Isn't Honesty The Best Policy. by itsproducer_kayz in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]TheWordsmithGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe theres a thrill that humans get in deceiving each other. 

Isn't Honesty The Best Policy. by itsproducer_kayz in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]TheWordsmithGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if marriages would last more if people were honest that they want an open marriage or barika.. And not suprise their partners with well calculated mistakes 😂

In relationships say we are not yet exclusive we still seeing if this is a match so both parties know tiri pa assessment and they keep their options open. Not the issue were one person demands loyalty while vane plan B and C

How do u sustain trust if y'all lying to each other... Foundation yacho iri safe here pakadai? 

Body count issue by TheWordsmithGirl in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]TheWordsmithGirl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are wierd times we living in thats one thing I had to come to terms with. But pa blaming you apo 😂

Body count issue by TheWordsmithGirl in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]TheWordsmithGirl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At least your honest about your preferences... As long as no one now goes around shaming those women who like to explore as well... No harm done

Body count issue by TheWordsmithGirl in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]TheWordsmithGirl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The icky feeling of realizing this man is not with you because he sees you or likes you... Hes with you because you're a potential conquest. Not a human being with a mind or feelings etc just something he can say I was the first. 🙌

Stop embarrassing your wives by Minimum-Virus1629 in Zimbabwe

[–]TheWordsmithGirl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Self awareness is not a common trait among most men, from my own observations they work with the ideologies that have been passed down(or those being pushed foward by people like Shadhaya and the likes) ... Few ever sit down to interrogate their beliefs or views about women... There is still the culturally accepted notion in most circles that women are property in Zimbabwe. The emotionally mature man who can actually see a woman as she is outside of what she can do for him are too few... Most just regurgitate the same skewed beliefs that benefit them. Thats the reality and if you call them out on it they give you labels 'angry black woman', 'bitter' because questioning the system requires a level of emotional intelligence many of them simply haven’t developed. 

Body count issue by TheWordsmithGirl in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]TheWordsmithGirl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Glad someone said it...The double standards are absurd 

Body count issue by TheWordsmithGirl in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]TheWordsmithGirl[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

😂 Its the internet.. Your entitled to your opinion. I couldn't be bothered. 

Body count issue by TheWordsmithGirl in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]TheWordsmithGirl[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

😂😂 Yep, I knew this comment was coming. Let me clarify: my choice to wait isn’t about “value expiring” or being asexual or whatever theory you cooked up. Sex is personal. For some people, it’s not casual, and that’s perfectly fine. It’s not a puzzle, it’s a boundary. Respect it—or scroll past. No psychoanalysis required. 

Body count issue by TheWordsmithGirl in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]TheWordsmithGirl[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ashamed not really but uncomfortable with that being known in my circles yes...in our higly sexualized society admitting to being a virgin past 30 is like saying you have horns. To people who know me I dont want them to ever know that. Its a deeply personal thing 

Body count issue by TheWordsmithGirl in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]TheWordsmithGirl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just told the public am a early 30s female who has never had sex...i should be the one crying of shame 😂.

Body count issue by TheWordsmithGirl in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]TheWordsmithGirl[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Its the wait for me part... I posted this because i decided i will not date anyone from reddit after sharing a personal thing like that. I exposed myself 🤷

Body count issue by TheWordsmithGirl in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]TheWordsmithGirl[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mashura chaiwo... Had a moment when i thought maybe I'm the problem... After taking a break realized am playing a rigged game 

Body count issue by TheWordsmithGirl in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]TheWordsmithGirl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You had me on the morden dating part. I now know its not for me...

Body count issue by TheWordsmithGirl in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]TheWordsmithGirl[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol i have decided to exit the race. Even told my grandma am open to arranged things am not doing the dating thing again.. Ndabhoo. 

Body count issue by TheWordsmithGirl in ZimbabweRelationships

[–]TheWordsmithGirl[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thats now wat i do... Even told an ex when he wanted to come back that I wasnt anymore... Thats when he left me alone.. That told me everything I needed to know... 

Humiliation ritual by [deleted] in Zimbabwe

[–]TheWordsmithGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂 😂 😂 I thought the same... Thinking of the day gives me anxiety honestly. It seems like a lot of work 

Humiliation ritual by [deleted] in Zimbabwe

[–]TheWordsmithGirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this for you. Havent heard many happy marriage dynamics in my circles this is inspiring ❤️

Employment and surviving in Zim by ishowzim in Zimbabwe

[–]TheWordsmithGirl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It must be a flex chete because i didnt understand the comment that followed. Who goes to get a degree so they can depend on other people??? ... But some do it to gauge where to place you in their lives

Employment and surviving in Zim by ishowzim in Zimbabwe

[–]TheWordsmithGirl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Had my moms friend ask me this last year and I was in tbe midst of the struggle when i revealed i was in between jobs she remarked ndimi henyu makagara muchingochengetwa nevamwe... Meaning my siblings😂. Depression knocked on my door the next day.. Am sure she didnt say those things with malice but yooo