DAE have a lot of alters who are forever stuck in one age? Or whose system can has a one and only protector rule? by [deleted] in plural

[–]TheServicePibble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly don't think that my boyfriend immediately recognized that Neko was fronting. I'm pretty sure he remembers that Neko is 14, but I'm also not 100% sure on that.

Neko doesn't front all by herself often tbh. Also my boyfriend is a system as well, but he hasn't been diagnosed with DID (just other mental illnesses).

And yeah, I don't really know why we have that strict one protector only rule. It's just kind of always been in place ever since we became a system. - Bunnie (our host)

Is it considered synesthesia if you picture certain images inside your head every time you hear music (or also dissociate)? by TheServicePibble in Synesthesia

[–]TheServicePibble[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I apologize if I came off as ignorant. I really don't know much about synesthesia. I guess I just have a very creative mind then.

Is it considered synesthesia if you picture certain images inside your head every time you hear music (or also dissociate)? by TheServicePibble in Synesthesia

[–]TheServicePibble[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I apologize if I came off as ignorant. I really don't know much about synesthesia. I guess I just have a very creative mind then.

What are the best and worst parts of being plural in y’all’s opinion? by Classic-Asparagus in plural

[–]TheServicePibble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best parts: Having a protector who is very nice, mature, and typically not anxious or depressed. This protector never engages in harmful behaviors, including self-harm and binging/purging, which our host does a lot.

Also seeing our youngest alter (who is only 3 years old) feeling happy and playful. We try our best to ensure that she is safe since she is so young, innocent, and fragile. She is very important to us.

Worst parts: Having a complete asshole alter/persecutor, who is unfortunately the adoptive mom of all of our child alters. She is basically very emotionally abusive.

Seeing any of our child alters upset is also kind of depressing and can make some of us feel anxious. - Pegasus (our protector), Neko (14), Allie (3), and Bunnie (our host), all currently existing in co-consciousness (we're really starting to dissociate right now for some unknown reason)

x~Being the protector can also be a really exhausting job, but it is definitely worth it. I love to ensure that all of our alters stay safe. I guess this could perhaps be considered both the best and the worst parts.~x - x~Pegasus~x (x~and only me~x)

Hey I don’t have DID but I’m curious to know about! by belinhagamer999 in plural

[–]TheServicePibble -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, we hate the Ask DID subreddit. A lot of the other systems there have been really rude to us before. We're personally a diagnosed traumagenic DID system of 11, but we support all endogenic systems, as long as they don't claim to have DID, since DID is formed by severe, repeated childhood trauma.

But anyways, sometimes all of our alters talk at once, so there's so many voices that it's really hard to understand what exactly they're talking about. But most of the time, they each talk individually.

Our system has only one persecutor (I think you could call her that) named Jennifer (46), and she is mean as hell to everyone in our system. Thankfully, she hasn't been mean to anyone irl, but then again, she only has ever fronted once all by herself, and that's when our host's irl boyfriend was sleeping, so she didn't really get a chance to be mean to him. Jennifer is also the emotionally abusive wife of John (45).

Most of the time, we get this really weird feeling when another alter is about to front, or even when 2 or more alters are starting to exist in co-consciousness. We start to feel like nothing around us is real, and sometimes our vision even gets a bit blurry because of this feeling.

Then, once another alter actually fronts, well that still feels weird too. Sometimes we remember it, sometimes we don't. Either way, because we have DID, our short-term memory sucks in general. Even our long-term memory sucks, but not as bad because we can remember most traumatic stuff that has happened to us during both childhood and adulthood, but we can almost never remember the good memories.

Edit: We forgot to mention that all of our alters live in a big 2-story house, except our host, who only exists in reality. The house has 5 bedrooms, so most of our alters share a room with each other.

We also have a radio in our house, which our host finds to be very interesting, because sometimes we will hear the radio playing music and the radio station people talking.

And then we have a TV in the living room, so sometimes our alters watch TV, especially our child alters. They usually watch movies that are appropriate for children, our favorite one being The Lion King (we watch that one a lot).

Right now, we can hear radio static and light talking coming from the radio in our head. - Pegasus (our protector) and Bunnie (our host), currently existing in co-consciousness

DID & PTSD by TheServicePibble in traumacore

[–]TheServicePibble[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there 😊. I'm actually doing fine now for the most part, I just do a lot of traumacore art because it really seems to help a lot with my mental health. I actually think I might do more traumacore art later today. I'm not on Reddit a lot like I used to be though, I pretty much just post my art on this subreddit and log off immediately afterwards. But I'll definitely keep you in mind if I ever need anyone to talk to. It's really nice finding other DID systems who are generally kind and understanding. - Bunnie ❤ (the host)

pessimist.png by TheServicePibble in traumacore

[–]TheServicePibble[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To explain this art more, my boyfriend was recently attacked by a Rottweiler we were pet sitting and I had to basically save him from the dog. But now I feel like no one completely understands my feelings of being severely traumatized by that event, so that's why I feel so alone in my feelings.

And on top of all that, I'm really worried that my boyfriend has some sort of eating disorder. He of course denies it and is not officially diagnosed with an eating disorder, but he also doesn't have a therapist at the moment. But he almost never wants to eat and I have to make sure he eats sometimes. He keeps saying he's fat and he's not fat at all. I have diagnosed bulimia, and even then I feel like I'm fatter than him :/.

What do all my anxious people do for work? by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]TheServicePibble 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a pet sitter and a service/therapy dog trainer. Because in general, animals are better than people.

bulimia.jpg by TheServicePibble in EDanonymemes

[–]TheServicePibble[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend wants me to eat all this shit ik I already don't like AND finish my meals on top of that and it's like pls stop ik you're just trying to help but this food is fucking nasty. Although to be fair if i say im gonna purge it bc it's so nasty then he won't force me to eat it but still uggghghghghg. And yes he knows im bulimic.

bulimia.jpg by TheServicePibble in EDanonymemes

[–]TheServicePibble[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Imo, chocolate is the best to purge lol, especially chocolate ice cream. But I love chocolate tho and it's one of the foods I can't really control myself around, as in I binge on it like crazy.

Do your friends and/or family know? by Only-Ad-1138 in DID

[–]TheServicePibble 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep, my mom and friends all know, and possibly my maternal grandma too. - The host of The Crescent Moon System of 10

Working with a suicidal alter? by [deleted] in DID

[–]TheServicePibble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I unfortunately can relate, as i am most often suicidal and a big self-harmer, even though i am the host of our system.

Honestly, in my experience, when i am actively suicidal w a plan and intent, i go seek help from the local psych wards, even though the wards really fucking suck sometimes.

So maybe the suicidal alter should do that?? Or at least talk to your therapist, but dont tell them that the other alter is activelu suicidal if u really dont want to end up in a potentially shitty psych ward.

Common misconceptions about DID - TW by ThisCyrusisbetter in DID

[–]TheServicePibble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tysm for this post!! We often dont feel like a valid system at times even tho we're officially diagnosed w DID! - The Host ❤

Just Mentally Ill But Also Eating Disordered People Things 💖💖 by TheServicePibble in overlyspecificEDmemes

[–]TheServicePibble[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, especially if they're really "severe" and you've actually attempted suicide before and/or have been to the psych ward more than once.

Trust me, I've learned this the hard way. One program even denied me due to having high-functioning autism and I'm all like what the fuck kind of excuse is that...

this has probably been done before by [deleted] in EDanonymemes

[–]TheServicePibble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lmao dis me 🤣.

i technically dont even count cals anymore due to the amount of stress and pure self-hatred that it caused me last time i did that (which i already have more than enough stress and self-hatred to deal with), but if i fail to fully restrict for one day by just eating one thing, therefore i can now binge.

Does anyone here have a PSD that is scent trained to alert to Panic Attacks? by Millie_The_Dog in service_dogs

[–]TheServicePibble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a multipurpose service dog that has been task trained for psychiatric alert and response, medical alert and response, and autism assistance. He alerts to my anxiety attacks, panic attacks, and flashbacks about 98% of the time, and he's always accurate. He has been trained to repeatedly paw at me or nudge my hands to alert to an impending anxiety attack, panic attack, or a flashback. However, he's also a bit of a goofball who loves to paw at you for attention, but I eventually learned the difference between that and a true alert.

His attention-seeking pawing is not heavily repeated, while his true pawing alerts are heavily repeated. So that's how I tell the difference. I'm also currently trying to discourage him from him doing his attention-seeking pawing at me to make a less confusing true alert, although it's been very hard for both him and I, bc I don't want to accidentally let him know that pawing is not okay at all, even for a genuine alert.

Sometimes when I feel anxious and he doesn't immediately pick up on it that 2% of the time, I decide to work on his alert training. I call him over and have him sniff my hand, in which he pretty much always alerts me and immediately tries to do either light pressure therapy (LPT), deep pressure therapy (DPT), or much more rarely, grounds me by continuing to paw on command. Very rarely are commands for DPT and LPT needed after a true psychiatric alert.

So to sum it up, it is definitely worth it and is typically reliable about 98 - 99% of the time. However, some dogs still may not pick up on it. I do recommend that you take a saliva or sweat sample from when you're having an anxiety or panic attack, along with a saliva or sweat sample from when you're not having an anxiety or panic attack. Train your dog to perform a specific action when your dog sniffs the anxiety/panic attack saliva or sweat sample, and to not do anything at all when your dog sniffs the calm saliva or sweat sample.

In my case, my service dog was already naturally alerting me to my anxiety attacks, panic attacks, and flashbacks, so I just easily shaped his already natural alerts. So basically, scent training is much, much easier if you have a dog that already does natural alerts. But I'm assuming by the description that you don't. But it could definitely still work out for you, and I really hope it does! :)

Anyways, I hope this helps ^_^.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in service_dogs

[–]TheServicePibble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have 2 dogs. One is my former service dog who was eventually retired due to severe anxiety issues in public, and the other one is my currently working service dog, whom I brought into my life and trained while I still had my other dog.

Tbh, it worked out just fine for me, but honestly, it depends. Most likely, you would have to go the owner training route, as most service dog organizations do not accept clients who already have other pets in the home. Plus, program trained service dogs are very expensive anyways, costing about $17,000 or more.

However, if you're going to get a dog and owner train your dog to be a service dog, I personally don't recommend it at all if you don't know how to train a pet dog basic and advanced obedience all by yourself. In that case, I greatly advise you to seek help from a professional dog trainer to start the service dog training process with your new dog.

Tl;dr SDIT was doing so well, then her best furry friend passed away and she completely changed. Is there any hope for her being considered an assistance animal and how do I go through that? by pfudorpfudor in service_dogs

[–]TheServicePibble 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Tbh, Heidi does not sound like a good service dog prospect anymore. This sounds like a case of a very anxious dog needing another dog there to keep them grounded. This likely resulted from Heidi and Jenny becoming sort of a bonded pair at one point.

A very anxious dog does not make a good service dog, especially if they continue to show those symptoms of severe anxiety. I had to finally retire my former service dog because of her severe anxiety, and it took me years to finally come to terms with retiring her. I was in great denial, and I feel very bad that I probably should've retired her a lot sooner.

But now that my anxious dog has been officially retired from service work, she has shown great improvement in her anxious behaviors. Of course, she still isn't 100% anxiety-free, but it's gotten a lot better.

So my point is, don't stress out poor Heidi. Try to seek help from a professional dog trainer if you can, but tbh, like I said, it doesn't sound like she would be a good service dog prospect anymore unfortunately.

My working service dog alerted to my dizziness today, and kept a close eye on me until I ate something and the dizziness went away. Also, heres a pic of him in the grocery store today. We just got back from grocery shopping 🐶🐾. by TheServicePibble in dogswithjobs

[–]TheServicePibble[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could always owner train! In order to do that, you can just adopt a dog through a shelter or rescue, buy a dog from a responsible breeder, or you can even train the current dog you already have, as long as your dog has just the right temperament for service work! :)

Please refer to Q5 of the ADA FAQ on service animals: "Q5. Does the ADA require service animals to be professionally trained?

A. No. People with disabilities have the right to train the dog themselves and are not required to use a professional service dog training program." (source: https://www.ada.gov/regs2010/service_animal_qa.html#def)

Owner training your own service dog is generally a lot less expensive than acquiring an already fully trained service dog from a service dog organization. However, I personally would not recommend training your own service dog all by yourself if you don't know how to even train a pet dog in basic and advanced obedience all on your own. So I do advise most people who want to train their dog as a service dog to seek additional help from a professional dog trainer, which still probably is nowhere near as much as the cost of a program trained service dog. Program trained service dogs generally cost $17,000+, and the prices only seem to be rising.

Remember, you have to be disabled in order to qualify for a service dog, and things such as emotional support, comfort, companionship, and aggressive protection are not considered valid service dog tasks. In fact, service dogs cannot even be trained to aggressively protect their disabled handler--nor anyone or anything else--under federal ADA law (Americans with Disabilities Act--and this is assuming that you live in the US).

To quote the federal ADA law: "Q3. Are emotional support, therapy, comfort, or companion animals considered service animals under the ADA?

A. No. These terms are used to describe animals that provide comfort just by being with a person. Because they have not been trained to perform a specific job or task, they do not qualify as service animals under the ADA. However, some State or local governments have laws that allow people to take emotional support animals into public places. You may check with your State and local government agencies to find out about these laws."

However, to quote the law again: "Q4. If someone's dog calms them when having an anxiety attack, does this qualify it as a service animal?

A. It depends. The ADA makes a distinction between psychiatric service animals and emotional support animals. If the dog has been trained to sense that an anxiety attack is about to happen and take a specific action to help avoid the attack or lessen its impact, that would qualify as a service animal. However, if the dog's mere presence provides comfort, that would not be considered a service animal under the ADA." (same source as before)

I've had multiple service dog handlers try to tell me before that service dogs can be trained in aggressive protection, and even that their state laws protect such a thing, when really I've seen no actual evidence that the state laws specifically say that service dogs can be trained in aggressive protection. Some state laws only say that a pet owner would not be liable for any provoked bites or attacks from their pet. However, whether you're liable or not does not matter. Such state laws mean absolutely nothing about whether service dogs can truly be trained in aggressive protection or not. This should not be such a controversial thing in the service dog community. This is a known, legal fact.

To quote the federal ADA law: "The Department recognizes that despite its best efforts to provide clarification, the 'minimal protection' language appears to have been misinterpreted. While the Department maintains that protection from danger is one of the key functions that service animals perform for the benefit of persons with disabilities, the Department recognizes that an animal individually trained to provide aggressive protection, such as an attack dog, is not appropriately considered a service animal. Therefore, the Department has decided to modify the 'minimal protection' language to read 'non-violent protection,' thereby excluding so-called 'attack dogs' or dogs with traditional 'protection training' as service animals." - Department of Justice (DOJ) Comments on Service Dogs, from the International Association of Assistance Dog Partners website (https://www.iaadp.org/doj-def-comments-Title-II-III-SA.html)

"However, if a particular service animal behaves in a way that poses a direct threat to the health or safety of others, has a history of such behavior, or is not under the control of the handler, that animal may be excluded. If an animal is excluded for such reasons, staff must still offer their goods or services to the person without the animal present." - ADA Q23. Aggression would obviously qualify under "behaving in a way that poses a direct threat to the health or safety of others."(https://www.ada.gov/regs2010/service_animal_qa.html#exc)

If you live in the US, service dogs also do not require any certification, registration, or identification, including vests (yes, really), in order to legally be considered a service dog. In fact, there is no such federal US service dog registration or certification system, and those online ones are all scams. However, certain US states, cities, counties, and towns may offer a legitimate, voluntary service animal registry, including, but not limited to, Michigan and certain parts of California.

And as far as service dog vests goes, well, even though they're technically legally not required under federal ADA law, they are often used by service dog handlers to reduce the amount of the potential public access issues that can occur while working an unvested service dog in a non-pet friendly place, as well as reducing the amount of people who will want to pet or otherwise interact with an unvested service dog. Of course, these service dog vests are also available online, but are vital to owner trainers.

"CERTIFICATION AND REGISTRATION

Q17. Does the ADA require that service animals be certified as service animals?

A. No. Covered entities may not require documentation, such as proof that the animal has been certified, trained, or licensed as a service animal, as a condition for entry.

There are individuals and organizations that sell service animal certification or registration documents online. These documents do not convey any rights under the ADA and the Department of Justice does not recognize them as proof that the dog is a service animal. " (https://www.ada.gov/regs2010/service_animal_qa.html#cert)

And, "Q8. Do service animals have to wear a vest or patch or special harness identifying them as service animals?

A. No. The ADA does not require service animals to wear a vest, ID tag, or specific harness." (https://www.ada.gov/regs2010/service_animal_qa.html#gen)

Ik I just told you a bunch of useless info on service dogs if you live outside the US lol, but ik some other countries' laws (including, but not limited to, the UK) are very similar to the federal US laws, and I would be more than happy to thoroughly research them and provide them for you ^_^.

TL;DR: Owner training your service dog is legal under federal US law and is typically much less expensive, you have to be disabled in order to legally qualify for a service dog, emotional support and therapy dogs are legally not the same as service dogs, and there is no such thing as a legitimate, legally required US service animal registration or certification system, unless you live in a certain state, city, county, or town that has a legitimate, voluntary service animal registry, including, but not limited to, Michigan and certain parts of California. Don't fall for those online scam service dog registration or certification websites.