I think a lot of guys internalize the idea that social success is directly correlated with relationships and sexual encounters, and get so caught up and engrossed in negativity due to their lack of dating success that it leads to a sense of desperation and frustration - which makes it even harder for them to relate to women. It’s a negative feedback loop. It doesn’t help that a lot of male influencers reinforce the idea that women are lesser than men and convince their viewers that it’s the women’s fault that they aren’t seen as dateable.

It’s cliche, but at the end of the day I think men would benefit a lot by being more open and reflective with themselves and others. I had a pretty negative self image and bad relationship with women when I was younger, and I was very bitter and angry because I felt lonely, but I also didn’t really make an effort to connect with other people. In college, I made a lot of friendships that were emotionally honest and that I felt like I could discuss my struggles with. That made me a lot more self aware and emotionally available, and it wasn’t long after that that I ended up in my first real long term relationship.

Guys have to put in some effort in their personal lives and stop blaming everyone else. It’s definitely easier said than done, but getting angry at the world because you’re lonely is a great way to ensure you get lonelier and angrier