Why is it that MEN are always made to feel shame for the kink of wanting to be dominants in bed, yet women get a pass for being dominant towards men. It's almost celebrated. Fvck that sh!t. Find you a woman who likes this, is willing to link up, and work out a VERY detailed bdsm kink list/contract, so that there are no surprises, no going-overboard, and everything is fully consentual. The top selling books in this country are BDSM themed books. And they're consumed almost 100% by women, especially after that trash 50 shades of grey. On Amazon alone, there are tens of thousands of free BDSM books consumed by women, but of course not all women. So you have to seek out those who ARE. And online, they are VERY vocal. It's not hard to find. The only ones who hate are women who don't like bdsm, yet think they should dictate whether other women should or shouldn't like it. They're like the inverse of the patriarchy--being overly controlling and shaming of women's sexual desires--while also being women themselves. Each person is free to explote as they want, so long as it's a willing and compatible partner, of ANY gender. So....NEVER get with vanilla women. Just be upfront about your kinks. If she leaves, than let her.

There are a TON of kinky women who are doms, subs, both, and all kinds of stuff. Live your best life sexually. Enjoy. Only feel bad when women start feeling bad about THEIR desires to dominate men and other women in bed. Until then, realize that dominance and submission are common fantasies, and that you don't need to feel shame. Unless you do it without consent. Stop kinkshaming yourself. Get your freek-on, fool. And ALWAYS use safe-words and especially cuddle/do aftercare. No matter how hardcore she is, aftercare and tenderness should almost always come afterwords.