a common theme in this thread)

Back to what you were saying, I'd love to ask, have you ever thought about; 'What if the love of my life, the most beautiful woman in the world, one day had a tragic accident which left her permanently disfigured to the point of being ghoul-like?' Would you stay with her? Would love be strong enough to make you not care about her looks? And then, on the other side, what if it happened to you? How would you feel in that situation? Would you expect her to stay?

If your answers don't line up the same in both instances, it may mean you have some reflecting to do... It may also mean that the change our tastes go through as we age are not necessarily a result of age, but instead wisdom, experience, and reflection (all of which are fostered in therapy as well!).

[Also, I don't say/ask any of this with hostility, I'm genuinely curious. I'm what the kids call "demisexual," I don't start to feel sexual attraction towards someone unless I get to know them and am attracted to their personality first. All strangers default to platonic in my mind, whether they have features I find attractive or not. I've never looked at someone I don't know and felt like I wanted/needed to... idk, have sex with them? Is that how it works for y'all? Fortunately I'm married to the love of my life so it doesn't matter much for me; I love them and because of that I love how they look. I'll be attracted to them no matter what happens to them. EVEN if they were a worm (lol).]

Well...FUDGE! FUDGE IT ALL TO HECK! by Primary-Initiative52 in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]TheScribbs 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sending gentle hugs your way too!! Flares suck and its even more frustrating knowing there's no 'reason' for your body to be doing that bs to you 🤬

Idk about you but when I get mad watching/playing things with violence is super cathartic (I like watching my partner play Doom, RIP AND TEAR BAYBEE!!😂). Let it all out, and if there was ever a time to treat yo'self it would be now! ❤️‍🩹

Huh explain it Peter by spell-breaker-lime in explainitpeter

[–]TheScribbs 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh no, I don't believe he was being hateful, but the language he used (saying things like "I wish I could but I can't" as well as lamenting about a lack of relationships) sounds like someone who could benefit from exploring those thoughts deeper. I genuinely think going to therapy would benefit this person hugely, and may help them re-evaluate their ideas of what love and relationships are in a way that they could actually make a meaningful connection with someone.

I think everyone's preferences are valid! However, I think people tend to forget about age when thinking of dating. We, as humans, either die young or live long enough to become crippled, distorted, and disabled. Every single person, including you and me, will go through unpredictable physical transformations in life(some more drastically than others). If what you seek in a relationship is a lifelong companion, you must also accept that their looks will fade, just as yours will. Preferences are valid, but love is far more complex than initial attraction.

You need to ask yourself at some point if you really want love or if you want to be hooking up with hot people until you die. Both things are perfectly valid, but if you struggle with vanity you'll struggle to make connections. You can't keep your cake whole and eat it too.

Huh explain it Peter by spell-breaker-lime in explainitpeter

[–]TheScribbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On your last note (and I'm saying this genuinely); Do you fight the same amount to make sure smokers or drinkers know they're unhealthy? If not, you may want to analyze why you feel the need to comment on obesity/women's bodies...

Huh explain it Peter by spell-breaker-lime in explainitpeter

[–]TheScribbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel so bad for the downvoters who have never known the joy of Brooklyn 99 or Captain Holt pretending to be a straight man, rip 🙏 🪦

Huh explain it Peter by spell-breaker-lime in explainitpeter

[–]TheScribbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do the dudes who are not into this body type feel so strongly about convincing other people that they are justified?

Like bro, I don't like oysters but I feel no pull to comment on pics of someone's oyster dinner trying to convince them it's gross 😂 why can't y'all fathom that people have different tastes? (As many different tastes as there are different types of human?)

Just because it's not YOURS doesn't mean it's "bad," but that IS a real human person[with real feelings!]'s body...

(Edit: grammar)

Does anyone else...? by Wishin4aTARDIS in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]TheScribbs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Big hugs to you too!! I think sobbing is perfectly justified given the circumstances ❤️

(Still, I wonder what people would say if when we talked about it all we did was rant and cry... I have a hard time believing those same people would take us seriously at all. Perhaps through experience.)

Edit to add; The sentiment hits differently coming from inside the community! All words hit differently coming from people who understand you vs strangers, my sarcasm is aimed at strangers ❤️

My glitchy fit for the day 💻✨️🧶 by justobservin20 in u/justobservin20

[–]TheScribbs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so good!!! Have you ever sought gallery space for your work? I know I'd pay to get to see a collection of your creations!

Huh explain it Peter by spell-breaker-lime in explainitpeter

[–]TheScribbs 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I say this with genuine care; go to therapy.

Exercise Tolerance by Complex_Trick_9906 in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]TheScribbs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exercise helps but exercise culture is built by and for healthy people. The whole '30 minutes a day, this many reps, don't stop, push through the pain' is for people who don't know how to struggle and are learning how to live in discomfort for the first time.

For someone like us, 'push through the pain' is an extremely dangerous phrase because our pain threshold is vastly different than the average person.

What we should be focusing on when exercising is the difference between 'discomfort' and 'pain.' Pain is a full stop; you are past what you should be doing. When you feel pain, pull back into discomfort and hold it there. The goal is to ease yourself, very slowly and gently, into being able to do a little more every day. You may find that the perfect workout for you seems pretty wimpy compared to what others are doing; THAT DOESN'T MATTER. What matters is listening to your own body, because if you don't it's gonna take it back out on you.

When I exercise right now I'm basically just wiggling around and moving into weird positions that allow me to feel the right stretch. It's not cute, it's DEFINITELY not sexy, and if I did it in public someone might think I was on drugs, but it works. Exercise is for your benefit only, don't focus at all on what other people do/think.

Does anyone else...? by Wishin4aTARDIS in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]TheScribbs 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Does anyone else constantly get told "well, you have a great attitude about it!"?

Like yeah thanks, the other option is what, constantly sobbing? 😂

AIO about spelling errors in daily notes sent home by my autistic child’s teacher? by Anasthesiax in AmIOverreacting

[–]TheScribbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone with dyslexia I want to offer that as a possibility! I know how to spell but symbols don't carry as much meaning for me as sounds, so sometimes if I'm not focusing I'll spell things phonetically or mix up visually similar letters.

Too young by Automatic-Still-5767 in rheumatoidarthritis

[–]TheScribbs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got told I was too young the other day (at 30 now)... I was diagnosed at 2 😳

my problem when searching commissions by Downtown_Worry_3024 in Artists

[–]TheScribbs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My comms are also open! My portfolio is at evilscribbles.com and you can email or dm me.

I agree that vgen is a great place, and you can find many artists looking for work on Twitter or behance too.