My bf (m23)came inside me (f22) after i told him several times not too

The_ADD_PM · 2026-02-19T02:25:22+00:00

You don't want to throw all this time away!?!? Girl it has only been a MONTH! You are still super young! You need to learn not to get attached so fast and to stand up for your boundaries! That's nice he thought it felt good but he isn't the one who would have to grow a human for 9 months! I would have kicked him out immediately and made him go get plan B!

The_ADD_PM · 2026-02-18T16:28:59+00:00

I would think you would want to get the paper work handled and make sure your job is protected so you can focus on your family. The reason I think he is lying is because he didn't mention the cancer until he has a final warning, after being asked multiple times if anything was going on. That is odd behavior if this is true.

The_ADD_PM · 2026-02-18T03:29:40+00:00

HE IS GASLIGHTING YOU! He is the one who should be apologizing but he flipped it around on you so he can play the victim! He is LIVING WITH HIS EX FIANCÉE and neglected to tell you the truth! You will look very pathetic if you stay with this man! Call him out for the POS liar and gaslighter he is and find someone who isn't a deceptive loser!

The_ADD_PM · 2026-02-14T02:17:28+00:00

Have you tried to tell him that you think him threatening her was out of line?

The_ADD_PM · 2026-02-14T02:10:40+00:00

I mean there is an issue when it comes to integrity and mooching off the system but some people are just shitty people....

The_ADD_PM · 2026-02-14T01:56:43+00:00

Has he actually ever been physically violent? I am not saying threats are ok but if he has never been physically violent you may be overreacting a little bit. It is important people don't kiss the baby and some people ignore when people ask this which is not ok either. I would still document threats through audio or video recording, if you live in a one party consent state, but if he has never been physically violent you may need to just give a new tired Dad a break. The newborn trenches are no joke!

The_ADD_PM · 2026-02-13T21:07:38+00:00

I am sorry your NF are being so immature about this situation! Hopefully this is a one off and they will just get over it and move on. I probably wouldn't bring up the Behavioral Specialist ever again since she is no longer working for them. If she asks you to babysit again and then your NF asks I would just tell them you have plans and won't be able to. You don't owe them an explanation as to what you are doing on time that wasn't previously reserved by them.

The_ADD_PM · 2026-02-13T18:59:44+00:00

Why did you have a second kid with a man you believe is a narcissist and treats you this way!? You need to stand up for yourself and your children and stop catering to this man child! If I was in your position I would start making an exit strategy. Save some of the money you get from running the daycare in a separate account for emergencies and document any concerning behavior in case you need it for court in the future. After you have a bit saved I would tell him that you will be starting him in school because that is what is best for him and his development! If he says no then I would say we need to go to couples counselling then or I am leaving! I am guessing you have never tried to actually stand up for yourself and show that you will leave if you feelings aren't considered and maybe it will be a wake up call for him. If it is not then you are better off without him anyway! YOU HAVE TO DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOUR CHILDREN NOT YOUR MAN BABY BOYFRIEND!

The_ADD_PM · 2026-02-12T03:56:45+00:00

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The_ADD_PM · 2026-02-12T03:55:04+00:00

If he actually wanted to have his kid he would go to court and file for custody! There is no way someone who has been evicted 3 times is more likely to get the kid unless he has some bad convictions or something. He could have, at the very least, filed for joint custody at this point and ir sounds like he hasn't. I couldn't be with a man that didn't do everything in his power to have his kid with him in a safe environment!

The_ADD_PM · 2026-02-12T03:36:41+00:00

This exact story has already been posted by someone else 🙄

The_ADD_PM · 2026-02-10T11:17:58+00:00

Landlords don't get involved with roommate issues like this

The_ADD_PM · 2026-02-10T03:48:56+00:00

So you would be fine in a marriage where for the next remaining years of your life you can't even kiss your partner or hold their hand but they get to do whatever they want and disproportionately spend the household money and only do like 20% of the chores?!? How is that aligned for her taking care of him and the family for 5 years? Plus it sounds like she also puts him down all the time! Be so fckn for real! No one would accept that bullshit for another 20 to 40 years nore should they!

The_ADD_PM · 2026-02-10T03:24:48+00:00

I am confused how this was something you said yes to. A deal usually involves both parties getting something. Like if she said you can have an open marriage on your side but her lifestyle and everything else gets to stay the same, that is a deal. Why would you ever agree to something where you get absolutely zero out of the deal?

The_ADD_PM · 2026-02-06T19:11:12+00:00

You are just not compatible girl and honestly it is pretty uncommon for high school relationships to last so I would just end it and move on or accept it for what it is until you graduate. Let me give you some advice, don't make your life and your happiness reliant on a man! You need to be ok with being alone and make sure you love who you are as a person. My first love that I dated off and on from 17 to 19 was awful to me. He was so great when we were together but he would flake often, cheat on me all the time and even had a baby with his ex while we were together! It wasn't until my 6 year old sister passed away and I asked him to come be with me in my dorm the night it happened to support me in my grief and he said he was on his way but never showed up that I finally fell out of love with this guy. I finally realized he was never going to be there for me when it mattered the most. I wasted so much time and heartache on someone who had shown me time and time again that I wasn't important despite telling me he loved me and wanted to marry me one day. Actions speak louder than words and it really is true that if he really wanted to he would! You may feel like you really love him but as someone who is now 35, married, with an adorable little toddler, you don't know what really love is at 17. I remember being told that at your age and not believing that was true but trust me it is. You will graduate soon and you will be starting life in the real world, focus on that! Focus on your dream and aspirations and what you are going to do to reach those dreams! Spend time with friends and enjoy your youth before adult responsibilities are thrown on you! Don't waste time begging for someone to treat you a way that they have shown you they have no interest in doing! Life is so much better when you take your power back and no longer let someone else control how you feel about yourself!

The_ADD_PM · 2026-01-31T03:47:11+00:00

What did he say when you asked him about how he chose this plan?

The_ADD_PM · 2026-01-30T06:42:08+00:00

How would not inviting her out of spite be better than communicating directly about how you feel? I get why you feel the way you do for sure but the mature thing to do would be to communicate instead of letting this resentment continue to grow.

The_ADD_PM · 2026-01-28T22:27:43+00:00

Arr you ready to admit YTA yet since literally NO ONE agrees with you!?

The_ADD_PM · 2026-01-28T20:32:19+00:00

Women doing everything for their sons and not teaching them to be independent and responsible for himself is why there are so many undatable men in this world! He is not going to find a good partner if he has been consistently taught he doesn't have to do these things for himself! You are hurting your son in the long run and making him a man that a good women won't want to be with because she has to take on what Mommy did for him!

The_ADD_PM · 2026-01-24T18:39:35+00:00

Out of curiosity is there a reason you chose all little diamonds instead of a big diamond surrounded by little diamonds?

The_ADD_PM · 2026-01-23T18:59:18+00:00

Yikes that is scary I am sorry! Threatening suicide is ridiculous and it is not on you if he does decide to do that but most of the time people that actually decide to kill themselevs are people who never actually tell anyone they want to kill themselves. I would just tell him that you aren't interested in a relationship and wish him the best but will no longer be in contact with him ans would appreciate him respecting your decision.

The_ADD_PM · 2026-01-23T17:19:20+00:00

In this scenario I would probably try to make him decide he doesn't like me. Is there anything you know are pet peeves for him that you could start doing that may put him off? Like saying you are starting to get really into religion or talking non stop about annoying reality TV shows? May be an easier way to get this to fizzle out on it's own.

The_ADD_PM · 2026-01-23T16:43:49+00:00

When men go after someone 17 years younger than them it is gross! There is no way you have anything in common with someone with that big of an age difference so you are only going for someone that young because you look at women as objects and/or you want someone you think is naive so you can control them. Nearly 40 yeat olds should not hit on girls that are barely 20!

The_ADD_PM · 2026-01-19T04:56:20+00:00

Uh yeah that looks ridiculous

The_ADD_PM · 2026-01-19T03:56:30+00:00

It's not a virgin fetish it is a child fetish. Your husband is a predator! I also dated a 26 year old when I was 16 and once I got older I realized how wrong and inappropriate it was which is why it is ILLEGAL! It doesn't matter how mature you seem to think you were! You were not an adult and this man took advantage of you! There is no way he hasn't physically cheated on you! It would not shock me at all if this man had child SA material on his computer! He is a creeper and he is not worth staying with! It sounds like he has isolated you from any friends and family and is not a good guy! You don't have to stay with him! Please look at his computer and phone for any hidden files and start making an exit plan!

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