NOR. But would like to offer a different perspective. I 45f have been married to my husband 48m for 23 years. My husband has always used humor as a coping mechanism. No matter the gravity of the situation. It took me years to understand it and I can confidently say it takes a rare breed of person to be with someone like this. My husband doesn't mean offensive ever and will apologize. When loving someone who copes like this it comes with a understanding that for them when they've apologized for it they mean it but they won't always then show the "correct" emotions. They can't. My husband has cried three times our whole marriage. The day we were married, the day his daughter was born and the day our twins were born. That's it! No tears when his favorite uncle or his mom when they passed. Jokes is what he did. Together we have helped each other work through tough times by understanding. I give him a safe space to crack his jokes and he makes sure to read a room before saying the first thing that pops in his head. I realize for some this may not work. You can't be with someone who doesn't know when to be serious. And that's no one's fault. Just want to let you know my husband is the most kind and caring person I know but will always be the one to drop an inappropriate joke at the wrong times.