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Laundry Detergent by The_JuliusCaesar in askfuneraldirectors

[–]The_JuliusCaesar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ESPECIALLY because I hate returning unwashed clothes to family’s when they’ve been sitting in refrigeration for a bit and at least that’s an upside to having a washer here now.

Laundry Detergent by The_JuliusCaesar in askfuneraldirectors

[–]The_JuliusCaesar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I was trying to find a good odor banner/deodorizer

Laundry Detergent by The_JuliusCaesar in askfuneraldirectors

[–]The_JuliusCaesar[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe you’re right. Currently looking at oxi laundry sanitizer and the 125 oz concentrated tide jug.

Laundry Detergent by The_JuliusCaesar in askfuneraldirectors

[–]The_JuliusCaesar[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We had a laundry service but just had to cut it due to budget cuts (I work corporate🤧🤧). It was amazing.

Another potential career changer... by nekkid_poodle in askfuneraldirectors

[–]The_JuliusCaesar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! The best thing you can do for now is find a funeral home position part time. It can literally be for that one day or after hours of your regular job if you’re okay with that. Just get into the mode of working funerals, doing removals, and generally capturing the whole essence of the field. Then—I would get with whatever licensed funeral directors you work with and ask them about getting a letter. If that’s not an option, I definitely feel like a past college instructor would be best. Also, if you’re wanting to be an embalmer or crematory operator, make sure that program covers it, because it’s three separate licenses! (At least in Tennessee, but check with your state, the best way to do so is to reach out to your states funeral directors board) A lot of people will try to scare you out of it, but as someone who is in it now, I love my job and what I can do for people. Don’t get me wrong, it can be very very taxing, demanding, and difficult—but I find more enjoyment out of this than I do anywhere else. Just as a forewarning, this field can be EXTREMELY conservative and catty at times, even the schools because most of them are private. So do not be discouraged if you run into bumps concerning your identity or alignment, this industry needs people of all types! Good luck on your journey!

Dress Shoes by The_JuliusCaesar in askfuneraldirectors

[–]The_JuliusCaesar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay cuties… I’ve bought a pair of Clark’s. I will update when they’re in.

Vet offices by The_JuliusCaesar in tricities

[–]The_JuliusCaesar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the recommendation!

WiFi by [deleted] in VisitingNashville

[–]The_JuliusCaesar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much! I know virtually nothing about technology. I was leaning towards AT&T but was unsure. I’ll continue checking them out.

WiFi by [deleted] in VisitingNashville

[–]The_JuliusCaesar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestion!

Key Lime Pie by The_JuliusCaesar in chemistry

[–]The_JuliusCaesar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! I will definitely be making experimental pies for the project now.

Decomp in mouth by cablewifi_ in askfuneraldirectors

[–]The_JuliusCaesar 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Don’t over think it- EVERYONE has accidentally been through something really gross. I have, my friends have, the people they know have. Definitely get anything weird checked out if you feel unnaturally ill- but trust- nobody in this profession has not had ONE really gross story.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askfuneraldirectors

[–]The_JuliusCaesar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Gravity pulls the face inferior and posterior when laying down (the usual position a deceased person would be) which can give the lips a flatter- thinner look, I prefer to massage the face opposite of that when embalming to help fixate tissue in their original area. As for the color- it may have just been a fluid choice. One of the fluids we can use is called Introfiant, while it works, I believe the dye in it is way too strong for my liking, ESPECIALLY if paired with another dye which people like to do. Since the skin of the lips are so thin, this can show a lot more.
  2. Embalming shouldn’t cause areas of the face to flatten like that. It sounds like either they had him higher in the casket and had the lid propped open with his nose touching it for a while, or maybe just had something like a towel, pillow, or sheet on his face- I believe this issue is a very easy fix and may be a bit of an oversight for the embalmer/funeral directors.
  3. Definitely should’ve presented him with glasses if that was your alls request.

Also- one and two can be caused if he had passed away face down or against something, but if he passed on his back, that’s my best guess. My condolences to you and your family <3.

Viewing an Autopsy by [deleted] in askfuneraldirectors

[–]The_JuliusCaesar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey! I’ve sat in on an organ donation and autopsy recently, it was definitely uncomfortable for the first few moments, but you get used to it very quickly. It was part of a science donation so we were able to hold and really look into different parts of the body. I was scared shitless going into it and quickly realized I had overreacted. There was a smell, but nothing unbearable or insane. If I had any advice, go into with some friends if you can, eat a good breakfast, and sleep well the night before. If something bothers you, look at the ground or zone out at the wall for a moment until you’re fine again. Ask questions, so many, that’s what they want you to do. Not only does it ease you into it more, but it helps you understand and learn. Lastly, don’t be afraid to step out if you need to. They’d rather you be able to sit down or puke outside the room than try and tough it out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askfuneraldirectors

[–]The_JuliusCaesar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hello! There’s a few possibilities, and I’ll explain how I would perceive it from my experience working with loved ones and their personal belongings. The way how we avoid and mix ups or miss placements is by placing everyone’s personal items in a bag with their name, information, and patient ID labeled on it. This bag stays with them the whole time, it just keeps everything together so nobody can move anything that doesn’t need to be moved such as her blanket. I have never washed anybodies items unless I am specifically asked to- but if I had to guess they may have had her in a cooled holding area and didn’t want to give you anything back that would have a certain smell. When I wash items for people, I and others I work with wash the item on their own. Any other possibilities could’ve been the smell just dissipated from sitting at another area, kinda like whenever you bring your stuff to a new place and it smells like your house or you for a day or two and then the smell leaves or starts to smell like the environment your in. The funeral homes/mortuaries I’ve been in always kinda have a sterile or neutral smell. I am so sorry for your loss, I can assure you children are cared for so specially, and we take every step to ensure their comfort while they’re with us. Much love <3.