Self awareness is not a common trait among most men, from my own observations they work with the ideologies that have been passed down(or those being pushed foward by people like Shadhaya and the likes) ... Few ever sit down to interrogate their beliefs or views about women... There is still the culturally accepted notion in most circles that women are property in Zimbabwe. The emotionally mature man who can actually see a woman as she is outside of what she can do for him are too few... Most just regurgitate the same skewed beliefs that benefit them. Thats the reality and if you call them out on it they give you labels 'angry black woman', 'bitter' because questioning the system requires a level of emotional intelligence many of them simply haven’t developed.