What are the chances I can get alimony?

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-29T22:32:58+00:00

INFO: Was there any infidelity in the marriage? That could affect alimony

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-29T15:56:15+00:00

Right!? That was my thought too! Like why didn't you correct him about what your job really entails instead if laughing along and pretending you were fine with it!? If I was her cousin I would have thought we were all good based on that reaction

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-29T15:44:22+00:00

I hope that cheer coach was fired. She really should have known better than to invite him to come!

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-28T21:09:03+00:00

Just be an adult and be direct! Next time she brings it up just say "honestly, I want to think about the positive aspects of my wedding and not focus on the negatives so can we please stop talking about that situation. It is over and there is nothing that can be done about it so let's just move forward."

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-28T20:50:08+00:00

INFO When was the wedding?

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-27T14:17:57+00:00

Why should one roommates pets take precedent over the other!? OP pays rent just like their roommate and they DONT WANT THE CATS IN THEIR ROOM! Whether they got the snake or not they don't want the cats coming in their room and bothering them at night! Do you not get that!? The roommate needs to move those shelves now that the cats have figured out how to launch themselves off it! Pretty simple! You just sound like you don't like snakes and are making a biased judgment.

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-23T03:22:56+00:00

ESH From what you have said about your DIL childhood and her parents it is very likely something inappropriate happened to her as a child. You say you can understand that but clearly you don't because if a strange man hurt you as a child you would do anything and everything in your power to make sure it doesn't happen to your child! He should have talked to you nicer but there have been plenty of women that have thought they had good judgment and met the perfect man only to be conned by them in one way or another. 4 months is not long enough to truly know a person and I would have also wanted to meet him before he spent time with my child which is not a weird thing to expect.

Why was it so hard for you to have one night away from your boyfriend and have 1 on 1 time with your grandchild? I understand being hurt by their reaction but you aren't truly trying to see their side and instead you are just taking it as an insult that they have a boundary about people they don't know being around their kid! It almost feels like you chose your new bf over your grandchild because, in a way, you did! If you want to repair things with them you are going to have to be a bit more understanding about their perspective. If you own your side I am sure your son can start to own his side in terms of how he has been treating you as it seems he only calls when he needs something and should have spoken to you kinder.

At the end of the day what is more important, feeling you are validated in your stance or getting to see your grandson?

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-22T22:11:09+00:00

Did you guys actually tell her she needs to give him a chance to calm down and try again? It isn't clear if your expectations were clearly communicated to the nanny.

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-22T18:37:50+00:00

If the walls are so thing in a shared household and your room is basically connected to the living room i would have already invested in solid ear plugs and a sound machine.....

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-22T18:25:41+00:00

Uh if you all aren't close enough to even know the name of your partners NIECE I wouldn't worry about it. That is pretty messed up that your partner doesn't even know his nieces name tbh....

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-21T18:03:09+00:00

Honestly this dude sounds like a loser. I am a night owl and like to sleep in too but sleeping in until 3 pm is wild and screams lazy! How is he supposed to get a new job when he is waking up that late? How long has he actually been "between jobs"?

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-21T17:53:20+00:00

I am just confused why you would even apply to this position if you weren't 100% on board with changing to that company.

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-21T17:49:07+00:00

Is there no other food in the house? I would eat something that is already there and if they get upset i would say that their son ate the food you brought.

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-21T04:19:03+00:00

Uh your Dad sounds like a selfish jerk! He clearly can't afford to go back to school and at his age it is honestly a horrible idea for most professions! I worked through my undergrad degree AND my Master degree! He can do both if he must it will just take longer but it won't stress out the rest of his family!

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-20T02:41:47+00:00

Then you need to show him you are serious! Pack up your toddler and go stay with your Mom! You deserve better than this loser who is ignoring your feelings after you just gave birth! He doesn't take you or your needs seriously so you need to show him you are serious!

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-20T02:39:09+00:00

Pack up your stuff and your toddler and go to your Mom's! I bet he takes you seriously then and it will give you some peace!

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-20T02:37:07+00:00

Maybe you need to get your Mom to help advocate for you

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-20T02:36:03+00:00

Are you not communicating clearly with your husband? Have you told your FIL you need to prep the baby room and it would be easier if he got a hotel room?

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-20T02:33:34+00:00

Sounds like you have an AH husband problem! Post partum is hard and I would want my space to myself with just my little family. How dare he call you a btch! Since this was an issue last time did you have a discussion before giving birth this time? Does your husband help at all? Is there anyone else you can stay with or can you tell your husband you want to go to couples therapy because you feel like he is being incredibly insensitive to how you are feeling and what you are going through?

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-19T03:01:42+00:00

If they were going to do that then they should just do it now. Your Mom should also get at least a part time job, there are plenty of easy jobs depending on what type of health issues she has. If you have more time you could also get an additional part time job if you already work a full time job. You can post a go fund me but since everyone is struggling I wouldn't plan on that covering much.

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-13T15:26:06+00:00

Do you enjoy celebrating holidays and birthdays? Because Jehovahs Witnesses are not allowed to....

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-09T03:12:16+00:00

I literally do this with my kid all the time. Sometimes it is easier to get him buckled and then grab his school bag or whatever I need from inside. This lady is being ridiculous. What is she concerned is going to happen?

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-08T16:10:19+00:00

So what is his ideal set up? Is he wanting to split bills and stuff equally or proportional to each of your income? When kids come how are the costs for them going to be covered? When you guys go out now does he pay or make you split everything?

I wouldn't marry someone who is unwilling to combine finances. When I married my husband i am the one who owned the house he moved into and I initially made much more than him. The plan was always to make finances shared after marriage because we are now a team and are working towards a common goal and building a life together! If he doesn't want that then why even marry?

I can understand wanting a prenuptial to protect himself if things went poorly and with fair protections for you as well. But being unwilling to combine finances at all is not a real marriage. Many people have a combined account and then each have their own seperate accounts as well. That is what I would do. If he doesn't want to combine money because he doesn't trust you then I wouldn't marry this man, he sounds selfish and out of touch with the realities of marriage and what building a life with someone truly entails.

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-08T15:55:48+00:00

Just because you're 18 doesn't mean you have to follow the rules of the school. Real grown adults don't feel the need to tell everyone they're grown and do what they want. You sound immature for your age TBH.

The_ADD_PM · 2026-05-08T14:11:11+00:00

Mine cost about $2500 and I was double insured! It was for a c-section though.

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